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... Send *oviefan a private message | | | *oviefan's profile:Well i live in the United States in the State of Indiana. I feel like i have some things i cant contribute to help others because I have experienced a lot for my age and have always been a little mature for my age to the point that when i was in middle school i scared some of my teachers. I seemed to mature.. And this plus the fact that im good at logically thinking things threw and can connect things in life and movies that others wouldn't even notice. This has allowed me to learn things some people have to wait a life time to learn. This has also made others until recently distant from me, and made me cold for a long time.
I enjoy movies, music, anime, manga, video games, reading, building relationships, and hanging with family and friends.
And as of right now im single after getting out of a relationship that caused me a lot of stress and pain and im hoping to find someone i feel the same way about as i did for her.
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I have amazing chemistry with this girl but she won't break up with her new boyfriend. Is she just leading me on?
Q. I met a girl on odd string of events. I went out on the porch of my friends house that i now have taken up residence to chill with him while he smoked. Well i looked across the street to the house directly across and saw this cute girl i had noticed ...
A. 1 August 2013: I have never really been lead on before so this is new to me. Thanks for the help. ... (read in full...)
My ex was rotten to me so why do I only remember the good times?
Q. So it's been three months since my ex dumped me. He's quick-tempered and abusive and never respected me while we're with his friends. We had no contact after we broke up. But every month he would call or write me messages and asked me to call him ...
A. 1 August 2013: When the relationship is current the brain has a tendency to focus on the bad and in this case it sounds like the bad was really very bad but often times it takes very little for someone to end a relationship. Often little problems over time become ... (read in full...)
Ever get jealous of people that get engaged or are married?
Q. I see on facebook how people I know from the past are getting married or just recently engaged. I'm a 24 year old single dude, and I get down when I see this. I feel happy for them, but I get a little sad. I had this one relationship (I liked this ...
A. 4 August 2010: Yeah ive felt it. Its the most severe when its someone you have had feelings for, or still do. All i can say is keep moving forward and try to push it to the back of your mind. If you don't it will get the best of you and really make you feel bad. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex, I don't...but he keeps threatening me
Q. um my boyfriend keeps talking about sex and that he wants to um "do it" soon but im not ready and i dont want to do it with him but he keeps threatening me and has rased his hand to me. i dont know what else to do!...
A. 29 March 2010: 3rd it! Leave him, tell your parents and never talk to him again. Any worthwhile guy would not be like that with you. Take this as a lesson, never accept and allow this sorta behavior. ... (read in full...)
Is their anything I can do to get her parents to listen?
Q. My girlfriend had one bad relationship with one guy who was 3 years older then her previous to me and her parents seem to have a stigma over older guys now. Since day one i wanted to talk or meet her parents and try to get their approval i hate ...
A. 19 March 2010: I do understand where they are coming from but its like they should at least hear me out over the phone at the least and the wont do that. ... (read in full...)
Is their anything I can do to get her parents to listen?
Q. My girlfriend had one bad relationship with one guy who was 3 years older then her previous to me and her parents seem to have a stigma over older guys now. Since day one i wanted to talk or meet her parents and try to get their approval i hate ...
A. 19 March 2010: The thing is how can i get them to accept me when i cant even see her anymore and couldn't ever see her around them. They want NOTHING to do with me. They wont see me they wont talk to me nothing. They just refuse to acknowledge me and assume im a ... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. Can people really change? A friend of mine has recently asked me out on a date, but I know he cheated on his last girlfriend ALOT. He keeps telling me he's grown up and changed but it wasn't that long ago he was cheating on her. They've since ...
A. 19 March 2010: If a man is known to be a habitual cheater, stay away from him, odds are he wont change and will just do the same to you. If someone had one bad night that lead to them cheating because of emotions, alcohol, drugs, or any combination of the three ... (read in full...)
I'm just afraid if I screw this up I'm going to lose her...
Q. I started talking to a girl i knew my senior year in high school and had a class and sat by her all year and we got really close. She was one of the few people i honestly missed from high school who i didn't get to see afterward. I always liked her ...
A. 19 March 2010: This situation just got worse! Her mother wont even hear me out for 5 min so i can say what i need to. I feel like this isnt right, denying me her because of my age is like saying no due to my race!... (read in full...)
Should I continue to have sex with him???
Q. It all started when I took this guy I work with home, we flirted constantly at work and we fooled around every time I took him home (I would go down on him and him on me). I then left work for two weeks to go down to NC to visit my father for ...
A. 18 March 2010: Good for you im glad to hear it! I hope life continues to treat you well and you learned a little something, Good luck!... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend, but I'm not sure where to go from here
Q. ive grown really close to my bestfriend. We started off as friends but over the past year have just become closer and closer. Now we spend practically all our free time together (we are both at uni doing the same course and share a flat together). I ...
A. 18 March 2010: Sounds like she clearly likes you, its up to you no one else can make the decision to take things further or not, if you really do love her and she loves you and you never act odds are you could really regret it later. I liked one of my best friends ... (read in full...)
Will he be satisfied with a handjob?
Q. He has been extra special to me, and I've enjoyed my fun, but now I want to give my boyfriend a handjob, what is the best way? to make it fun for us? we are virgins and are slowing working our way to be The One, for each other. Will he be satisfie...
A. 18 March 2010: It all depends on the guy and how long you have been seeing each other. It all sorta based on a lot of factors and with what little information you have provided we cant really tell. He may be satisfied with a handjob or a blowjob but he may also ... (read in full...)
I feel way to shy around girls!
Q. hi, ive always wanted to just go on dates with girls for the experience but im so shy around girls i dont think they ever know that im interested!! sometimes il only realise maybe the next day that a girl was into me, but im so nervous i never get ...
A. 17 February 2010: Well to be short and to the point google kino tests, and signs that a girl is interested their are so many signs from body language to what they say and do. I dought any list has them all either.... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and my new boyfriend....
Q. i went out with this guy for 4 n half years and he cheated on me twice and continuously broke my heart, In the end he left me to be with the girl he cheated on me with, that was nearly 5 years ago and since then they have had a child together. ...
A. 16 February 2010: He is an ex for a reason! Hes clearly a jerk if he is willing to ditch you and then ditch the women he cheated with so he can use you again. Forget your ex and move on.... (read in full...)
The pain from the terrible relationship with my first love came back after 3 years without warning, is this normal?
Q. My first love used me and killed me emotionally for over a year and the pain after 3 years came back without warning. Is it normal for it to resurface without a trigger and after so long. ...
A. 9 February 2010: I just know ive looked but no one has liked me as much as she did or understood me like she did, ive tried with others but its never the same. I feel cold and alone a lot it feels like im stuck alone.... (read in full...)
I am about to meet my online b/f and worries I might not be slim enough for him
Q. would like some answers from male readers. i have been txting a man now for the last 5 mths. we get on great and he is a great person. he lives few hours away and we are meant to be meeting next week. he has seen pics of me but had to take them ...
A. 23 January 2010: did you give him a point of refrence in the photos. So long as he could tell your general size it shouldnt be a problem. And if your worried about your butt or something thats personal preferance. ... (read in full...)
The guy's a jerk, but I can't let go.
Q. How do get over a boy that is a really jerk but I still like him. And I need help to get over him. I erased his number and any sort of thing that reminded me of him, but I seem to always want to call or text him. What do I do to get over him? ...
A. 23 January 2010: dont call him, dont do anything with him or near him, end it no ands if or buts. Im just sick of hearing girls saying they cant and wonder why. Keeps saying u cant and u wont.... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is an asshole but he is the only man I want!
Q. Hello aunts and uncles i really need help my boyfriend and i are having problems he is selfish and unaffectionate a smartmouth asshole but he is the only man i want and can think about he is my first and i care about him a lot but everyone keeps ...
A. 19 January 2010: Im pretty sure everyone clearly said no here, dont try to change men you will be the one who is changed.... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is an asshole but he is the only man I want!
Q. Hello aunts and uncles i really need help my boyfriend and i are having problems he is selfish and unaffectionate a smartmouth asshole but he is the only man i want and can think about he is my first and i care about him a lot but everyone keeps ...
A. 18 January 2010: Leave him now, dont say ill leave him tomorrow because tomorrow will never come. My first love did the same stuff your doing now, rationalizing her relationship with her asshole of a boyfriend who ultimately raped her, got her pregnant and continues ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to have sex with him???
Q. It all started when I took this guy I work with home, we flirted constantly at work and we fooled around every time I took him home (I would go down on him and him on me). I then left work for two weeks to go down to NC to visit my father for ...
A. 18 January 2010: End it now, this is the kinda crap that honestly makes understand the impulse that created the arranged marriage norms and "save sex till marriage" beliefs. Women need to realize that because a guy has sex with you it doesn't mean he actually loves ... (read in full...)
Drink helped him get an erection!!!
Q. Can someone help me out here! I really need to understand something before I lose my mind. My husband has had chronic impotence in the last few years.. it goes down when he enters. Also he has no sexual desire. But he never said he does not love ...
A. 18 January 2010: Like you stated it was all his mental condition and his thoughts, and the alcohol just cleared that from his mind and ta-da it worked. I know from experience people that drink have a lot less worries while they are lightly tipsy, and completely ... (read in full...)
Anxiety and insomnia problems...
Q. Does anyone know any good websites for helping with anxiety and insomnia?? I currently have real problems getting to sleep naturally (due to anxiety/panic attacks) and I worry it will affect my life/relationships! I have tried counsell...
A. 18 January 2010: I personally want this answered as well because im having similar problems. I will recommend however how i get to sleep. I found that tiring myself out right before bed does wonders, i actually went and bought Dance Dance Revolution to get myself ... (read in full...)
The pain from the terrible relationship with my first love came back after 3 years without warning, is this normal?
Q. My first love used me and killed me emotionally for over a year and the pain after 3 years came back without warning. Is it normal for it to resurface without a trigger and after so long. ...
A. 6 January 2010: Its wierd because i hate her and because of this i dont even know where or how she is. Yet i still love her and if she came looking for me i would probably give her another chance, lol im pathetic..... (read in full...)
How do I pass my algebra?
Q. I have been having trouble in collage level algebra, and i have posted on here about this before i struggle even when i really try thus i studied for 3-4 hours for our last test and still failed, you ask why, because my teacher counted off on many ...
A. 28 October 2009: thanks its just irritating, i have little time to do all my work and i get slapped in the face for learning. ill talk to him, i just hope i dont have to go higher then him lol... (read in full...)
I want to lose my viriginity!
Q. So, I'm 17 and my friends around me are losing their virginity.. This one kid can hook me up with other virgin.. yada yada yada.. so i want to lose my virginity.. but i dont know how to approach this.. I'm really shy and slightly overweight, with no ...
A. 21 October 2009: Dont worry about it, dont just do it to do it im 19 and never had sex, as soon as you leave high school it doesn't matter if your a virgin or not except to yourself lol. Your going to be the only one that ultimately matters with that decision, do it ... (read in full...)
What is up with her?
Q. I dont get it. Why do women tell a guy that they aren't interested in them, they don't feel the same way, reject them... then all of a sudden they end up liking you? I had a girl tell me she didn't feel the same way, it hurt so much i didnt tal...
A. 17 October 2009: wish i could answer but same thing is happening to me actually so dont feel alone on this. I want to know the answer to, becausecthe girl i like has been doing the same thing. Not cool at all..... (read in full...)
We have a perfect relationship except he shakes me and pulls my hair...
Q. Im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. we have been together 5 months now but have known eachother for over a year. we have a perfect relationship. sometimes. when we are not fighting and screaming and wanting to strangle eachother. we fight over ...
A. 15 October 2009: ill make mine shory, my first love and gf left me for her ex who did and still does what your boyfriend is. Listen to me unlike her, leave him now it doesnt get better. she got pregnant too...... (read in full...)
Why do I keep attracting nerds?
Q. So I have this tiny problem where I attract the wrong guys. Okay, I think there has to be some kind of physical attraction and not to be mean but i keep attracting nerds. Lik no joke. They are the only ones to talk to me and it just bugs me. W...
A. 15 October 2009: Unless they are not clean or repulsive give them a chance, most nerds as you put it make better bf then the type you want. your lucky i responded you have me irritated. Im a nerd, not a bad thing. ... (read in full...)
God fails new ways to get amusement out of my dating failures
Q. In 2 days im about to turn 19 and im going to collage, i have never had a real girlfriend. I have had countless attempts and an equal amount of failures all of which have fallen apart due to things outside of my control like their ex tricking them ...
A. 2 October 2009: Thing is i don't use bars and i have used online dating, and ive done almost everything you said, i don't date people on rebound they just have on a few occasions decided to get back with a ex from long ago randomly after starting crap with me. I do ... (read in full...)
God fails new ways to get amusement out of my dating failures
Q. In 2 days im about to turn 19 and im going to collage, i have never had a real girlfriend. I have had countless attempts and an equal amount of failures all of which have fallen apart due to things outside of my control like their ex tricking them ...
A. 2 October 2009: wow love the false emphasis on the god part the title gives lol ... (read in full...)
What prompted her to cut off all contact with me?
Q. A long story short. I met this girl in Germany over the summer (she's 19, I'm 30). Things were great, we really connected and enjoyed each others company. There was without a doubt love coming from both sides. We lived together for about 2 months ...
A. 3 September 2009: Sounds like she cant decide what she wants, she probably has someone she likes for somereason in germany and because he is closer it levels him with you even if you are a much better choice in reality. I was in a situation like this once ended badly ... (read in full...)
Friends with the ex--is it stupid of me to think that the friendship might last?
Q. Hey, Well about 1 month ago me and my girlfriend of about 2 yearas (not quite) borke up, on good terms. At the time it was more of a break, to take one step back. Anyway, as most relationships say, we made a promise to always be bestfriends / fr...
A. 3 September 2009: I seen the same situation before, to be honest she could be doing what you expect using you like a insurance policy so that if things in the future fail she can come running back to you in a few months to years.
I also know many couples who do t... (read in full...)
Why no reply to my birthday text?
Q. an ex spends loads of time playing little games to get my attention, she cheated on me i walked away. It was hard but i never gave her any trouble. she suddenly thinks im seeing someone else (but im not)we eneded 18 month ago. Anyway i aim to be ...
A. 28 July 2009: Sounds like she likes to toy with you probably because she still likes you but doesn't want to admit it so she makes your life hell when you replace her. Pretty simple common reaction for some girls. ... (read in full...)
My mom's boyfriend did this to me, what do I do!
Q. Well for starters, this isn't an easy topic to discuss. I've had so much guilt, and frustration built in that I don't think I can do it anymore. My mom's boyfriend has been living with us now for almost 2 years. At first he seemed really cool, an...
A. 24 June 2009: Some one was in a similar situation near where i live and it ended badly for her because things escalated, her mothers boyfriend had been doing things like this and it only got worse with time. She ended up doing suicide because her mom didn't ... (read in full...)
Three years on and I'm still too scared to ask her out, even though she's said "I love you " to me?
Q. Im 17 years of age, 18 in Decemeber and never had a girlfriend, not even kissed a girl. My problem started at around the end of Year 10 in high school, I started to like this girl in the year below me. I started to talk to her on MSN/Myspace etc and ...
A. 4 June 2009: Just do it, its what i did in this exact situation pretty much, yeah i looked like a fool while doing it because i was so nervous the whole time, but she thought it was sort of cute so she didn't get turned off by it.
Just do it when you can get ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend after rejecting him, how do I correct this?
Q. I think I'm falling in love with my best friend, and I believe I may have messed up whatever chance I had with him. The thing is we've been friends for a really long time, since high school. It was couple of years ago when he confessed that h...
A. 4 June 2009: Ive been in a situation that was sort of like this, basically to be blunt you need to tell him that he doesn't have to live up to your ex boyfriends because your love him the way he is and wouldn't want him to change. That you were a fool and didn't ... (read in full...)
Too shy to kiss him!
Q. Eugh ok so i am 20 years old and i've never been kissed not that i've not had chances too i have! but i just can't bring myself to do it, in some ways i want too but others i don't, i want to so i will stop feeling like a loser! and perhaps gain more...
A. 4 June 2009: Im almost 19 and i just had my first kiss a month or so ago, why it took so long was because im shy i guess you could say as well.
i over think things and worry about stuff until i just cant do it anymore, and my first kiss probably wouldn't of h... (read in full...)
Should I take her to the prom to please my parents?
Q. My parents want me to go to my senior prom with a family friend's daughter. She is cute and friendly but I don't really know her that well so I am not that comfortable with the idea. If I don't take her I won't have a date and I will go to my final ...
A. 31 March 2009: Well i have to ask her today, and well i just was not sure if i should. I just hope my friends don't make a mess out of the situation as they are known to do on occasion.
Thanks aunts ... (read in full...)
I envy the males!
Q. I envy the males, they can be good looking and charming without trying. Girls have to make themselves into sluts at all ages to get a boyfriend that's not fair. Opinions please....
A. 31 March 2009: You don't have to be sluts to get a boyfriend, you just are looking for the wrong type of guy or looking in the wrong places. If you go for jocks or bad boys of course they are going to respect you to put out because they are uncaring jerks most of ... (read in full...)
In 3 days her attitude changed completely
Q. Why would a girl that was really into you for weeks beforehand suddenly loose interest in barely 3 days. She went from being as giddy as a school girl, to wanting to only be friends, to not wanting to talk to me and asking for some space for a whil...
A. 30 March 2009: Yeah it really sucks, i really liked her to. I have learned to move on, mainly because of past experiences. Im already happy again and back to normal but thinking about it saddens me a bit. Thanks everyone.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my friends pressuring and harrassing me about sex?
Q. I really need help. My last attempt at getting my first girlfriend failed in a really odd and stressful way that has yet to end fully and conclusively because she keeps telling a few of my friends random messages to me saying that she still l...
A. 30 March 2009: Hopefully ignoring them doesn't piss them off, o well they have been doing that to me for some time. Thanks guys, im sorry i didn't respond till now never had a chance.... (read in full...)
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