Indecent proposal--should I continue the affair?
Q. Ok, here I go. A bit long, but I want you to get the whole picture. I am a successful business woman married to a wonderful man and have 3 beautiful boys. If you "knew" me you could never tell I have a deep dark secret. I have had an affair wi...
A. 15 June 2009: We get posts very similar to yours all the time. One thing I've learned on this site over the years is that people like you are not really looking for help at all, you either are just looking for someone to justify your stupid behavior or you just ... (read in full...)
Married co-worker is like a drug to me
Q. 8 months ago I started a new job and everyone was talking about the Rob the cute married guy that has a bitch of a wife . She would show up at our office and yell at him in front of everyone, and he just seemed to allow her to do it. Within the ...
A. 15 June 2009: You keep saying you know better and that you let your emotions rule over your common sense. Well don't let that happen. Every time you think about the "love of your life" think about what a sleeze he is being to his wife, think about how he is using ... (read in full...)
I call my ex every time I get drunk to tell her I love her and miss her.
Q. Hi whenever I go partying with my friends and get drunk I call my now ex girlfriend from about 3 months ago to tell her I love her, and miss her. I don't want to do it. But everytime I drink I think of her and miss those times together. I dont know ...
A. 15 June 2009: Best to lay off the sauce until you either are over her or you can control yourself.... (read in full...)
Is it common to comment on looks when meeting someone new?
Q. I met a great deal of new people this weekend, mostly friends of my mother's, and each person commented on how "beautiful" i was. not how nice it was to finally meet me. Are they doing this to flatter me, or to be nice to my mother, or what? I ...
A. 15 June 2009: If you were a baby or a very young child then it would have been appropriate, however at your age it was rude. Chalk it up to bad upbringing.... (read in full...)
Could be pregnant but can't afford a test
Q. I had sex with this boy two weeks ago and the condom was to big so the week after i had sex with a differant boy without protection he said he would stop before he came (i dont no wether he did) and this week i have had unprotected sex with a ...
A. 2 June 2009: Can't afford an over the counter pregnancy test but still goes ahead and has unprotected sex. How much to you think having a baby costs??? Is it just me or do others think kids are dumber than we were 44 years ago?... (read in full...)
Addictive personality, becoming addicted to cannabis!
Q. I have an addictive personality which means i can get addicted to anything as silly as penguin biscuits and i get addicted very easily too. Ive done well to stay away from drugs so far in my life but for my current bf they're quite a major part of ...
A. 2 June 2009: I'm with the Sister, I don't think you are the slightest bit interested in actual help, you think this whole thing is funny. How sad.... (read in full...)
Made an off-color joke about her mom's cancer, apologized many times, she is unresponsive, should I move on or is there more I could do?
Q. Hi thanks in advance for your advice. My brothers girlfriend has a female friend who I have met a couple of times and she apparently likes me. Well this weekend she had planned to come over and stay with me at my house at uni for the sat and Sunday ...
A. 2 June 2009: She probably felt guilty for laughing at your comment. I think you have apologised enough. Give her a week or so then contact her again. What have you got to lose? You'll have an answer one way or another.... (read in full...)
His ex wants back into his life
Q. l have been dating my boyfrend for 6 months now. his ex came back a month ago and she wants to reconcile with him. all his relatives know her and is in support of them getting back together. they are putting pressure on him to break up with me and ...
A. 2 June 2009: Your only hope is that he can stand up to his family's pressure. Good luck.... (read in full...)
How do I stop biting my nails?
Q. Hi just a short question. I want long nails but I always end up subconsiously biting them. I hate chewing my nails and its not healthy either... Once they grew, but broke and are weak.. How can I grow my nails/stop myself from biting them?...
A. 2 June 2009: Will keeping them polished stop you from biting them?... (read in full...)
Addictive personality, becoming addicted to cannabis!
Q. I have an addictive personality which means i can get addicted to anything as silly as penguin biscuits and i get addicted very easily too. Ive done well to stay away from drugs so far in my life but for my current bf they're quite a major part of ...
A. 2 June 2009: You need to rent the movie "Days of Wine and Roses". It may motivate you to get yourself under control.... (read in full...)
B/f uses really bad words when we argue, he even pushes me or grabs me!
Q. My boyfriend and I had been together for more than a year. He is a really nice person except for his ego. He thinks he is all better and knows more than me because he is a year older. He also thinks that he has the rights for everything because he ...
A. 2 June 2009: I think you know you have to get out of this relationship, you just need a push...dump the guy, there will be nothing good to come out of staying with him. He is a very unhappy person and there is nothing YOU can do about it. ... (read in full...)
Camp morale?
Q. So... I'm sitting here in the pouring rain, this isn't the London underground song, where the heck this internet conection is coming from I don't know, typing awkwardly on my psp (I'm one of the 3 people who bought one) with my 3 best friends ...
A. 2 June 2009: Sing Kumbaya? Make an ash tray out of popsicle sticks? That always got the troops going when I was at camp.... (read in full...)
Pisces intertwining with Virgo
Q. I'm a pisces.i been in love with a virgo for about 4 years and i havn't seen him in 2 years.i live with my dad.my mom and sister just left a few weeks ago so its just me and my dad.well my dad want to see our old nabor and the virgo i love lives on ...
A. 2 June 2009: Okay what??? or should I say whut?????... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. Okay, so, I have kind of an irregular period. I always get my period the first week of the month but hardly ever the same day. I've been having unprotected sex with my fiancee since the 16th of May and I have had sore breasts, frequent urination, ...
A. 1 June 2009: You should be taking care of your body BEFORE you try to get pregnant.... (read in full...)
What is cam2cam?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a while and he wants to do cam2cam...i am willing to do this but i don't really know what happens during cam2cam. I know that it does involve getting naked but what else do you do??? please help because i don't ...
A. 1 June 2009: Don't do it, those pictures are on the Internet forever. Also know that if you place any questionable pictures on FaceBook or MySpace, prospective employers, college admissions, future boyfriends, and grandma may see them. Just not a wise idea all ... (read in full...)
Please help me decide what to do
Q. I have recently found myself in a messy situation. I have been drawn to a guy and did not realize he felt the same way so I was truly amazed when a couple of weeks ago he made a move. One thing led to another and well we both have acted on our ...
A. 1 June 2009: All I can say is piss or get off the pot. And you're right, your actions, one way or another will cause hurt. Marriage is a two way street, you're the one who chose to turn it into Adultery Ave., not your husband. ... (read in full...)
What is true love?
Q. hey i need help with something and i would love you guys to help me well i don't know what love is ...meaning like how do you know when your in love is it when u miss that person is it when you want to kiss that person every time u see them and also...
A. 1 June 2009: Love is being willing to give the guy you love an enema for his colonoscopy because he's too chicken to do it himself.... (read in full...)
Please help me decide what to do
Q. I have recently found myself in a messy situation. I have been drawn to a guy and did not realize he felt the same way so I was truly amazed when a couple of weeks ago he made a move. One thing led to another and well we both have acted on our ...
A. 1 June 2009: yeah that makes it a problem alright. Marriage can be such a nuisance can't it!? So it was one thing that led to another huh? Not your fault..those pesky one things that lead to another are at fault. Now what kind of help are looking for, need me to ... (read in full...)
Periods and swimming pools any advice?
Q. Okay well, I'm supposed to go to a waterpark with my boyfriend next Saturday(June 13th) for his birthday but, I can start my period anywhere between now and then. I'm on birth control so my periods don't last long and are light. What I need to ask ...
A. 1 June 2009: Talk to your mom, she's living in the last century, yuck pads? If you use a tampon you'll be just fine and have a lovely time. If your mom allows you to be on birth control pills I really don't understand the pads thing.... (read in full...)
Views of success
Q. This isn't much of a relationship question, but I'm asking it more along the lines of what people's opinions are about it. If your daughter's dreams were to: -Graduate from High school early -Marry the man of her dreams (who supports and loves ...
A. 1 June 2009: Why put the cart before the horse? College is hard enough with it's innate distractions, why bring a husband and baby into the quotient? I agree with the old guy (heh) Disown, not hardly, discourage her plan, youbetcha.... (read in full...)
Sleep paralysis?
Q. Anybody heard about sleep paralysis? I had one once ,and I can't escapefrom the thought ,that I saw a demon that night ,who wanted to take me. The presence was so clear, and the moving body, coming close to me. I heard many people have the same exp...
A. 1 June 2009: Actually the brain puts the body in a mild state of paralysis while you are dreaming in order to prevent you from hurting yourself if you "act out".... (read in full...)
He's a FWB and dating others! How do I distance myself emotionally?
Q. Hello all, I have been dating a man I met online for about 6 weeks. It turned into sort of a "friends with benefits" situation right away, which was fine with me. He was only four weeks out from a messy marriage separation and I knew our relatio...
A. 1 June 2009: Good decision! You go girl.... (read in full...)
How do I make him keep "wondering" about me?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now. We have already slept together. The first 2 weeks... he was doing all the cute texting, phone calls, etc. This past weekend... I sort of got the feeling that something changed... not s...
A. 1 June 2009: If you told him you would call then you should do it. However next time he says for you to call him tomorrow maybe tell him you are going out that night with friends so you'll have to do it the next day after. Of course I really don't recommend you ... (read in full...)
I'm keeping my boyfriend a secret from my parents
Q. my bf and i had been going out for about 6 months last year. i had told my parents, it being my first relationship and me being close with them. they were overbearing, very traditional and too controlling that there were lots of arguments and it ...
A. 1 June 2009: Sorry but as long as you are living under your parent's roof you have to abide by their rules. Sometimes parents can be unreasonable but they rule the roost until you are grown and gone. Keeping something secret and sneaking around behind their ... (read in full...)
Slow or fast?
Q. Do girls like it slow and passionate, or fast-paced and mindblowing? Or perhaps alter between the two? I understand that sex is something beyond the physical, and that in fact (science proves it) good satisfying sex can make a girl stick around...
A. 1 June 2009: Ask the girl, we aren't made by cookie cutters.... (read in full...)
Telling my ex that I still love her
Q. i posted a question earlier this month about "does my ex want to be a family agin" we had a long talk about a relationship i had that was broken off. wierd i know. but she actually cared. this changes my perspective on everything. what i want to ...
A. 28 May 2009: You mean you were cheating on her but broke it off?... (read in full...)
Why do men want sex from their girlfriend?
Q. Why men in love want to have sex with their woman? My boyfriend keeps telling that he really wants to make love to me. And that he misses me when we are not together...Its not that he pressures me to have sex with me but he keeps mentioning about ...
A. 28 May 2009: Sorry Honey but you are not a "woman" yet. Tell your boyfriend that you will be interested in his propositions once you do achieve that status. Until then he should treat you like the sweet, young thing that you are.... (read in full...)
I feel awful that I know he's having an affair. Do I tell his wife?
Q. I have been struggling with a large amount of guilt for many years. I was very aware that one of my mutual friend's husband "Dan" was having an affair while their children were quite young and I never had the nerve to tell her. The longer it went ...
A. 28 May 2009: I'd be willing to bet the farm that his wife knows about his affairs and has most likely from the get go. She may have her own reasons for not pulling the rug out from underneath him. If you tell her you may be forcing her into doing something she'd ... (read in full...)
I feel awful that I know he's having an affair. Do I tell his wife?
Q. I have been struggling with a large amount of guilt for many years. I was very aware that one of my mutual friend's husband "Dan" was having an affair while their children were quite young and I never had the nerve to tell her. The longer it went ...
A. 28 May 2009: I'd be willing to bet the farm that his wife knows about his affairs and has most likely from the get go. She may have her own reasons for not pulling the rug out from underneath him. If you tell her you may be forcing her into doing something she'd ... (read in full...)
Should girls shave their pubic hair, or do guys find it attractive?
Q. ok i hope no one thinks im nasty or something but should girls shave pubic hair? or do guys find it attractive for girls to have it? im not haveing sex or anything i just wanted to know? ...
A. 28 May 2009: Good lord does this question have to come up every dang day???????... (read in full...)
Could having an orgasm help my period start?
Q. Hi, im 14 and havent had my period yet! idk if theres something wrong with me but all my friends have it. Im not under developed. Ok but i was wondering if maybe an ogasm could have had an effect on me getting my period or not?? i need answers! ...
A. 28 May 2009: I made it to the other side now, I haven't had a period for 7 years and enjoying every minute!!!!!... (read in full...)
Is it innapropriate?
Q. Dear Cupid, is it inappropriate/creepy for me, 20, telling a 14 year old girl (albeit mature), that i think she's beautiful and if i were younger, i would ask her out? opinions to be appreciated...
A. 28 May 2009: It's only creepy if you DO ask her out.... (read in full...)
I'm scared he will see me differently if he finds out my grades!
Q. My boyfriend and I have become really close, and I trust him with everything except telling him my GPA. I know it sounds moronic but I go to a very good college where people are quite intense, and he's a pre-med near the top of the class. He al...
A. 28 May 2009: A 3.0 at a "very good college" is a commendable GPA. I'm sure he will have no problem with it especially if you follow q's advice! Totally acceptable at most grad schools by the way.... (read in full...)
I seriously have the hots for my sister in law!!
Q. I have an issue that has been driving me crazy for a couple years now. I am married, and her brother is married. I am seriously having the hots for his wife. She used to be VERY 'freaky' if you will, and still has a slight taste of that in her. ...
A. 28 May 2009: You don't mention anything about your wife. Do you love her? Did you love her when you got married? Do you care if you lose her? ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the trick to a "flawless lady garden"?
Q. I like to be completely hair free down below. However, no matter what hair removing method I try, I still get red irritation and spots. Does anyone know the trick to a flawless lady garden? ...
A. 27 May 2009: Wax begonias are very lovely. Gina has very good taste. Plus they are very hearty flowers and do well in most ladies gardens.... (read in full...)
Does it really matter what a relationship is called as long as you're both happy?
Q. I've got a bit of a general question for everyone here! When you are little and in high school, going out with someone is a simple case of saying "will you go out with me"? The person either says yes or no, and then you 100% know where you stand ...
A. 27 May 2009: Doesn't matter what you call it, a rose by any other name smells as sweet.... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can induce lactation (without pregnancy)?
Q. Okay.. I dont know if this sounds silly or not but is there a way to induce lactation without pregnancy? BACK STORY Im 18 years old with my boyfriend of 1 year 5 months. My boyfriend loves to suck my boobs and fantasizes about me being pregnant....
A. 27 May 2009: It's gross, trust me.... (read in full...)
What every day objects can we use to get sexy in the bedroom?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had really good sex the other day, with the help of a feather. We used it as a way to build up and stuff and in the end it was amazing. We were just wondering, what other objects would we be able to use which are everyday obj...
A. 27 May 2009: Spatulas? Or maybe just spats....... (read in full...)
Opinions needed please... Would this be considered rape?
Q. Okay my question is if a 14 or 15 year old has sex with a man willingly between the ages of 16 or 17. would that be considered rape even though they were 100% willing? Thanks much appreciated. Curious,...
A. 27 May 2009: Does your Dad have a shotgun?... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the trick to a "flawless lady garden"?
Q. I like to be completely hair free down below. However, no matter what hair removing method I try, I still get red irritation and spots. Does anyone know the trick to a flawless lady garden? ...
A. 27 May 2009: Not sure about your hair problem but the red spots could be a leaf fungus and I agree that can be pretty irritating in the garden. Try planting a hardier variety of flower next to the ones with a fungus, sometimes I notice the weaker ones gather ... (read in full...)
I cant let go of my younger lover
Q. How do I let go of my lover? I am in an unhappy marriage. I have asked my husband to leave so many times but he refuses to because according to him, he wants our family to be complete. We have one son.We talk only when absolutely necessary, mo...
A. 27 May 2009: I agree with Honey, you really need to step up to the plate now and start living your life the way you want to. You don't need to settle for a loveless marriage or for meaningless sex. Get a fresh start and then perhaps you will be able to find the ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can induce lactation (without pregnancy)?
Q. Okay.. I dont know if this sounds silly or not but is there a way to induce lactation without pregnancy? BACK STORY Im 18 years old with my boyfriend of 1 year 5 months. My boyfriend loves to suck my boobs and fantasizes about me being pregnant....
A. 27 May 2009: Breast milk tastes awful. I think once your boyfriend gets a mouthful, he'll change this fetish quick, fast, and in a hurry.... (read in full...)
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