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writes:Sometimes I spend 10 or 15 minutes standing naked before my full length door mirror admiring my beautiful body. I have shapely tits with perky nipples, a sexy ass, a flat stomach, shaplely legs with pretty little feet. It seems to me that I have a perfect body with georgious curves. Does the fact that I admire my body mean that I am becoming a lesbian? I sure hope not. I have just become 18 and can't wait to grant some worthy man the right to gaze on my great body. My question is: Am I a candidate for becoming a lesbian?
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reader, kissxmexagainx +, writes (9 March 2009):
 hey there's nothing wring with loving your body && feeling beautiful! && it doesn't make you lesbian because you're looking at yourself not other girls. it's nice to see someone with a little [or a lot] self confidence.
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reader, 1perrito  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 I think that it is great that you like yourself. At your age, you are at your top physical being.
Don't feel bad if you have those types of feelings come around. Now is the time to be as beautiful as you want. Treat yourself to good clothing and all that stuff makes girls pretty.
To other people, you might appear to be self centered and vain, but, so what! You only have one life to live and you will not look as good as you do right now. SO, enjoy it.
Everybody goes through sexual cunundrums. What matters most is not the Gender of who you might fall in love with, what matters is most is if they truly appreciate what you have to offer from your heart and soul.
In the same token, you don't have to 'be' with someone now. Enjoy your beauty. Walk downtown. Look at the way you look in the building glass from afar. See how your beauty effects other people.
I wish someone had told me what I am telling you now when I was your age.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 March 2009):
 No, you're an autosexual. Take care!
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Without a picture its difficult to answer this question. lol Joking.
Joking aside. You want to grand a worthy man. What makes him worthy? To be with you, does he have to perform certain tasks? Walk of fire. Fight the dragon. So what does it take?
So you stare at yourself. That's okay, doesn't make you a lesbian. "Porn aside" The female body has been a symbol for art in many cultures. It doesn't mean that women who appreciate that art are lesbians, just means they appreciate the beauty the art represents.
I will say the view you have on how others should view you or earn your attention is narcissistic. If a perfect relationship to you is not someone bowing down to be worthy, you need to change your views. I've dated women who "society" would see as having beautiful bodies, but from a mans point of view, if we couldn't have good conversations, commonalities, and she didn't have a good sense of humor, being with her for external beauties wouldn't make much sense.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Are you for real?
No you are not a candidate to be a lesbian unless you spend that long admiring girls as well, are a candidate for most vein person I have ever had the displeasure to reply to!
I think you probably won't get the answers you are looking for here, why not try a dating site instead!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): You sound more like a contestant for a narcissist rather than a lesbian. There's nothing wrong with admiring your own body, in fact, self-confidence is a very good thing. But from the way you're talking you seem to see yourself as better than everyone else, talking about 'worthy' men and so on. Looks aren't everything and if you come across like this to everyone you meet, you won't find a very meaningful relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): hahaha, seems like you want yourself more than any girl or boy... granted its good to feel good about yourself, but you seem a bit obsessed with yourself. hint, dont let a guy/girl you like know how much you love yourself... people like girls who are at least a little self conscious and not up themselves
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reader, natasia +, writes (8 March 2009):
 oh don't be daft - seriously. loving your own body is essential for a good sex life. if you were lusting after other women and finding men repulsive then ok, yes, maybe you would be a bit of a cnadidate, but not if you just appreciate yr own body. in fact, quite a lot of lesbians have body image issues (one of the reasons they find it easier to relax with women, as they don't feel judged in the same way) (or so i read on the net).
just enjoy having a lovely young body, i guess. and look after it, so it lasts you well.
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (8 March 2009):
you seem more like someone who is self absorbed with their selves and have no love for anyone else. might as well just become A sexual and mate with yourself until you can stop wanting yourself.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 haha no of course your not...your just growing up and noticing the changes in yourself..well everyone admires themselves,that doesnt make them lesbian..it may be some kind of self obsession to some extent..even admiring someone else as in a girl doesnt make u a lesbian hun..so chill and dont take this too seriously
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): I hope not as you are so busy loving yourself, there really wouldn't be any space for a beautiful loving lesbian in your life.
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