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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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Boyfriend suddenly needs space. Do I give him space? Or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months suddenly says he needs to "reconnect" with his friends (aka drinking buddies) and plans to stay out every Friday night with them. He says I'm not invited "for now" - and besides I work at 7AM on Saturdays and he wants to s...
A. 26 May 2013: Then it's different, it's not really a problem of he wanting space or you being a bit clingy, it's a problem of you dating an addict, or someone who seems heading in that direction .
You will have to decide on your own what your values and deal... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 22 May 2013: I take it that the blah blah blah opinions of all this bunch of nosy judgemental strangers must be sort of similar to those of your own parents ,though... since they have not been informed about the sleeping arrangements...
If you think your... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 22 May 2013: Op, I did not say it " should not " be erotic. I am saying, if it's erotic, as the red blooded male that you are , just portray it, communicate it , ACT on it as erotic , without passing it off , to yourself or to them, as "just cuddles " or ... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 22 May 2013: I don't think it's strange that a 36-40 y.o man is attracted to much younger women , it may be socially and psychologically not advisable in many cases, but it's natural.
What I find strange, is that this 36-40 man can't just have balls and ACT ... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 21 May 2013: Sure, OP, let's agree to disagree , and I accept that your personal experiences and observations, in different places , times and social milieus from mine, suggests you differently. I would be more of a dickhead than I normally am credited for ... (read in full...)
What do you think his deal is? Does he just want to be friends with benefits? Or is he just shy and reserved?
Q. This guy I've been hooking up with, seeing, hanging out with...not sure what to call it, is confusing me so much. I'm so unsure of how he feels towards me. Right now, I would describe our relationship as FWB. We met at work. At work, he remains...
A. 21 May 2013: It sounds like a normal FWB to me.
I don't know where people got the idea that FWBs cannot have conversations, cuddle, spend the night, etc- and that FWB must mean " right after sex you put your panties on and are out of the door ". In fact, it's... (read in full...)
It upsets me that my son won't speak to me. Should my parents be offering him special treats, even though he disrespects me?
Q. I've fallen out with my son, about 6 months ago. I'm perfectly willing to discuss whatever's bothering him, and try and resolve it. He's 20 ,and a very strong character. He simply won't speak to me. He sees my parents about once a week, and I...
A. 21 May 2013: Well, no, frankly I think it is a very bad idea.
You have got to understand that you fell out with your son, your parents did not. You have problems with him, your parents don't.
I am sure they are upset about the situation too, and that the... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 21 May 2013: Then maybe you got asleep halfway through the Sunday sermon OP, because you have missed the basic points : I was not talking about unwelcome touching, which would be , anyway, not a cuddle , but ..a criminal charge .
I was talking about will... (read in full...)
Her family doesn't approve of us dating and its bleeding into our relationship
Q. I'm really concerned about my girlfriend and the future of our relationship. The background is this: Her family has never approved of her very much. If she didn't get perfect grades, it was reason to ground her - and by that I mean confined to...
A. 21 May 2013: Yours IS an unreasonable expectation ! Sneaking out in the backyard, waiting till everybody's asleep...why should she indulge you in playing Romeo and Juliet ? When you can simply WAIT a couple of days and you'll talk to her on Mondays, what's the ... (read in full...)
Keep getting text messages from a very weird guy. Advice?
Q. I was at a party a couple of weeks ago and bumped into one of my old friends whom I hadn't seen for a while. We used to get on really well and she introduced me to some of the people she'd come with, including this guy. I said hi to him and everyone ...
A. 20 May 2013: OP, I lived many years in your country and I don't think it's a culture clash. Americans too can be very forward, insistent and unable to take a hint. Men of all cultures don't do too well with hints, or choose not to.
The guy was tryng his luck... (read in full...)
Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I've been with Steve over 1 year. I'd consider myself a fairly attractive and confident 26 year old, he's 31. We've had an extremely tough year so please bear with the long background info. I used to work with Steve then...
A. 20 May 2013: No.
You say he went " off " but, well, if he had two other gfs 8 months into your one year relationship , then he was not much " on " even before, was he ?
Then, you cheated too, and this makes you " even " , so to speak. In theory , as you have... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 20 May 2013: OP, no offence but your question sounded a little bit bizarre to me. It's like you are surprised that some girls ( MOST girls, I'd say ) could very possibly be cheesed off. Why are you surprised ?
Communication is based on codes, social codes that... (read in full...)
So why am I feeling conflicted about progressing this to sex with her? Seemed the logical next option.
Q. I've recently began a self-improvement kick, beginning to exercise, be more social, exude confidence. I'm getting female attention for the first time in ages. I really hit it off with a girl at a party last week, we spoke a lot and ended up holding ...
A. 19 May 2013: It's difficult to answer you, specially to me who am always preaching on DC the theory of " buyer beware ", i.e. if a person wants more than just sex, then she/ he must never assume what she is offered is more than sex, until he / she is PROVEN ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 18 May 2013: OP, if I were your mom and read your update with its fuzzy approximative incorrect notions about safe sex, and its totally naive assumptions ( less than 3 months...in a LDR.. and he has PROVEN to you "he is different " )... I would not let you go ... (read in full...)
Not crazy about my husband but feel I should stay for the child
Q. I really need some advice. i am in a marriage that fell apart. a part of me wants to stay because i have a young child with my husband. my husband and i met when we were 22. we have been together for 20 years. he was my first true love. it has been ...
A. 17 May 2013: In your last sentence you gave yourself the answer to yoiur question. You DON'T really want to try and make it work ( not that I can blame you ! ). You don't really want to put anymore time, effort and money into this marriage than it alreday ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's mom had a health scare and now she drops everything for mom!
Q. My GF needs some help and I'm not sure what I can do. I've been with her 4 years and everything has been good. We're compatible, we resolve disagreements quick, etc. I'm not going to bore you with a list of how great things usually are... ...
A. 17 May 2013: What about being a bit more patient and a little less self centered ? That's her mom, for Pete's sake ! Your Gf got scared, mightily scared, she explained you her human, natural thought process very clearly and precisely. Will it go on like this ... (read in full...)
My coworker gives my butterflies is it morally right to invite I'm to dinner knowing he is spoken for?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I am in Lust with one of my co- workers at my job but he is spoken for we flirt with each other every time we get a chance over the week end I spoke to him on the phone my heart was melting with pleasure I could n't believe I was talking ...
A. 17 May 2013: Yes ,it's wrong, it's the intention that counts. If you really only wanted to have dinner with him, you could suggest dining out in a restaurant- and maybe his gf could tag along too :).
The reason why you want him at your home is that you hope... (read in full...)
I'm sick of his ex! Will she ever be out of the picture?
Q. hi all thank you for taking the time to read this. i have fallen in love with a man who is 25 yrs older than me and im having his baby. the problem is, is that his stupid ex wife will not get it through her head that i am with him now. i had to w...
A. 17 May 2013: He will never cheat on you ?... Do you know that for a fact ? How ?
After all, that's exactly what he had promised his ex when he married her, and probably what she kept believing for many many years until... surprise surprise.
Congr... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any right to be angry? Or was I to blame for being naive?
Q. Well I was dating a guy for a month. It was a LDR and on the third date, I had to spend the night at his, due to distance. The date did not go too well, we had a bit of a falliing out but made up. In the night, he said he would prepare the spare ro...
A. 16 May 2013: Still unjustified.
You are 30 - 35, not 17. By now ,I am sure you know about " buyer beware ". The guy is a perfect stranger, you have seen him 3 times, the very fact that he started talking about marryng you and having your kids without, basi... (read in full...)
Urgent, Help required About Divorce and remarriage.....?
Q. hi, my friend is planned to marry a guy which is second marriage to him. That guys wife applied for divorce 5 years back.....But still the case is in process. So my doubt is whether my friend can marry him or she has to wait until his guy gets div...
A. 16 May 2013: No she can't . Under Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, section 17 they would be committing bigamy ,which is punished by the Indian Penal Code ( sec. 494 and 495 ).
Ditto if they marry only civilly under Special Marriage Act, 1954 ( sec. 44 )
Bigam... (read in full...)
Will it be weird if I'm the only one wearing a long dress?
Q. Im going to graduation soon and i bought this white long dress to wear during graduation. It looks really nice to me but all of my friend says they are going to wear knee length dresses. I want to know what are your opinions and advices and should i ...
A. 16 May 2013: Be your own person - make fashion, rather than following it.
The dress is nice, it suits you, you love it and feel good in it - just wear it with panache and confidence. If you stand out from the crowd ,it will be in a positive way :)... (read in full...)
How long till I start dating again?
Q. the love of my life of 4 years broke up with me over a text and left with a guy she just met, and just got out of jail,i dont even know where she is. how long till i start dating again or seeing other girls?...
A. 16 May 2013: Whenever you feel ready , -when you can put at least some of your heart on it.
Don't feel like you have to start rebounding like crazy, just to keep up with your ex ; you would waste your time, and the girls' time, and probbaly create nedd... (read in full...)
Should I keep the shirt or return it to my ex?
Q. I was with my ex for 4 years and was in LDR for two years. I'm not a person that would ask for promises or commitment while my ex gave me his life commitment and talked about our future all the time. I ended my relationship last week because he's ...
A. 16 May 2013: Keep it. If he wanted it back,he would have asked for it. ... (read in full...)
If he thought I was pretty and he liked me, why wouldn't he just ask me out already?
Q. Alright so this isn't really a question but more of a combination of a question and a rant. It might be really long but I really need help with this. Its kind of a long story so last year was my first year in highschool. my first semester instea...
A. 16 May 2013: Honey, you should wake up and smell the coffee. You want back what you had... you had nothing. You had a horny smug little rascal that ,while dating more " popular " girls , was perving on you because he sensed that you were fascinated with him, ... (read in full...)
I want a relationship just not sure if I want it with him
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm in a situation where I really don't understand my own feelings, and I don't think that's ever happened to me before. There's this guy I'm crazy about, when we're together I feel in love, we have great conversations, the...
A. 16 May 2013: We are of course in the realm of wild guesses, ..but I'd say intuition. You feel something is off, something sounds fake , or is too good to be true, or ,as you say, deep down you know you do not belong to each other, you are not really compatible. ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the usual "what do you want to do? Whatever you want..." situation?
Q. I've been dating my gf for the last 2.5 years. We've had our ups and downs but so far we're happy. Point of contention: she always ends up picking what we're doing on our dates, at least 4/5 times. The conversation is the usual cliché: Me: I...
A. 15 May 2013: It does not seem TOO difficult to solve in a non-conflictual way.
Tell her that from now on, you'd really like to share equitable responsibility for the organization of your free time, and take turns in picking what to do. When it's her turn... (read in full...)
Is this how brother in laws are? I don't like mine!
Q. Hello this isn't a relationship question but I need advice because I really dislike my brother in law who is married to my sister, I just want to slowly cut all contact with them. I know this doesn't make much sense but he treats her very badly, she ...
A. 15 May 2013: I can only talk for MY brother in law who is absolutely an angel and a joy to be around ( except for being a vegan, with the annoying habit to STILL ,after so many years, to try and convert ME to veganism ; with his wife, he gave up). But it ... (read in full...)
I think my Sis FWB guy likes me!
Q. Help aunts! Ok so my sis is in a FWB with this guy. Hes telling her he loves her and that they should become a couple. She sayin she likes him and that she cares. Now the problem is, about 1 month and a half ago my sis FWB guy text me. Hes say...
A. 15 May 2013: No, don't leave it alone. Tell your sister, show her the texts, tell her frankly that you are not 100 % sure that this person is her FWB, and explain her the reasons and circumstances that made you think it was him. It's a reasonable, legitimate ... (read in full...)
HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship
Q. I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...
A. 15 May 2013: To start, make it 60 pounds overweight:). At 5'5 you can be around 145 pounds and still be at an healthy weight, you won't have fashion model proportions but you still can be attractive and HEALTHY.
There are Aunts and Uncles on this site who are ... (read in full...)
I'd like to take a break to give my boyfriend time to miss me but will have no one around to bolster me
Q. I'd like to take a break from my boyfriend for about three weeks in order for him to miss me and appreciate me more. However, as much as I'd like to do it, for the next few months my company with be low so there'll be not many people around to get ...
A. 15 May 2013: I don't know, OP, personally I am very skeptical about " breaks ", I do not get their purpose. If there are problems in a relationship, a couple tackles them TOGETHER, talks them out, finds a strategy or a compromise, ... basically that's what ... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 15 May 2013: Female anon of may 15th, pardon me, but you just have discovered hot water. Of course if the guy had been a real man who is not abusive in nature he would have been cordial, civil, etc. !
The point is exactly that he was NOT- and the OP chose HIM... (read in full...)
What are your views on no sex before marriage?
Q. I am Christian but nondenominational and I honestly can't decide whether I should wait till marriage and the most committed relationship possible to have sex or have fun, play the field and get experienced with boyfriends at college. I would love to ...
A. 15 May 2013: As others posters have remarked, it does not have to be so black or white, between the two extremes of total abstinence and total promiscuity, there's a lot of in between. Like , maybe, treating sex like a serious matter and not just a recreational ... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 14 May 2013: I am not sure what kind of advice you are looking for, since you know being a mistress is wrong, and since you never wanted to be one. Are you hoping to find someone who'll tell you that it is a good idea staying and adjusting to play second fiddle ... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 14 May 2013: He is your best friend, and he is physically abusive and he calls you whore !? Then , I don't want to know your worst enemy !
Ok, you are sad and upset, and you want someone who tells you " You poor little thing, no you did not do anything to d... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 14 May 2013: Thank you for the update(s). I am glad for you, this is actually even better news than you probably think. If your bf took the step to involve his mother and have her sort of use her authority about the issue, it means that you really got through to ... (read in full...)
I am really mad at how he ended our relationship!
Q. Just realized that my boyfriend dumped me over Facebook! How immature and obnoxious is that? We are talking about a 28 year old guy here! We were on a break, and as everyone, I expected him to contact me in order to know if we would stay toget...
A. 14 May 2013: Aren't you jumping the gun a bit ? I don't see how putting up group pics with you in them equals to a break up.
Mind you, I am very suspicious of breaks, to me they are just the wussy way of inching out of a relationship that has run its cour... (read in full...)
He wants me to wear lingere but I don't think it suits me
Q. I’m not really sure how to begin but I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, he’s 26 almost 27 and I’m 23. We were really close friends for probably 3 years before we started dating. So my boyfriend and I have been having… I wouldn’t call it a fight ...
A. 14 May 2013: There's two issues here, lingerie and faster sex.
As for the first, no need to be wary. The right lingerie makes everybody look sexy and everybody feel sexy, and it never ever looks wrong on anybody including ancient grandmothers.
We need to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly needs space. Do I give him space? Or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months suddenly says he needs to "reconnect" with his friends (aka drinking buddies) and plans to stay out every Friday night with them. He says I'm not invited "for now" - and besides I work at 7AM on Saturdays and he wants to s...
A. 14 May 2013: I agree with k_c 100. I am a woman too, and, personally, I never wanted and would not want now a partner tied to my apron's strings 365 nights in a year. Yes, maybe his passtimes are a bit " juvenile "... but, if you feel uncomfortable evry time ... (read in full...)
Do you stay out of the financial decisions your fiance makes with his children from another marriage?
Q. We live together. My fiance has two adult children from his first marriage. His son has a nice job and a new girlfriend. His son moved out of his apartment with his last girlfriend...he broke it off with her. His son is now moving into an ...
A. 13 May 2013: I haven't dealt with these issues, but ,for what is worth, I'd deal with them just like you did - NO COMMENT - because I think , whether one likes it or not, it's the only way to deal with them. In fact, I would do an extra effort and try ... (read in full...)
Why do these girls act the way that they do?
Q. What are these girls problems? Am I overreacting? So I've liked this really sweet and cute guy for a while now. We talk abit and hang out sometimes but we are both so quiet and shy around eachother. Anyway, 2 of his girly friends have ...
A. 13 May 2013: Ok, so the first two girls we got them pegged :), they have a weakness for the dude too and they feel they are in competition with you for his attention and preference.
But your friend.... my normally suspicious mind does not get activated this... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a baby now but my fiance wants to wait a few years
Q. I am having a bad case of baby fever, I'm afraid. I've always loved kids and adored the thought of having my own. I work at a daycare, and I am responsible for 4 infants on my own. I love it. It's difficult at times, especially when they're all ...
A. 13 May 2013: You should read aloud to yourself 100 times what you have written : " We are not financially ready for a child " until it sinks in.
It's not just a matter of what you want and crave and yearn for, it's also a matter of what a child needs and dese... (read in full...)
Is it too soon in our relationship to consider starting a family?
Q. Boyfriend and I are together 8 months. I'm on the patch so this may be a silly question! I finished my period last week and had sex with the boyfriend and now my breasts are very very sore, all over and nipples and a bit veiny. I also felt dizzy and ...
A. 13 May 2013: I think that's inprobable you are pregnant- if you were, the levels of pregnancy hormons in your body would be too low yet to cause the symptoms you describe, which almost never appear before the 6th week of pregnancy ( = 4 weeks from conceiving ... (read in full...)
Should I wait until he contacts me to end it?
Q. So.. This will be long. I've posted here some questions about my 30yo boyfriend's behavior: - "why does he live with his mom if he's in the military and is supposed to have a pig paycheck" - "why does he always tells the exactly same story abo...
A. 12 May 2013: 95% ? Make that 99,98%. As you have noticed, it's really uncanny that in 9 months all his messages ( and other people's ) went through, but they don't just the one time something serious is supposed to have happened. And with his track record... he ... (read in full...)
She snuggled me, I kissed her, so what do I do next?
Q. There is this girl I really like. The last night on the way back to school from a gradventure field trip she called me over on the bus. She asked me if she could fall asleep on me. I told her that I didn't mind. As she was sleeping or at least she ...
A. 12 May 2013: Green light : ). She likes you. Call her and ask her out.... (read in full...)
Wife of many years slept with another man while we were dating and now dealing with it.....
Q. Hey guys, hopefully you can help. My wife and I met in University and when on a date. I then went home for spring break and we spoke every night for hours on end. During these conversations we discussed how many people we had been with, past ...
A. 12 May 2013: Yes, you've got to get over it.
I leave to other posters the inevitable and probably lengthy debate about a ) the nature of your Retroactive Jealousy ( is RJ a mental illness ? an evolutionary trait ? the consequence of an hyperthrophic ego, or t... (read in full...)
How can I walk away from this relationship without hurting myself?
Q. I have a boyfriend for already four years. The second year into our relationship he was not working and it aggravated me because it brought alot of problems. Eventually I got so annoyed, I went back to NY (we had moved to California) to just get ...
A. 12 May 2013: My advice will sound banal and predictable, but I really think it's nonetheless valid : cut your losses ASAP and leave him to his beloved Sim City. You don't want to be hurt, and maybe leaving will hurt a bit... but nothing compared to how much ... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 18 April 2013: Talking to him at his dad's house ,or somewhere where you you can be alone and will not be interrupted by Plain Jane :), is a very good idea.
Btw, I'd deal my issue directly with the bf, leave the girl out of it. She is not your friend or rela... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 17 April 2013: 1)OP, unluckily, at least that I know, there is no foolproof method , short of physical violence, to make other people do what you like, or stop doing what you don't like. All you can do is to explain clearly what you don't like and why you ... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 17 April 2013: Dear OP, you can do what you want, of course, but " jump to dump " often is not the superficial ,banal approach that you think it is. Often it is , in fact, if not the only, the smartest solution , and I'll try to show you why.
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