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writes:i have a boy friend that i have been with for 3 1/2 years . now we are having problems he started saying things to me like "your lazy, Bitch, the reason we are together is because i cant get rid of you. If we broke up my life would be easier since im paying for every thing." I also went to jail because i went to his house to talk to him and he ended up calling the police on me. but charges were dropped. he also paid for the court cost, and tried to make the situation my fault. i asked him why he called the police on me. he said i was acting like a bitch. i really need some real advice? He says that i dont trust him. but when he hangs up on me he disconnects the phone so then i go over to talk to him but he says he doesnt want me over to create a show. what should i do ? the sad part is he spoils me with with any thing i want. But im very sad, he says sorry but maybe i just had enough.help cjh
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): He is a control freak. He is buying you things to keep you where he can control you - you should not be treated as a child being given toys to keep quiet though! Verbal abuse is not acceptable and will wear down your self esteem if it hasn't already. When you step away from this relationship you will see him for what he is. I fear the verbal abuse could lead to worse. I am tempted to say... keep the things he has bought you. Ebay is a wonderful thing :-)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 July 2007):
 There is no relationship here, he doesn't love you or really even like you if he can be this mean. You won't be losing a thing by moving on, except the gifts but that is small payment for being a doormat isn't it?!
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reader, babyhonu +, writes (10 July 2007):
 I SAY GET OUT. I can very easily see this turning into physical abuse.No one deserves to be talked to like that or treated like that, and CERTAINLY not from their boyfriend! It could be that when he buys you those things he's trying to make it hard for you to leave, even though he says thats what he wants.he feels powerful, and wants to have complete responsibility over you.make him pay the ultimate price...tell him you had enough, break up with him. if this news pushes him over the edge (he starts harassing you or physically abusing you) call the police on him. give him a taste of his own medicine. and if you leave...don't take anything he bought you with you when you leave, i know its gonna be hard, but it will leave him with loads of things he wasted his money on, and nothing to do with it, but sit there staring at it and thinking of everything he did wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): i would say get as far away from him as possible. I think when things like this are happening you need to get out now before it gets any worse!
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