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writes:My boyfriend and I have become really close, and I trust him with everything except telling him my GPA.I know it sounds moronic but I go to a very good college where people are quite intense, and he's a pre-med near the top of the class. He also assumes I have a very high GPA as well, but mine is more like 3.0 and since we just finished junior year I can't change it much now. It was the result of difficulty adjusting freshman year, and not perhaps doing the best I could in some classes later on.I always feel like he could easily go for someone much much better. He's pretty intense about everything as well, though he appreciates that I'm a lot more laid back. However I feel like he would either consider my low GPA a fatal flaw in me or at least see me very differently if he found out.So far I've avoided discussing grades by simply telling him I really don't like to talk about it, but it'll come up soon now that it's going to be senior year and I'll be applying for (and being rejected from) grad schools and internships. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): Ha, love the disrobing advice.
I seriously doubt your GPA is going to make or break your relationship, if it does then he is a bit daft.
If he is going to be a doctor, he may want you to stay home and be his personal assistant should you marry, who knows! Not that you would want that.
You can still improve your GPA, take some extra courses, work for one of the professors and do research, it is an automatic A...At least that used to be available at my college.
Tell him to get it off your chest and clear your doubts.
Stop telling yourself you aren't good enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): Just tell him :) From a relationship point of view, how he reacts will give you an even better idea of what kind of person he is. As for yourself, understand that the longer you delay telling him, the more self-doubt you will have. By making the choice to tell him, you will have at least some control over your fear. By the way, if you feel your legs shaking when telling him, that's perfectly normal.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 May 2009):
 A 3.0 at a "very good college" is a commendable GPA. I'm sure he will have no problem with it especially if you follow q's advice! Totally acceptable at most grad schools by the way.
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