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... Send *uperbunny a private message | | | *uperbunny's profile:I am a strong believer in "treat people as you wish to be treated" - because at the end of the day everyone just wants their beliefs, thoughts and lives to be respected and treated with a bit of dignity. Plus, I'm sick of people trying to force their beliefs on other people - sexuality, religious... I wonder where this desire to interfere in other people's lives came from?!?
I also am a great believer in karma. My greatest belief in this comes from the amount of people who cheat in relationships who then find it hard to trust people - shot yourself in the foot there, sunshine!
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Divorced Parents & Graduation: Advice please?
Q. Hey all, I have a bit of a family dilemma.. It is my graduation in September and my parents are both to attend, but I would also like my grandparents (dads parents) there too as I am very close to them. My mum is not happy with this as there is...
A. 20 May 2011: Thank you very much for answering! My brother is happy to come and my brother and mum will be staying over whereas my Dad and Grandparents are travelling back after. :) Thanks xxx... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family and friends about my BF without shocking them too much??
Q. I recently got together with a guy who I really care for and like. He's like THE guy I've always wanted my bf to be like and the feeling's mutual for him as well. I enjoy the chemistry we share and I've never been more thankful to have met a guy ...
A. 20 May 2011: Your parents will only want you to be happy and if they can see this guy makes you happy then they will grow to like him with time or they may like him straight away :)
As for your friends, the same goes. It's not about what someone looks like or ... (read in full...)
Does body odor matter when you feel chemistry for someone?...
Q. This might sound weird but... do you guys think the smell is part of feeling chemistry with someone? LOL ok, well a guy doesn't have to necessarily smell "bad", but isn't true that when you feel chemistry with someone, their body smell drives you ...
A. 20 May 2011: I think I read somewhere that the smell women smell to find men sexually attractive is so subconcious that you wouldn't be able to pinpoint it (if that makes sense?) so you wouldn't be able to be like "Joe smells of roses," but your animal instinct ... (read in full...)
Where did you have sex when you were a teensger so your parents wouldn‘t catch you?
Q. Where did you have sex when you were a teenager so your parents wouldn‘t catch you?...
A. 20 May 2011: In my bedroom, when they were out, haha!
Can I ask why you are asking? x... (read in full...)
I miscarried and it was HER fault!!!!
Q. recently i fell pregnant now im only 14 so initially i was freaking out about it. i had told my boyfriend and he was going to support me on wanting to keep the baby. i told my best friend everything and she was happy for us although i never told my ...
A. 15 March 2011: I wouldn't tell her. I think perhaps if you are upset by what has happened you subconsciously think that informing her of what has happened will ease your sadness but then you will be disappointed when you will find it doesn't.
I highly doubt he... (read in full...)
I know its my fault but I'm not in love with my wife anymore
Q. Hi there, I am 40 years old married for 17 years, I have had an affair 2 years ago there was no sex involved but still it was serious. My wife and I split up for 6 months my wife forgave me and we are trying again. Problem now is I love my wif...
A. 15 March 2011: If you are not happy and fighting lots this marriage may be past it's peak.
I witness my parents break up a few years ago and I could see it coming for about a year off and they said the exact same thing you have. They love each other, but are ... (read in full...)
Would you rather be single, or with someone you don't know is lying to you about having cheated on you?
Q. Is it better to be alone or in a relationship with someone who has betrayed you in the past by cheating, and who continues to lie about having been faithful and committed throughout the relationship? Is it true that what you don't know, can't really ...
A. 15 March 2011: Single. Hands down. If you can't trust what they say, be it lies or the truth, then there is 100% no point in a relationship. Overthinking and dwelling on things will lead to unhappiness and the break down of the relationship anyway.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 4 years hit me and I feel desperate, please help!
Q. My bf hit me because I made a bad comment about his mum because I was angry. He hit me, spat on me, told me he hated me and didn't want me, he even said he couldn't get his p**** up for me because he didn't want me. He has said all these things ...
A. 10 March 2011: Do not go anywhere near him. Do not call him. If he comes back grovelling on his hands and needs, shut the door in his face. You, nor the hundreds of women who tolerate this kind of treatment from men, do not deserve to be treated like this. You are ... (read in full...)
He's distanced himself from me since I asked if we could move in together...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we are very close and I thought it was time to ask him to move in with me so i did but its only worked the other way, we see less and less of each other since i asked. Is it because he doesnt ...
A. 10 March 2011: A year isn't that long to move in together really. He's probably just creeped out a bit, some men get spooked by this kind of thing.
The best thing you can do is call him and just explain you didn't mean to spook him and that you felt it was the ... (read in full...)
Would a woman really lead someone on knowing they were taking the piss out of me for a laugh, or is this my low self confidence
Q. I would love some advice on a situation I have at the moment. Not long ago, I moved to a new area and have got myself a job and really settled well. Since starting I have noticed a girl at work who I really like and get on with. Not long after ...
A. 10 March 2011: I don't think she's doing it to laugh at you. It sounds like she is attracted to you, if there's chemistry, which it sounds like there is, there's no denying it.
She is seeking comfort in you, by talking to you about her bad home life. She may ... (read in full...)
What did he mean by his comment?
Q. ok, maybe some of you can decipher this. what does it mean while having sex, your boyfriend grabs your thigh, squeezes it and says, this is what I want not some stick. I'm not fat, but I'm not a stick either. it totally took me out of the mood and i ...
A. 10 March 2011: I'd take that a compliment - he wants to be having sex with a woman, not a bony girl! :) xxxx... (read in full...)
Bye... talk to you later!
Q. My boyfriend's job has picked up a lot which is good but now when i text him and I am done talking i usually say bye or talk to you later to end the conversation but it drives me nuts if he doesn't say bye back or something. Should I just tell him ...
A. 10 March 2011: Without sounding too harsh, I think you need to calm down a bit! He's still talking to you, him just saying bye is just guys being guys. He's busy with work, he may not think of little things. Don't read to much into the lack of a salutation!
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I'm so guilty that I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. A few days ago, I slept with a male friend while my husband was out of town visiting relatives. It only happened, once, i swear, and I did not intend for it to happen. I didn't set out looking to cheat, it's something that just happened. We'd had a ...
A. 8 September 2009: A point I would like to raise, is if your husband did forgive you - you'd be more likely to do it again because you would not have received the necessary punishment for betraying the trust in your marriage.
I think I'd tell him and take the cons... (read in full...)
Broke up with the guy who was my best friend. I can't sleep!
Q. Hi! My best friend also happens to be my exbf. I have deeper feelings for him than I could ever imagine, especially being in high school. We broke up 4 months ago and I'm still a mess over it. I've dated a few guys since, but I couldn't get very emo...
A. 8 September 2009: Without sound like an old bumbling fool (Not that I'm THAT much older than you) you are far too young to be worrying about those kinds of things - you say you went out with him and dated a few guys in the months that have followed? Give yourself a ... (read in full...)
What did I do to make this guy back away? Everything seemed so perfect!
Q. I was in a bad car wreck in April i had just broke up with my ex boyfriend about three weeks later. The relationship i was in before was horrible very abusive. I almost died thats how bad the wreck was. Once i was able to see my friends, i met ...
A. 8 September 2009: Okay, don't get me wrong I am exceptionally fond of the opposite sex both on a relationship and friendship level - but it is a given that most guys know exactly what to say to have girls eating out of the palm of their hands, especially when the ... (read in full...)
I don't think my girlfriend is ready to commit to this relationship!
Q. Hello everyone, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months and its been the best 10 months of my life. I am 18 years old and she is 17. The problem is, for the past 5 weeks she has been burying underlying problematic thoughts in her ...
A. 8 September 2009: I have been in a similar situation to your girlfriend and sadly, and I don't mean to depress you AT ALL, I just had to break free - I was with the same guy from the age of 16 to 18 and at the start it was lovely but by the end I just felt trapped; ... (read in full...)
I don't want to mess with him if he has a g/f but I really like him
Q. So, I'm going to start from the beginning. Last year, when I was in tenth grade, I changed schools (didn't move far away or anything, just changed schools) and I met this boy. He's good friends with one of my best friends (who I've known since ...
A. 6 September 2009: You're going to have to swallow your nerves and just talk to him again: perhaps suggest doing something together if you have a lot in common. There's nothing else you can do I'm afraid. But if his friendship means a lot to you, it'll be worth it. : ... (read in full...)
Do other people keep secrets from their parents?
Q. just out of curiousity, do lots of other ppl keep keep many secrets from their parents? i have been in a relationship with a guy for almost a year and a half now and we were very close friends before. i can't tell my parents anything about it ...
A. 6 September 2009: I have never kept boyfriends from my parents because they've always been fine with me having them and I think they'd rather be open if there was a problem so I could go to them rather than feel I had to hide things and so they could help with my ... (read in full...)
I can't tell if he just looks at all girls or me or what?
Q. I got a crush on this guy at work and there is some kind of chemistry between us.. which is pretty much visible i guess since one of my coworker asked me discreetly if we had something going on. We are always joking, teasing each other and ...
A. 6 September 2009: As a male, and this is by no means derogatory to the male gender, they notice attractive girls. One of my male friends tried to explain this to me - he was saying he notices attractive girls even though he is in an extremely loving, trusting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me I am loose "down there" what am I supposed to do?
Q. Before my bf i had little sex. When we started to have sex he would always say how it made him feel good that i was so tight it made him happy i didn't sleep around. Now, 2 years later i am not so tight anymore. We have sex quite a bit. He is ...
A. 25 July 2009: There is no way you can be as "loose" as he is saying you are. Sure you will not be the same way as you were when you were a virgin, but he's making you sound like a sixty year old women!
I'd ditch him if I were you, he sounds like a complete... (read in full...)
How do I stop lying and just end this?
Q. I have been with my bf for 5 years. Over the past year or so my feelings for him have really changed. I can't pin point exactly when it happened or what caused it, but I don't want to be with him anymore. Everytime I hug him, kiss him or we have ...
A. 24 July 2009: You're not being fair on your boyfriend if you stay with him just because you're too chicken to be single or end it. If he can sense it, he's probably not too happy either with how you are acting towards him.
People can't develop things properly... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend started calling me names and being horrible?
Q. hey guys (: ive been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months now, weve generally been really happy together although he is rather prone to mood swings (a couple of times we almost ended the relationship over them). recently we spent a week together...
A. 22 July 2009: Doesn't sound like you're happy, and therefore you shouldn't really be in this relationship - but as I am not a robot, I can understand it's not that easy!
He shouldn't be mean to you and you must not tolerate this bullying behaviour - nip it i... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's almost 18, and I'm nervous about his 'needs'
Q. I am 14 years old and I fell in love with a 17 year old boy. We met at school and we even kissed once. We are considering being together. I know my friend's views but I'd like to hear from people who aren't biased. He is about to turn 18, which ...
A. 22 July 2009: The first thing I always say in relationship problems is don't take into acocunt what other people think or feel, it's your decision.
If you're worrying about what he wants sexually already then I wouldn't go any further with it. If he's not as n... (read in full...)
When we met up she was all over me, but now she isnt replying to my texts! What should I do now?
Q. I have known I have been gay for about a year or so, and I have had gay flings wtc but ive never been in a sexual relationship with a girl. I started talking to a girl (friend of a friend) about two months ago, and we were talking and texting loads. ...
A. 22 July 2009: When you say all over you do you mean just exceptionally friendly? Because most girls feel more comfortable and open around gay guys (if she doesn't know you are she may be able to sense it - us girls are clever, you know!!) than straight guys - ... (read in full...)
Do you think my sexual history is bad?
Q. Just looking for opinions if you think my sexual history is bad. im 19 nearly 20. before my bf i have had sex with 4 guys, all of whom i was in a relationship with or had strong feelings for. In about 4 years i have hooked up (made out) with about ...
A. 22 July 2009: It's not for your boyfriend to judge you, he should love you for where you are NOW - not what (or who!) you have done!
I can tell you my sexual history is probably considered "worse" than yours but as long as you were both cosenting parties,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accuses me of flirting when I was at an industry networking event! Will this type of man ever change?
Q. I am an event management student, and our teacher organises frequent visits to exhibitions and conferences. this is a great way for us to network with industry professionals. today was the australian event business expo and was a great opportunity ...
A. 22 July 2009: He's just jealous - sweetie!!
When he gets used to the idea he'll probably come round a bit, jealousy can often be a sign of insecurity. Just make sure you make him feel secure that HE'S the want that you want - even talk down a bit about the peop... (read in full...)
Does it sound like something happend between my boyfriend and his ex?
Q. Can I ask for your advice? Can you give me your opinion on this: Boyfriend said he wanted to do his OWN thing at home on Saturday night. I tried to call him that night, no answer. Tried again, a while later, no answer. I'd text and ask what he'...
A. 22 July 2009: Hello sweetie,
First of all, he should've told you what he was up to if you asked and you have every right to be angry about this. Although, it is a matter of trust if you choose to believe if something has happened between them or not.
However... (read in full...)
How many sleeping partner have you had
Q. Hi im doing a survey about how many sleeping partners (vaginal or anal) you or anyone you know, GF/BF etc, has had? Plz also state how sure you are of yours and your partners number! Plz be honest as there's no need to lie because you can just put...
A. 8 February 2009: I'm from the UK, female, 19 & have slept with 9 men.... (read in full...)
How do I invite her to my house?
Q. a friend of mine keeps askin me to "not forget to invite her to my place". Its 3rd time now, few other hints i got too. I want to invite her round but i don't know how to ask. Every reason just sounds weird. Any suggestions?...
A. 8 February 2009: Could you not just say something like "do you wanna hang out sometime?" or suggest watching a movie or before a night out you could get together and have some drinks or something? (:
Just pluck up the courage! (:
Hope this helps.
xx... (read in full...)
How can I cheer up my man-hating friend on V-Day?
Q. i want to cheer up my friend who thinks all guys are evil. I've been there for her, and she just gets hurt by her bf's. She is now single, Valentines day coming up and i just want to make it special for her. What could i get her? I also need to ...
A. 8 February 2009: Just do something really normal. Like just hang out for the day or go to the cinema; try to get more mates along for it so it doesn't feel like a date.
I'm single and the thing I'm doing for Valentine's Day? Completely forgetting the day as it's ... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 3 February 2009: This site definately needs to win an award. I'm not ass kissing, but it simply is such a good site with some lovely people on it with some great advice!!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum my 15 year old sister had sex?
Q. Hey, I recently wrote the article below but am now wondering if I should tell my mum that my sister had sex? I feel as though I should because I can't lie to my mum about my sister having had sex. I know my mum would get rather angry but she mi...
A. 2 February 2009: To be honest, if all your mother is going to do is get angry at your sister - I don't really see the point in her knowing. If your sister was pregnant, I would understand, but no harm has come from her having sex at the end of the day.
It would be... (read in full...)
Men making noise during sex
Q. To all the ladies out there, what do you think about men making noice during sex? Turn on or a turn off?...
A. 2 February 2009: I like panting - panting is good. ;)
I like noise when they come but too much is frightening.. Haha! xx... (read in full...)
Does period pain get less as you get older???
Q. Me and my sister get really bad period pain and we just sit around forlike 1 or 2 days and we always know when the other persons got her period, but I never know if moms got hers. I mean she doesn't like lay around all day or anything. I just wan...
A. 2 February 2009: I don't know if the pain gets any less worse, but perhaps you learn to tolerate it more?
Also, if your mom is on the pill that can sometimes stop period pains.
I started mine when I was 13, felt nothing and now they're worse than they were t... (read in full...)
I kiss a lad and now he doesn't talk to me
Q. me n me bf been going out for 5 months now. he hardly tlks to me and when he does tlk to me its usually about sex or me leaving him. I dnt wnt us to split up because I love this guy. He always ust to tell me he loves me but now he dunt he dunt ...
A. 2 February 2009: I'm only 3-5 years older than your goodself, sweetie, but one thing you have to learn quickly is that you can't let guys mess you around.
I know lovely, gorgeous girls who chase around guys who are not even half their standard.
He should tre... (read in full...)
Broken hearted and can't seem to mend
Q. the story is....i was with my ex for 7months, i was and still am head over heels for him, we are still good friends and i get on with the family really well. i was fine with the fact that we arnt togeather anymore, but a new girl has come on the ...
A. 2 February 2009: Sweetie, you're just gonna have to grit your teeth and see this through - he's moved on and so should you. Admittedly, he shouldn't run to you when everything goes wrong, it's wrong of him to do this but only you can tell him no.
Anyway, do you r... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I know that she's having an affair?
Q. i know my wife is havingan affair with a man where she works, should i tell her that i know?...
A. 23 November 2008: It depends if you intend to stay with her and get on with things. If you can cope with this by yourself and just wait for the affair to die down AND you want to stay with her, it would probably be wise not to say anything that could cause a conflict ... (read in full...)
How do you think my friend feels? He often mentions we slept together in the past.
Q. So i have a good friend who i slept with twise. A realationship at the time was off the cards, as we are two different people. We talked every day - via email,net or txt. We stoped talking to each other for about 6 months, my excuse for this w...
A. 23 November 2008: To be honest with you, sounds like you two are getting on famously!
I can tell he likes you, but perhaps a relationship would be better rather than just sex if he lives with you because that could make it really awkward the next day!
Hope it... (read in full...)
I just can't get over his past, am I being paranoid?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and things were great, but we have recently started arguing all the time because of his past. I know it was before he met me but I cant get over it. His ex had an abortion which I'm extremely against, he ...
A. 22 November 2008: To be honest, I think you've just got to "test the water" so to speak. If you believe he's changed you've got to go on your instincts. It's unfair to bring up in an argument something that someone did before you even knew them or were associated ... (read in full...)
I can't go out with him as I can't do that to my parents.
Q. I am a muslim girl and 15 years old. This might sound stupid, but please read the whole story. 2 years ago I met this boy. I never liked anypne before, and wasn't very intrested in having a boyfriend but he was different. I started liking h...
A. 22 November 2008: Maybe you could talk to your parents about the issue? That's the only way to resolve it.
It's never a good idea to go behind your parents' backs when you still live at home with them - they will find out somehow & mums can read us like books!! ... (read in full...)
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