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writes:I have been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now.We have already slept together. The first 2 weeks... he was doing all the cute texting, phone calls, etc.This past weekend... I sort of got the feeling that something changed... not sure what though. I left him on Saturday. He told me to text him when I got home. I did. He wrote me back and said he would call me later... I did not contact him (since he said he would call me)... I didn't hear from him until Sunday night (which is out of the ordinary from his usual contacting)... but once we talked... everything seemed fine! He asked me to call him tonight (if he calls me, he always asks me if I will call him tomorrow)...I feel like I need to make him wonder a little... Stay mysterious and not so available...How do I do this properly? I've never been very good at this... Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advice!
I called him yesterday like I said I would... but I waited until 9PM. I made sure I was the one who ended the conversation. Before I hung up he said "thank you for remembering to call me"!
And I ordered both of the book suggestions!
Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): Ahh the mystery...
Men pull back, evaluate, and when you don't go chasing after them, they rush right back in with even more affection. The trick is not to go chasing after them. Let him come to you, and always thank him and be appreciative of anything he does for you--opening doors, paying for meals, etc.
For the calling...
How about call him, talk for a few minutes, and say, "OK well I wanted to call you like I said I would, but I'm really busy/have a lot to get done/have plans, so take care and I'll talk to you soon"
Or, if he asks you to call him at a certain time, tell him you have plans or are busy at that time, and then suggest another time. Maybe some time the next day.
check out the books Why Men Marry Bitches or Mars and Venus On a Date--lame, but they really helped me A LOT.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): Oldersister and eyeswideopen have made excellent points.
It's not about game playing. Cat and mouse can backfire. But do show him that you have a life besides him!
Sitting by the phone waiting isn't appealing to most men.
They want to know you care for them...but they really don't want a clinging vine.
Balance your lifestyle with other activities besides him!!!!
I hope this works for you! Good Luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 June 2009):
 If you told him you would call then you should do it. However next time he says for you to call him tomorrow maybe tell him you are going out that night with friends so you'll have to do it the next day after. Of course I really don't recommend you play games so do go out with friends that evening.
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