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writes:I have an issue that has been driving me crazy for a couple years now. I am married, and her brother is married. I am seriously having the hots for his wife. She used to be VERY 'freaky' if you will, and still has a slight taste of that in her. She does not work. I mean, when we are together, we can talk and cut up some. We both feel the same way about the family as well, and seem to only understand one another, although we do not talk all the time. I do not know how to handle this situation at all. I mean, I think about hooking up with her constantly, dream about it, etc. What can I do to break the ice, and kinda weigh her out, without making her fully aware of my intentions if she doesn't feel the same way??
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (28 May 2009):
I am so sorry but the truth of the matter is you're an asswhole! Just got ahead divorce your wife stop talking to your brother and go ahead a cut off all with your family! Because that's what will haPpen! Men like you make me sick... Willing to loose a person who loves you for a slut puppy! You in my eyes fall in the same catogry as a women beater! "she's the type that won't tell!" she is a skank oh well all I can say good luck share the funk and hurt them all whatever you didn't want advice you wanted to show everyone what an ass you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): dear male poster - am i understanding you correctly. you want tips to find out how to f*ck with someone else's wife? this is not the illicit dating mating agency.
you are going to mess with 2 marriages or don't you care? the hatred for your in laws are just the connecting point. this "freaky" "sluttish " woman may just decide that you are just a load of shit. then what are you going to do. adultery good man, will wreck your life and then you will get to know just how bad your in law's really can be. word of advise: never shit where you eat. you will find out the hard way. good luck, you are going to need it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 May 2009):
 You don't mention anything about your wife. Do you love her? Did you love her when you got married? Do you care if you lose her?
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (28 May 2009):
 "She is not my wife's sister, no chance in hell he could beat me down, and she is not the type to tell......now what???"
Uh, well in that case you already have your answer. Since You wont't get beaten up over it, AND she won't tell, why do you even need advice? Go out and treat her like a farm animal! And make sure you announce it to her hubby and family to just roll over, cuz you are taking over!
So that last paragraph I wrote was pretty dumb huh? Yep, cuz its right in line with your thinking and how the reply you gave sounds. I am attempting to aid you in opening your eyes and consider the overall welfare of EVERYONE involved, as opposed to your own selfishness
We are giving you straight forward, honest and REALISTIC ADVICE!
So let's try this one more time (with feeling).
If you have any scruples you will cut this line of thinking off as of now. Do you understand how cheating will complicate the lives NEEDLESSLY of EVERYONE around you?
And if you seriously want to come to a logical conclusion I suggest you re-read the advice that is given here with a grain of humility and the thought that we do not have anything personally against you, but that we are trying to keep you from taking complete leave of your senses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is not my wife's sister, no chance in hell he could beat me down, and she is not the type to tell......now what???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): i agree with the second poster. this is a really dumb idea. you're risking your entire marriage and also your relationship with your wife's brother and sister in law. not to mention your wife's entire family. a piece of ass is really not worth it. at all.
first off, assuming you do inform this woman of your little fantasy, what if sister-in-law says no? you are f***ed, sir. she tells your wife, you get divorced, spousal support, child support if you have kids, you lose any chance you have at love with your wife (i say *chance* at love because you clearly don't love her right now, or you wouldn't even be considering this little plan right now). and on top of that, of course sister-in-law tells her husband, which means you get a royal beat-down, from him and whoever else he enlists to gang up on you. you will be hated by your wife's entire family for the rest of your born days. and if they're anything like some of the families i've met, they won't stop there - they will try as hard as they can to make your life a living hell until you move out of town or out of state.
assuming she says yes, and you have your little fling, first of all if you have any decency at all you will probably feel extremely guilty, and she probably will too. and if she feels guilty enough she may come clean to her husband, or your wife, about it. or someone else who spreads it around. or your spouses will just find out on their own, which is probably more likely. chances are it will get out sooner or later; stuff like this almost always does. imagine how horrible you'd feel if you had this affair, then years later everything went back to normal, you and your wife were doing great, etc., etc., when all of a sudden the truth comes out in one way or another. your wife would probably feel like your whole marriage was a lie.
think about what made you marry your wife. you picked her and not her sister for a reason. and hey, your wife might be "freaky" too. just ask her if she wants to try some stuff. sometimes girls are shy about things like that. she might be more into it than you think. after all, sisters have a lot in common sometimes.
on the other hand, if you don't give a shit about your wife, her family, or your self respect, go for it. like the second poster says: man up.
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (27 May 2009):
You're married and she is your brothers wife. So my opinion is just let it lye and dream about it! Unless you're willing to loose your wife and brother. Why don't you just have your wife get a bit freaky! Tell her you want to try things and see if maybe that cures these cravings! How long have you been married? And how long you had these urges? I'd honestly try things with your wife and see if it helps. Or just tell the sister in law what is on your mind and take it from there! Just remember it will be cheating and you could loose your wife and brother if you try to go on with this! Good luck honey!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (27 May 2009):
You seriously are playing with fire, buddy. If you have any self respect and any respect for your wife, you will cease and desist this behavior toot sweet.
Think about it.
You are looking for a green light to cheat on your wife. What the hell are you doing?
You cant find love in your marriage if you are looking for love outside of it. Not to mention your Sister in Law.
Your post spells out that all you really want is a piece of ass off your sister in law.
Are you willing to sacrifice your life(divorce, spousal support, the wonderful Thanksgiving fistfight you are sure to get in with your Sister In Law's Husband when it comes out...because my man...you will get caught...by your cavalier attitude towards this that is a certainty!)for a few moments of pleasure that you cant be sure of will even take place?
Your last paragraph indicts you.
You need to look at strengthening your marriage before you screw up your life by doing this.
MAN UP DUDE!!
Is that such a Novel concept?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): You could say "I find you extremely attractive, and if the situation was different I'd be all over you like a rash".
You didn't ask what the repercussions might be, but I'll tell you anyway. You've got a 50/50 chance of getting off with her if she feels the same way, but just try to think ahead a bit and imagine what will happen when (rather than 'if') her husband and your wife find out about it - the shit will surely hit the fan. If you're willing to accept that then go ahead and make your move, and if not, just keep dreaming.
You might break the ice, but her husband could well end up breaking some of your bones. Ask yourself if it would be worth all the hassle.
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