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But don’t get me wrong…I am a nice guy. If you are good people, I got nothing but love and respect for ya. But when I get brutal it’s with people that come on here wanting sympathy and advice when they are totally wrong. I’m not a doctor, and you aren’t paying for me to be on your side, so if I hit you hard, maybe it’s because you need to do some thinking. I’m a man and this is how my dad taught me to be a man.
So ladies, if you see me giving out advice to other guys who basically deserve a punch in the face, just cover your ears stand back and let me at ‘em!!
But anyway…
I came here looking for a little fun and advice on a personal matter, but it turns out I’m seeing a lot of people out there with some serious and even ridiculous problems, things I am eminently qualified to answer and respond to with the experience I have. I’ve done a lot of dating in my time, been in all sorts of relationships; married too. Right now I’m finally divorced, and I’m in my right mind and doing things the right way. I have a lot good going in my life and I thank God every day I’m still alive kicking and living the best life I possibly can.
My motto is you have to live the life you love, and love the life you live. I always check with myself making sure I live by that motto.
But hey, now that I’m fresh and back into the dating thing again, I might be a little rusty, so I’ll be back here with who know what kind of questions that come up. But I feel I’m better armed than I was years ago, and I’m not about to make the mistakes I made in the past…not that I made any huge mistakes, but I had me a few nonetheless. The way I see it, mistakes you make can turn into opportunities, so never live with regrets.
Yeah, I was married once, and pretty recently. I don’t consider my past marriage a mistake, and I’ll tell you why. I learned and grew from it. What I take from that relationship has improved me as a man and makes me better for future relationships. I am not mortal enemies with my ex, and any hurt we had between us is in the past.
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Be good, Nikki!
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