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writes:Im at the point where i cant take anything no more and i want to know how i can stop from feeling like this. Well i have been through a lot of stuff mostly just being abused by men sexually physically and mentally and i have had enough. I live with my father and my boyfriend but they dont understand the pain and suffering i have been going through and just leave me in a room by myself to go over all the thoughts that just wont go.I can not keep trying to just forgive and forget, knowing the men that hurt me got away with it, and to make things worse my boyfrnd has adhd and hits yells in my face calls me cry baby retard and stupid f*ck and throws stuff at me then appoligises saying 'some times i just black out, you know? Having no adhd tablets does that to me' and he wont even go get them so to me its an excuse. How do i stop feeling like a f*ck doll cross punching bag, change my life and be happy again like i was before my 6th bday, (it has been that long since i have been truly happy, im now 19) i missed some facts as im sure u dont want to sit there reading for hours. I know there are people that have it worse then me, its just so tough Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Counsellings not for me, i cant talk about it much with out crying and i dont like crying in front of people, i just play every day like im all good then at night when my boyfriends asleep i just cry all night, he doesnt know and i just watch him sleep and think its also got to be hard on him when i get in that dont want to talk mood and snappy, plus i have to also consider the fact hes mums broke her back, had half her spine removed and confined to bed. That can also be what is causing stress on him too. Im stuck on what to do and where to turn
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reader, rcn  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 First ADHD can be frustrating, but really isn't an anger disorder. I think he may have an attached disorder or a subtype connected to his ADHD.
Some people have it worse than you, but that doesn't make what's happening to you any better, or okay that it's taking place.
(1) Get rid of the boyfriend. You don't deserve, nor are you required to be in a relationship with someone abusive.
(2) Find your own place, or a friend you can stay with, who you trust. Get away from the abuse. How can you heal yourself and be happy, if you are exposed to what you are trying to heal from.
(3) Get into a counseling program.
Healing from this comes from two directions. First overcoming the past. But more importantly is to rebuild your sense of self. You have the right to be happy, and nobody, parent or not has the right to take that away from you.
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reader, hibiscus  +, writes (12 March 2009):
Hi,
please try to seek counseling. I think it would really help you. You need to express your feelings in a non-intrusive, non-judgmental way and I feel that counselling will help you.
Please pm me if you need to talk
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