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writes:Hello All... I feel like I'm falling apart here and have no control over it. I was married for 3 Years.. split in April.. 3 months later I was officially divorce legally. Now almost a year later and I still have feelings for my ex. A person who the same month I split from her sent her ex boyfriend an email to him...read below...______You are a one of a kind ASSHOLE. what do you think gives you the right to call ME at 2, 3, 4 int he morning when i am MARRIED and you know very well I have a HUSBAND laying next to me but when I call you you won't speak to me? WHAT KIND OF BULLSHIT IS THAT? So it's ok for you to get drunk and call me brown eyes and say you love me, etc but when I call you you won't even give me the time of day? WHAT THE FUCK? Obviously you still love me. I know for sure you don't love your white ass girlfriend, otherwise you wouldn't be calling me and you sure as hell wouldn't have CHEATED on her. the way I look at it you have two choices, you either GET OVER IT, move on with your life and completely forget about me, FOREVER or you can still love me, be in love with me and be willing to give it another shot to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ME. I am sorry (Name), I changed for the completely wrong guy, what do you want me to do? All I can say is that at least now I truly know how to love, how to give 110% of myself to someone...If i was able to do that with my "husband" who was not worth it, GOD DAMN IT!!! I would travel to the next galaxy and back for you. There is one thing I want to make clear to you. I NEVER FORGOT ABOUT YOU. I thought about you all the time, everytime I held hands, hugged, kissed, made "love" to someone all I could think about was YOU. The only reason it seemed it was easier for me to move on was because I thought you hated me, you would never even want to see me again. I SWEAR if you would have called me before I got married I would have dropped EVERYTHING I ADORE YOU. Yes, my husband and I had problem, but I was willing to suck it up, for the good of my son, but I COULDN'T not knowing that you DID still love me, and that I DID still have a chance of making someone TRULY happy and being truly happy myself. I am determined. I thank God each day for everything I have been thru because it has made me the woman I am today. I thank him for my marriage and the fall of it because I now get a second chance to get things right. I have enrolled in school, I WILL finish my degree, so help me God. I WILL conquer it all w/ my angel, Gabriel. And most importantly I will be happy and make someone else happy, for the rest of my life. I was born to be a woman. I was born to be a mother, I was born to be a wife. I was born to excel at all that I do no matter how minor it may seem. I was born to be happy and most of all I was born to make God proud of the life I lead. and (name), you and I both know you fit perfectly into all of that. I don't worry. I know what God wants for me, the best! and I know sooner or later we WILL be together, and I swear, I will make you the HAPPIEST MAN ALIVE, it is the least I can do for the man who has always treated me like a queen. TE AMO (Name) Y COMO DICE LA CANCION " SE QUE NUESTRO AMOR ES VERDADERO Y CON LOS ANOS QUE ME QUEDAN POR VIVIR, DEMOSTRARE CUNATO TE QUIERO"____________So after the split we only spoke about our Son for like 6 months. After that she started saying things like "Lets get back together" "you know you still like me" in a playful tone. I really want to forget her but since Jan I was getting ones again attached to her and talking daily. Until this past 2 weeks she's been acting strange like if she started dating someone. I have no prof and she wont admit to it. So it's driving me insane.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 February 2009):
 So, apparently this other man didn't read into all the BS she was saying?
You'll need to keep in contact with your child. Just because you can't deal with her, doesn't mean the child should suffer. Reading this, to a certain extent, it's going to be unavoidable. She's manipulative, needy (to an abnormal level).
What is her answer to you not being worth it when she changed. And you are now? So what's changed, or is she having trouble being alone?
Slowly read what you posted. Men are a commodity to her, easily replaceable. I recommend a relationship with your son, not with her. You'll set yourself up for getting hurt over and over again as long as you continue playing patty-cake with her.
I told one of my ex's who displayed similar behaviors, "I'll always love you, but I can't be with you."
What are you really willing to accept in having a partner? Someone who, you don't know if she started dating someone, or someone who you know she's not because your relationship is built on trust.
I hope you find happiness, although I don't believe it's going to be found with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): I can't believe you would ever want to be in the same room with her, let alone, want her back in your life, after reading that email! She has no respect! And the way that email started and then to bring God into it as though God wanted her to cheat on her husband, and disrespect him the way she did? I know love is a strong emotion and sometimes it's hard, but we tend to look at ended relationships and miss what could've been...not what it was really like! Does that make sense?
You really need to move on. I realize, because you have a son together, she will be in your life to some extent. But find yourself someone to love, who will truly love you, respect you, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
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