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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I've been dating this guy for a year and change. His whole family is not fond of me especially his mother. This is because I dated her other son prior to this one for about half a year. I found out that he cheated on me so I broke it off with him. This was two years ago. Currently, I'm dating his brother. His family doesn't know that we're dating, but they suspect it because they found my car around the corner from the house once.He tells his family that he's not dating me which was ok in the beginning of our relationship. But now I feel sad from time to time. I don't understand why he can't just stand up for who he likes. I don't know if Im being selfish for feeling like that because his family bothers him about this issue. Especially since his brother is not talking to him because he's dating me.Anyways, I feel very insecure about the relationsip from time to time. I can't pick him up in front of his house. I have to sneak around just to see him. He treats me well. I've been breaking up with him several times this month. The last breakup that we had lasted for about a week. When I got back with him I found out that he had contacted some other girls on craigslist. I got really upset at him because I felt that he could forget me that quickly. I asked him why and he said he felt very unstable with me because I keep breaking up with him. He said he just wanted to talk to someone, which i dont believe. He told me he wants to be with me and that we can work things out. I doubt him even more now since i know he has intentions of meeting girls online. I want to be with him but im unhappy about the relationship. I feel very confused. I dont know what i should so.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I could see where he may feel "you're" unstable in this relationship. So, he contacted someone. You were broken up. He didn't forget you. He may have been seeking communication to get his mind off your breaking up with him.
I think you need to step back and figure out what you really want. And stop playing games with all the breakups. Either you want the relationship or you don't, but make your choice.
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