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anonymous
writes:I've got a bit of a general question for everyone here!When you are little and in high school, going out with someone is a simple case of saying "will you go out with me"? The person either says yes or no, and then you 100% know where you stand with them. Simples. But as we get older, it seems the lines become more blurred. It's no longer as simple as "going out". You can be seeing eachother.... friends with benefits... "fuck buddies"... together but not exclusive.... not a serious relationship but exclusive... there seems to be so many different terms for different types of relationships. So I guess my question is, does it really matter what you call it?I'm currently "seeing" (hahaha, even I'm doing it!) a guy for the last 2 months. We are really close, we care about eachother, we don't see or sleep with any other people, and we make time for eachother. By all intents and purposes this would be deemed as a relationship but we don't really call it a relationship. I don't think we actually call it anything other than "our thing". Does it really matter what a "relationship" is called if you are just happy to take things slowly and naturally and let it be what it may?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): No, it doesn't matter. You can call it whatever you like. The point is you both are building toward something special that works for both of you. You can call it your 'thing' 'hanging out' 'an involvement' 'a romance' 'a partnership' and the list goes on and on. The word relationship is just that ...a word used to explain a connection of some sort between humans. It's used in many ways. Parent-child, business partners, siblings, cousins, friendships...so many diverse meanings of it. Call it what you want...just keep being happy!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 Doesn't matter what you call it, a rose by any other name smells as sweet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): If vows have been taken then it's marriage, if marriage is proposed and accepted then it's an engagement, but if your neither of those, but have someone then it's with someone thats the way i see it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): At only 2 months, it's normal for it not to be an exclusive relationship since you are still getting to know one another. At some point though, the guy will want to make it known that your "his" and should be proud to call you his girlfriend. If that doesn't happen, it usually means he wants to keep his options open until the right person comes along. Things should naturally progress to that stage and if they don't and you are stagnant and start wondering where things are going, then you have a problem of him just wasting your time.
I think you have the right attitude at this stage so early in the relationship though.
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