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female
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36-40,
*okutenda
writes:l have been dating my boyfrend for 6 months now. his ex came back a month ago and she wants to reconcile with him. all his relatives know her and is in support of them getting back together. they are putting pressure on him to break up with me and marry her.he had introduced her to them before she went out of the country and they slept together, l didn't sleep with him he loves me2 l love him 2is there any hope for me?
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reader, trshly  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 This is true.
It's not right for the family to do this but they have judged and ruled in her favor.
If you go visit them, try not to mention her and remain as positive/loveable as possible.
Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): My personal feeling is that it is up to your partner - but he has to make a choice and stick to it. You have to know that he sticks to his decision by his actions and he must stand up for his choice (you) in front of his relatives so they are clear this ex has no chance. Unfortunately unless he does this pretty quick your confidence is going to be undermined and his dithering about will only serve to encourage his family and possibly you, to think he is still interested in his ex. It is time for all parties to be honest - and you need to know one way or another. Whatever you do - don't hang around for a man who is not prepared to stand up for you and your relationship leaving you feeling like second best.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Your only hope is that he can stand up to his family's pressure. Good luck.
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reader, audie +, writes (2 June 2009):
 i think you should ask him upfront what he intends to do about his ex. if he chooses you then dont let his relatives get to you. eventually they'l get used to the idea that you're the woman in his life not her. just make sure you arent going to get the raw end of this deal. xx
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