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My 'best friend' keeps flirting with my boyfriend!

Q. Ok, i have a big problem with my bestfriend! Recentley ive started dating this guy that i REALLY like and he really likes me. Well Today at break my boyfriend came to meet me like he usually does, and we were in the middle of a conversa...

A. 25 June 2008: Call her out. You could give her the benefit of the doubt and be nice but tell her what she does and how it makes you feel. Ask her to stop. A true friend will reform and wont mess up again if it truely was unintentional... (read in full...)

STD question! Please help!

Q. I've been wondering this probably for about a few weeks now. I had anal sex with my boyfriend and I know for a fact he's clean. He's shown me papers. I know I'm clean because I too have also had a test. If both of us are clean is it still possible ...

A. 25 June 2008: no... if ur clean, ur clean... (read in full...)

To trust or not to trust..... when someone lies to you is it always a red flag or can it be a 1 time genuine mistake?

Q. Alright.... this post is simular to another one I have.... but I need to know how to go about regaining trust. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man but lately we hit a bumb and I can't seem to get over it. Here is the backstory.... Not lo...

A. 25 June 2008: Okay... I really have turned over a new leaf... I have began healing and rebuilding trust. THEN.... who texts my bf today.... his EX It was really nothing... just needing to get a number of his friends & my BF says he isn't even going to de... (read in full...)

He texted his ex on her birthday, Valentines, and other occasions...what's the deal!?

Q. HELP! I was just checking thru my phone bill and found that my boyfriend of three years still has some contact with his x-financee - He has texted her or called on her b-day. valentines day. new years eve, before he and I went to Jamaica with his ...

A. 25 June 2008: I've been in a simular situation.... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/to-trust-or-not-to-trust-when-someone.html Whenever you want to talk private email me!... (read in full...)

How do I convince him I will change? How can I get him back?

Q. My boyfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago and I really can't let go. We've only been dating 3 months but I felt a huge connection with him. Maybe it was because he was older (i'm 22, he's 34), or maybe its because of something deeper. But the ...

A. 24 June 2008: Hun.... I am 23 and I'm in a relationship with a 37yr old man. Let me say... age doesn't matter that much. The thing you need to realize however is that he has had much more experience than you and he isn't going to put up with the stupid, peddy ... (read in full...)

How do I break up with my violent boyfriend?

Q. How do I break up with my boyfriend? Bear in mind: 1. He really really loves me and this'll break his heart 2. I cheated on him, he doesn't know yet and I don't know if I should tell him because he said he'd kill me if I cheated 3. He gets viol...

A. 24 June 2008: Alright.... been here... My advice would be to yes break it off and to do it in a public place. I know that seems cliche but it is the easiest and also the best way since he can be violent. ...Ask him to meet you for lunch or whatnot. Also,... (read in full...)

My wife and I are at odds, over her continued contact with her ex and his family? Any input?

Q. My wife had an abusive alcoholic father, and unsupportive mother in her teens. As a result, she moved out right after high school, and got married to this guy she was dating for only 6 months. Well, they were only married for less than 1 year and ...

A. 20 June 2008: THis is a hard question....Fact is, he was with her during a rough time in her life and sometimes those hardships bond ppl together. In a way, although he may have been a jerk, he was an important person in her life considering the circumstances. ... (read in full...)

So I get friendly texts from a few women friends... I can't understand why my wife makes a big deal of it!

Q. My wife and I just separated and I can't make sense of it. We had the best relationship but a couple of years ago I got close (not sexual) with someone else, mainly lots of sexy texts/e mails and a couple of dates- when my wife was pregnant and ...

A. 19 June 2008: This hits close to home... I'm going through something simular w/ the man I love. I caught him texting his ex in a rather flirtatious way. It was a short period of time and nothing happened but I'm still haunted with the "What ifs" and I wonder... ... (read in full...)

So I get friendly texts from a few women friends... I can't understand why my wife makes a big deal of it!

Is a blow job for a groom a tradition?

Q. Hey sisters and brothers Just a funny one Just spoke to some friends ... bullshitting .. question was DO you think its a tradition for a GROOM to get blown at a bachelore party??? 95%guys said YES! So, how do you guys feel over here? J...

A. 19 June 2008: having oral sex with someone before you get married even at a bachelor party would be a deal breaker. ... (read in full...)

To trust or not to trust..... when someone lies to you is it always a red flag or can it be a 1 time genuine mistake?

A. 19 June 2008: Okay.... here is an answer to some of your questions. BTW, thanks for the feedback He did delete her number and she has since contacted him which he has told me about. I hope that was the last time too. He is not a mean person so I don'... (read in full...)

To trust or not to trust..... when someone lies to you is it always a red flag or can it be a 1 time genuine mistake?

A. 18 June 2008: Uncle Phil.... thanks, I appriciate your advice.... (read in full...)

To trust or not to trust..... when someone lies to you is it always a red flag or can it be a 1 time genuine mistake?

A. 18 June 2008: I appriciate any feedback I get but if you are going to read... please read it all. Yes it is a bit lengthy but it is important to me. Without reading it all... you may not see the whole picture... ... (read in full...)

Please take the time to read this, I know it is long but it's important to my relationship.

Q. Please take the time to read this, I know it is long but it's important to my relationship Ok well where do I start... I'm sorry if bits and pieces of this don't make sense, but bear with me, I am writing this as she is leaving the house becaus...

A. 18 June 2008: I agree with everyone here. You seemed to give her the world and she walked all overn you. This is more than a trust issue, it's a consideration issue. She shouldn't have walked out if there was really nothing going on... (read in full...)

My gf checks out her ex's web profile pics and ebay account! She says she's just "letting go" - should I believe her?

Q. I have dated a woman, age 28 for the past 10 months. We moved in together in March. Before this, she had another boyfriend in another city whom she kept in touch with until we 'fell in-love" I was told that there was no communication after...

A. 18 June 2008: hard to say. I'm dealing with trust issues of my own. My question would be .... what exactly does 'letting go' mean? Are there still feelings there.... or what. In a perfect world none of us would have to deal with this but the truth is we all ... (read in full...)

Are we liying to cover up something bigger?

Q. Do our lies covering up something bigger? I have lived with a women for about a year. Over the duration of this period, we have both either stayed in contact with or made new acquaintences of the opposite sex. We both reassure one another that...

A. 18 June 2008: hard question since it is clear you are both doing it. I'm in a situation that is or at least was one sidded and I will say.... from a girls perspective, I want to be w/ him... I love him! But Knowing how to gain trust back or knowing if I should ... (read in full...)

Is this texting cheating?

Q. I recently found my boyfriends phone bill hidden and after looking through it i noticed that just weeks after our baby was born he was constantly texting a number whilst he was at work. The were 41 texts to this number and lasted for 6 days then ...

A. 18 June 2008: tricky. guess it depends on the content of the message but either way it's at least in the grey area. I'm in a simular situation.... I caught him texting his ex-fiance. (The broke up almost 2 yrs before him and I got toghether and although... (read in full...)