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writes:My boyfriend is the type of person who will take forever to make up his mind about something and lately it has gotten much worst and that really drives me nuts!I have tried everything from reverse psycology to threats to pressuring him and nothing is working. I have even tried being patient but i don't think my being patient is working either!!We have been together for 7 years now and i really love him but jeez! I can't take it any more!What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Okay with this new info I would have to say that you are just wasting your time. He is just stringing you along. Tell him to look you up when he's made up his mind but you are going to move on with your life. Get busy and be out there, there are plenty more fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend and i have been together for 7years,we have both cheated in one another,we decided to still be together even after what happened, but my problem is TRUST. You see the work he does puts him in contact with all sorts of people especailly women(he's a taxi driver)
he says i need to trust him cause if there is no trust then it won't work! well we both decided to take a break from our relationship (he wanted it more than I did) but my problem is he takes a long time to make his mind up about what he wants and nothing i have tried including reverse psycology,threats,patience&pressuring him has worked. I know he has always been like this but i really need him to make his mind up fast.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 July 2007):
Indecisive people usually have low self-esteem and doubt their ability to make good decisions. Maybe you should praise him when he does make a good decision. If he begins to trust his judgement then he will be able to make choices and decisions much quicker.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 You say it you "can't take it any more".
However, you have been 7 years together.
I think there is some kind of contradiction in what you write.
Moreover, it all sounds like YOU want him to make up his mind.
Why do you wanna change the type of person you live together with; isn't it better to look for someone more compatible?
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