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Woman like bad boys??
Q. Hi. I was wondering about all the myths out there about women love a "bad boy" or a "jerk." Can this possibly be true over someone who is down to earth and nice instead of cocky and rude?...
A. 15 September 2009: When I was young and silly, I liked bad boys. Now I know better, bad boys are not attractive to me. I have a lot of friends who have never like bad boys and only liked quality guys.
Why do you ask?
If you're a nice guy, just be you. There ar... (read in full...)
Will a 20 year old get in trouble for dating a 14 year old girl?
Q. What trouble could a 20yr old male get in for dating a 14yr old girl even if both familys are happy with this and give them there full support?...
A. 3 September 2009: prison.... (read in full...)
I feel really ashamed of myself.. how can I get over this event?
Q. Last weekend was the worst weekend of my life. I went to a concernt Friday and Saturday night (same band). I have been in contact with one of the crew guys and we were going to get together after the shows. Friday he ditched me, no biggy because ...
A. 27 August 2009: Hey there,
You're not the first to make this kind of mistake so don't beat yourself over it. You made a big mistake and yes, you were naive to think he wanted you when off course he only wanted sex.
I think you should take time to examine how ... (read in full...)
He's 18 I'm 14, can he go to jail?
Q. I am currently talking to a 18year old and i am 14 and i would like to know if He could go to Jail??...
A. 21 August 2009: If he sleeps with you, YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS.... (read in full...)
I've been left broken hearted... do I stay at his place as 'friends' or leave?
Q. Hey all from broken heart, Yesterday my boyfriend broke up with me , and he clarified to me that he doesn’t want me anymore, I live in his place since 8 months He told me to move , I am destroyed , exhausted , dying , Today I talked to him ...
A. 10 August 2009: Don't make a fool out of yourself. He dumped you and asked you to move out. Do just that. Move on with your life. I know its hard but you'll be proud of yourself later in life. Find somewhere else to go and begin your journey of getting over him ... (read in full...)
I've found out my wife is a slut
Q. Hello everyone. I'm 20 years old and my wife is 33 as of August 2, 2009. I just found out Saturday night August 8, 2009, that, well what I believe is a slut. She told over her 32 years of living she has had, 14 sexual partners. Some were one night ...
A. 10 August 2009: We all have a past. The big question is, is she still exhibiting sluttish behavior. If she is, then you might opt for a divorce. If not, then let it go, it's her past. If her vagina is wide, maybe suggest kegel exercise, that will help strengthen ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this? Found supervisor naked with my husband!
Q. My workmate was staying with us after a party and when i had gone to bed she seduced my husband-i came down stairs to find them both naked. the following morning i didnt mention it to her as i was in shock. My hubby and i have discussed it and are ...
A. 10 August 2009: You have to ignore it and pretend it never happened. You didn't address it the morning after, so don't address it now. Just be professional with her and leave it at that. Sorry for what you're going thru. I've been cheated on but never with someo... (read in full...)
He's never shown signs that he was interested but all of a sudden he gave me a hug!
Q. Hi, I am new to this forum and would really appreciate some help. I am attracted towards a man whom I know for more than 2 years, I can tell that there is a spark between us. However, until now we have been like friends. He has never touched me...
A. 6 August 2009: I wouldn't make anything out of a hug. If you've been friends for two years and a hug is all you have, then there's nothing between you and him.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is this me or is it moving to fast?
Q. I have a good friend and his wife left him four months ago and they were together for 12 years. For three months he begged her to take him back. As far as I know, he didn't do anything bad and this break-up was out of the blue. He met a girl 4 ...
A. 4 July 2009: It's not you, it is moving fast. Most men who have been in a long term relationship usually jump into another. Sit down and talk to him, voice your concern and it might help.... (read in full...)
Period problems and "spotting"
Q. I need help! i recently i had been spotting for about four days, then it stopped for about three days, and now i am bleeding heavily! I dont know what is wrong with me. :( can anybody help me?...
A. 4 July 2009: You need to see your doctor or gyno, she/he will be able to help you. ... (read in full...)
He says I'm hotter than his wife and we have sex, what should I do?
Q. We see each other whenever we can, he calls me beautiful and says im hotter than his wife and hasn't seen anyone hotter than me. He speaks to me nearly everyday and everytime we see each other we have sex in his car, i really like him and want him...
A. 4 July 2009: How old are you? You sound like you are 12yrs old, no offense.
You are having an affair with a married man. He has to tell you you're hotter than his wife so you can keep giving him the goodies. If he has to tell you, he gets paid a lot of money... (read in full...)
Help, I need to know... Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
Q. I have found a text message on my boyfriend's mobile phone. From a woman who has cropped up many a time in our past 2 years together. it said 'i miss you, i want you, I need you'. Is he cheating? Should I confront him? Is there any way that thi...
A. 29 June 2009: You say this woman had cropped up many times in your relationship. You've found a message from your boyfriend to her saying he loves her, and then now her to him, saying she misses and needs him. There's definitely something going on, and it had ... (read in full...)
Do you think my partner swings both ways?
Q. Me and my partner have been with each other for a year and a half and have just had a baby together. When he Is on his own at home he always goes on a certain shemale website. I've looked on there and I was nearly sick, I've said in jest to him t...
A. 28 June 2009: YES HE IS. No straight guy watches and enjoys shemale porn. I think he already admitted it to you when you asked him. Don't keep asking him coz you already know. Now you need to decide if this is something you want. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Tried everything but can't seem to shift this weight! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi, its not relationship advice i want, and i dunno weather i should be asking on here. but im really gettin frustrrated now! im 17, and im just over 14 stone, im a size 14 clothes, 36DD boobs and im fat. i hate it! ive tried every diet going, im ...
A. 28 June 2009: Go and see a nutrionist. You might be eating empty calories. A nutrionist will guide you in the right direction. And remember weight loss takes time. good luck... (read in full...)
She told the guy I love that I'm getting married but it's not true. What should I do?
Q. my best friend told the person that i love am getting married this summer and its not true and he hasnt spoken to me since then until yesterday he sent me a message saying : congratulations for marriage and wished me happiness , i have no idea ...
A. 25 June 2009: I agree with Rifraf, this girl is not your friend. Ask her why she lied to him, if she gives you honest and good response, then continue with your friendship, but if she lies and tells you something stupid, then let her go. Her actions are ... (read in full...)
He masturbates to my cousin's naked pics! I'm so angry about this..am I over reacting?
Q. I have a 20 year old cousin who works as a model. Recently I found my husband keeps naked pictures of her in his sock drawer. We see her at family gatherings and I'm scared he will want to have an affair with her. She flirts a lot with him but ...
A. 24 June 2009: You're not over-reacting, I, too, would be livid. Maybe it's just a fantasy for him, although it's too close to home. I suggest you get a third party to handle this, like a pastor or counselor. He doesn't see it the way you do, and no matter how you ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he loves me too much and is afraid I'm going to hurt him?
Q. I need some advice. My boyfriend of 2 months broke up with me the other day because he was scared that I would hurt him and that he was too in love with me. He races motocross so we hardly ever get to see one another. Anyways, he told me that he ...
A. 24 June 2009: Wow, people are still using that line.. It's the oldest excuse in the book. I broke up with a guy in high school, and that was my excuse..
Please don't buy it, he just wants out without the drama, so he's using that excuse. Don't be his fool and... (read in full...)
Has he been using me for sex all this time?
Q. I've known this guy since middle school. I'm sixteen and so is he. We've had sex eight times without protection, which I now realize was very stupid. I've been stupid and so has he. A couple of days ago I had a pregnancy scare. Luckily, I ended up ...
A. 24 June 2009: Pregnancy is nothing compared to STDs you can catch, HIV, herpes, and the list goes on. If you have unprotected sex you increase your chances of catching them. Some of these STDs can haunt you for the rest of your life.
It doesn't matter whether ... (read in full...)
At what point is sex expected?
Q. Lately I have come into contact with many people who believe that sex is expected after the 3rd date. Since, I have asked some of my friends and other people I know and 3 seems to be the magic number. In some cases, people said they would not have ...
A. 22 June 2009: It all depends on what you're looking for.. If you're looking for a friend with benefits or one night stand, then it's expected day 1.
If you're maybe looking for a sex but don't want to come out like a loose gal with no self-esteem then 2nd or 3... (read in full...)
Sex just DOESN'T happen with us any more...
Q. Me and my partner have been together for about 4 years, the last 18 months or so 'sex' does not happen! Well it does but once a month at the most. I dont know why and it could break us. Its as if she just dosnt want it any more. What could be the ...
A. 18 June 2009: I agree with QuirkLady, sit her down and talk. If her libido is low, she might be experiencing some hormonal problems and seeing a doctor can solve it.
If she's as young as you (22-25) it's unacceptable. At that ages you should be like rabbits.... (read in full...)
Ladies, is "friends with benefits" ever NOT an attempt to lure an unattainable guy into an exclusive relationship?
Q. I've been in a FWB before. I am being offered another one now. Let's get real. Is this ever something girls do and they're NOT just settling for it? Wouldn't they ALWAYS really rather have an exclusive relationship with that guy if he was ...
A. 18 June 2009: The majority of women are not wired to have a sexual relationship with no emotional attachment. A very small percentage, very small can do it like guys do.
But you're absolutely correct, women do it in hope that you fall in love with them.
... (read in full...)
I lost my wedding ring, never told him and now he's furious!
Q. I lost my wedding ring about 4 years ago, never told my husband, bought a ring that looked similar to mine, and just recently he somehow found out and is extremely angry, yet he too lost his around the same time and it was not a big deal. We have ...
A. 18 June 2009: Yes, you should have told him but you didn't. He lost his too and you didn't fuss. Now what's the big deal. Please tell him to get over it or just ignore him the same way husband ignore wives when then fuss and nag.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm trying to decide just what my responsibility is with my child's education...
Q. My daughter is going to university next year after high school. I'm very happy for her, but it is very expensive, especially room and board 1500$ a month. But it is a big city and she will live in the dorm, and that is how much. So we can't reall...
A. 18 June 2009: Your daughter she should take out her own loans and pay for her room and board. People tend to waste what they don't work for. If she pays on her own she will definitely minimize her expense and be more responsible.
You have already given he... (read in full...)
I'm 14, What sex positions can I try out?
Q. what other sex positions can i try out any suggestions???...
A. 16 June 2009: None... You are way too young to be having sex. And thanks to everyone for also telling her the same thing, thanks to Sincerely Yours for providing info about the teen pregnancy post..
Don't do this to yourself. ... (read in full...)
I slept with my best friend's ex boyfriend, should I tell her or not?
Q. I dont know how to say this... but I dont know if i should tell my best friend about i have slept with her ex boyfriend once even i dont remember that night at all. its not like i have feeling for him... my ass! but... my best friend have a new ...
A. 16 June 2009: You should tell her. I'm sure if the situation was reversed you would want her to tell you. And it's better she find out from you than someone else.
I don't think it will be so bad, it is her ex.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be happy when you're all alone?
Q. Do you think it is possible to live a meaningful happy fulfilling life when you have no partner, children etc but a great career and a close group of friends? Im asking this because due to a cheating ex I have an STD. I am an extremly sensitiv...
A. 15 June 2009: Plenty of women with STDs have babies. So you can still have a baby, just Caesarian (sp). ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be happy when you're all alone?
Q. Do you think it is possible to live a meaningful happy fulfilling life when you have no partner, children etc but a great career and a close group of friends? Im asking this because due to a cheating ex I have an STD. I am an extremly sensitiv...
A. 15 June 2009: Dear Lovable, Okay, so you have genital warts, so what. You still deserve love and believe me, someone will love you. It's not the end of the world. I've heard so many stories about couples with genital warts and couples with one person with it. ... (read in full...)
Posing for naked pictures
Q. I would really like to send my boyfriend naked pictures of me but I don't know how I should pose. If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.....
A. 11 June 2009: What happens if you break up tomorrow? Please don't give your naked pictures to a guy you're not married too.. ... (read in full...)
My wife has doubled in size, I've lost interest in sex..do I leave her to get her to get in shape?
Q. When I proposed to my wife she was 5' and a perfect size zero. She had lovely long hair and walked like a graceful lady. Exactly my type. Now after 15 yrs of marriage she's a size 14-16 w/ short hair and walks like a chimp. Doubling her weight ...
A. 6 June 2009: You guys are married and should be able to talk about anything. Be honest with her and just ask her to lose some weight. Be supportive during that process but don't apply too much pressure. Maybe go to the gym with her or talk walks together. ... (read in full...)
Phone sex on 4th call too soon?
Q. I met a guy while I was out of town last weekend. We have had a couple great "get to know you" conversations. Tonight we had phone sex, on our 4th call. Was that too soon? If we lived near each other would it turn into a friends with benefits ...
A. 6 June 2009: Yes, it's way too soon. He doesn't know you enough, and you don't know him either. If you lived close by, he would have tried to have sex with you already.
But I believe as the woman, you have control over the conversation and relation... (read in full...)
I will be introducem to her parents. How to make a good impression?
Q. I am going to meet my friend with benefits parents tomorrow night and was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to leave a good impression on them. She will probs introduce me to them and we will talk for a short time, then we will go watch a ...
A. 5 June 2009: You're not in a relationship, it's just benefits (sex) so why are you meeting her parents. Sounds like it's more. Anyway, just be yourself and off course let them know you care about their daughter.... (read in full...)
Will he go away if I ignore him?
Q. i think my ex of 20 years of abuse is stalking me. me and our 18 year old son have left the area so he doesnt know where we live. the last time i was with him 18 months ago he had scratched my car and i involved the police and he recieved a small ...
A. 5 June 2009: Don't ignore him, he is loony and you can't ignore loony people. I say get the police involved. Off course, they won't arrest him but you need to have all this on record. He's obsessed with you, and that might cause him to do crazy things.
Don't... (read in full...)
I'm worried she thinks I like her...I don't!
Q. okay so here it is, Yesterday was our last day of school, we were all taking photo's and things, and anyway things quietened down, i'll cut to it, me and this girl ended up kissing, i think she's really hot, but i dont fancy her and i think sh...
A. 5 June 2009: Well, then play the silent game. Avoid and ignore her, she will get he hint.... (read in full...)
I'm scared. Should I have sex with this boy who is asking me? Or is he trying to use me?
Q. i am 15 years old and i need help i really do. when i was 14 i was raped by my ex botfriend and since then i have not been able to be in a stable relationship. its messed up my whole life. theres this boy that i really really like and he keeps ...
A. 5 June 2009: Sweetie, don't do it. That's all he wants, and when you gets it, he will tell everyone.
Leave him alone, and tell him to leave you alone.... (read in full...)
Don't love my wife, wedding was a mistake, met some one else... Do I leave?
Q. I'm married. Have been for six months. I wanted to call it off a few months before but thought it was just cold feet and that I'd get over it. Also at that time i began an emotional relationship with someone else. Nothing sexual, in fact neither ...
A. 5 June 2009: You should get a divorce. You have already told her it's not working and you want out, so just sit her down and tell you guys should start the divorce proceedings. You sound like an honest guy and you're trying to do with right thing, even for your ... (read in full...)
Is he interested or not? It seems he only wants to hang out at the gym!
Q. Hello, I was wondering if anyone could offer some insight into my problem So I meant someone at the gym I go to, a couple of months ago. We exchanged phone numbers and we would talk and text daily. A little over a month ago, he, finally, a...
A. 5 June 2009: He's not looking for a relationship, he just wants a buddy he had work out with, and maybe go out with once in a while. It might be because he has a lot of his plate and doesn't want to add anything else.
Forget about a relationship with him, jus... (read in full...)
I think my sisters want to make my dad move house.
Q. My elderly father is now living alone in our family house and I know that he really likes being there, though of course he is lonely since my mother died. I can already feel the vibes of sisters who want to try to make him move or something just for...
A. 5 June 2009: Well, you have to sit down and jot the points and then talk to them and state your case. If you give them the facts and really plead your case, I'm sure they will understand and not move him dad out. I'm not a big fan of sending your parents/parent ... (read in full...)
What I found in his wallet floored me!!!!!
Q. this one is a toughy! So I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half! just last week I took out everything in his wallet while he was at work (it got all wet the previous day so I wanted to dry it all out) and found a............. sex ...
A. 5 June 2009: This happened about nine years age after all his 4 kids were born, so I assume your bf is in his mid 30s plus. The little girl was 9yrs old, which makes her about 18-19yrs now, that about the same age as you. Wow, sounds like your boyfriend likes ... (read in full...)
I've always practiced safe sex, but now I have a genital wart. I feel this will ruin my life. How can I get rid of it?
Q. I have just found out during my annual pap smear that I have HPV or a genital wart about 1cm inside my vagina. Its a single tiny hard lump but the doctor says its a wart all the same. Im a grown woman, educated (have 2 degrees), intelligent and cant ...
A. 5 June 2009: Hey there, Please don't be so hard on yourself. Firstly, remember that it could have been worse, you could have contracted HIV. It is what it is and now you have to live with it. They say a good diet is great and also that Lysine (amino acid)... (read in full...)
Our affair has been like a roller coaster...what's his deal?
Q. I'm a married woman and I had sex with a married man. I was looking for no strings attached sex (the "why" is understandable, but not relevant here) on a regular basis. After our first encounter, I didn't hear from him till 2 weeks later when he ...
A. 5 June 2009: Clearly you wanted different things, you were looking for an affair, he just wanted a hit it one time thing. There is no need for you to ask what his deal is coz it's clear, he has sex with you once or twice and he was done. It would have been once ... (read in full...)
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