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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What to do when she is the more experienced one?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So there's this dude, we'll call him, simply, Dude who likes this girl, we'll call this girl Lady Friend. Now, Dude has never gone 'all the way' whereas Lady Friend is more experienced than Dude. Lady Friend and Dude have been friends for a while and have shared a couple ... (124 words)

He doesn't feel the same, I love him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to tell a guy i,ve been dating I love him but I know that will finish us dating 4-5 months now and I really love him and I know he doesn't feel the same. How can I approach this with him or should I leave it alone... (49 words)

Should I tell him that I know about his activity on the swingers' site?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi, my bf and myself are in our mid forties, and been together for just over a year. I am very attracted to my bf and i can honestly say that this is the first man i've been with that i really don't want anyone else and never look at another man! (i was married for 20 yrs a... (353 words)

Worried about visiting my mother without my b/f?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there! I need a little bit of help! Im a 21 yr old female at uni. I live with my boyfriend who I met at uni 2 years ago and we have lived together from practically the first time we met! I'm very attached to him and I know I love him lots, anyway we go and see my mum regu... (255 words)

Can too much be a bad thing?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, So I'm over the "is my penis size to small or, how do i know if its the right size" I have a much more inportant matter at hand... So here is the story, I'v been with my new girlfriend for about a year not and we have been having sex(We have both had parters bef... (243 words)

27 virgin who has never dated. Is there hope for me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am a 27 year old man who is also a virgin. I have never dated, never kissed never been in a relationship at all. All I have ever done is had cybersex and phonesex. If I ever do manage to meet a woman that wants to have sex with me I'm afraid I will fail miserably because I'm ... (98 words)

I like my teacher but I know its a bad thing!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. I need some advice. I'm a teenager, and I SWEAR I have the HUGEST crush on my teacher. Its like a crush from elementary school, that's what kind of crush I have. I looove his personality. He tells us a lot of stuff... But I think its a bad thing to like your teacher. I ... (70 words)

B/f flirting with friend and now we've had a falling out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need advice. So i just posted a question about the same topic but the problem has grown and got worse. So a knew boy came to live near me, i have known him form being tiny, our familys know eachother and they knew eachother as kids. His mum was talking to me on facebook the ... (700 words)

Not sure why I act so strange...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I feel like I am a bully.I don't have a Facebook so I don't bully others online. I insult others in my head but I dont say it out loud all the time. I feel like I do it because I have no confidence and need to make myself feel better. I lie to others to get people to feel bad ... (136 words)

Worried about girlfriends genital irritation

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello over there... I am very worried of my wife who of late told me that she is having an irritation on her genitals since last month! Most of the time that we have sex she may go dry and saliva comes to aid... My worry is ..is it the contraceptive she uses "Depo ... (82 words)

Contact fizzles out after a date, what am I doing wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been a member on a dating website for a couple of months now,and have met a few different people,and the same thing seems to happen. There seems to be interest at first,and then it fizzles out. I actually made it through a few dates with the most recent one,and n... (367 words)

I like a girl, but her cousin is my friend. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi So im here to talk about my issue and i do know its not a huge problem but it does mean lots to me. So i'v seen this girl many times and iv always liked cute girls so anyway this girl lives in my neighborhood and when i mean with seen the girl then i mean never spoke to h... (489 words)

Boyfriend is having to leave with family!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hey i don't know what to do right now. See the guy i love and who is my boyfriend we have been going out for a year now and he is just after telling me that he has to go away forever because something to do with his parents and money. He has to go away to poland and he has been... (155 words)

Is this a fair arrangement?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am a single mom, with one pre-school child. I live with my boyfriend. My question is about expenses. We split the rent 50/50, I buy all the groceries, and he pays all the car expenses(it is his car). He will not share any expenses regarding my daughter. He also makes mo... (86 words)

Nerves about my performance, how can I stop this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am a little nervous about performance anxiety. I've slept with two girls and with both of them I've had this trouble. I don't understand why I have performance anxiety as it isn't as though I lack confidence in myself I am very happy in myself. However, when it comes t... (226 words)

He's so cold to me now we've slept together

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and i have been together for about ten months.we had sex after three months of our relationship,but that changed everything between us.he is so cold to me,he doesn't care to answer my calls and if he does,his response is so cold.he also doubt if i was a virgin ... (76 words)

I miss my cousin terribly

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Ahhhhhh I'm going crazy!!! Its not even been thirty days since I last saw her... My cousin, I mean, I miss her a lot... Days are as mundane as a rainy blackout afternoon Tuesday. My heart is just aching for her... She only lives seven miles away but cause of my current state ... (99 words)

Do you ever get over a first love?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age - Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady's please, it is some... (64 words)

He's always so busy!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My guy is a workaholic. We both go to a prestigious university so there is always a lot of schoolwork and he is an engineering major so his workload is heavier than mine. Not only that, he is involved in a bunch of organizations and is a member of Kappa Alpha Psi fraternity ... (421 words)

He doesn't speak for days after we've seen each other

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i only see my boyfriend once in a while, but when i do see him, he doesnt really talk to me for like 3 or 4 days afterwards. We are both grown adults. Why do you think he does this?... (40 words)

Problem in the bedroom

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How can I help my boyfriend with erection issues? What can be done? My boyfriend is 26 and we've been dating a couple months. Our sex life has been far from sucessful. I had barely any sexual experience and he hadn't had sex for years. We spend a few nights a week at each oth... (202 words)

Commitment - Phob - a load of BS??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been "seeing" this guy for about six months now. We sleep together regularly...we spend a lot of time together...alone and in groups - we share many mutual friends. We have never labeled what "We are" but we both acknowledge our care for one another, all of our friends ... (202 words)

B/f says I'm not his rebound, but I worry about it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. Well this is a strange question, I guess what I’m asking is if my relationship seems normal and that I’m not being used as a rebound. Firstly, we have been together ten months, nearly eleven. I met him four months nearly five months after he had split with his girlfriend of ... (406 words)

Don't want to stay, can't leave, what do you do with a marriage like this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) age - Probably this is a very classic situation. 25 year long marriage went cold. My husband stopped looking at me, touching at me etc. There is no sex, affection, years ago. He went into silence, and passive aggressive responses. When ask why, he just says, I DON'T KNOW , ITS NO... (206 words)

Marriage in trouble..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am unhappy because I haven't been getting along with my husband for a while as he has done and said a number of things over the last few months which have really hurt me. These things revolve around him talking to his exes and not caring for my feelings generally. He now ... (146 words)

I neeed HELP!!!!!! virgin about to make biggest mistake of his life!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My friend is 19 and a virgin. We are both going to the same college. He met this girl at a school party and she gave him head over the weekend. She later asked how many gilrs he has been with and he said 0. Her roomate is leaving this week and she invited him to drop her off at ... (339 words)

I have left my family home and don't wish to return but my father is threatening to cut me off!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My parents are really hands on type of parents who some times can be wayy to strict. My parents are very religious and they have a lot of rules when it comes to dating.I have 5 brothers and sister. We arent allowed to really date. We can group date and hang out and things like ... (322 words)

How do I tell him that I don't want a man in my life anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age - I've divorced my husband. We've been married for 20 years. My husband is 10 years older than me is a selfish controlling and very mean with money. Even if needed he wont spend. I've met this man 16 years older have the same issue - money is everything in his life. I know ... (137 words)

How can I incorporate psychology into my journalism career?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - dear cupid, this isn't a relationship question, but i figured that it wouldn't hurt to take a chance on someone being able to provide me an answer here. anyways... my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend hurt him really badly--she cheated on him multiple times and was just gene... (583 words)

I hit my girlfriend's brother in the face during a game of cricket and now she wont speak to me! Is she blowing this out of proportion?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - 10 days back, while playing game of Cricket , I hit my girlfriend’s brother in the face. Before that , he hit me for two long hits "Six Runs hit" which I couldn’t digest and bowled the next delivery with my full force, the ball took off from good length and it hit him in t... (372 words)

What are some of the easiest ways for a 23 year old man to get a date?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am just trying to brian storm on how I can meet some desireable women? Meaning young ladies who are good hearted and not sassy in their attitudes, are not male bashers and have a sweet and loving attitude towards guys. I'm very forgiving so I honestly do not care if she's ... (122 words)

Do I have anything to be worried about? How can I confront her without letting on that I snooped?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I've been dating this girl for about 5 months. We live together now and everything. We've had very little problems so far and everything has been amazing. I'm a very insecure person because I've been cheated on in the past - and this lead me to look through some of ... (275 words)

I feel no matter what I do I will never be able to pay my wife back after she did so much for me! How can I make sure she never has any complaints in life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - In May 1996, while I was on visit visa to States to attend one of my cousins wedding there, I fell in love with 15 years old school going American girl and I was 18 then. Upon my return from there, we kept it going through phone and transferred it to webcam meeting through ... (316 words)

Did my ex miss me? Does he still love me? Should we be friends?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I want to know how to go about a situation. I used to date this gemini guy in high school, 9 years later we started talking again and we clicked from the start. he made me happy and I know I made him happy. everything was perfect we started getting serious and I was prepared to ... (375 words)

Honest opinions: Are all boys like this over oral sex or is he out of order?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi, have been with my bf for 5 years. we are both 26. we keep on having the same arguement ALL the time its regarding oral sex and we he nearly finished our relationship over it a couple of weeks ago. bjs are really important to him but i really don't like doing them but... (313 words)

Is getting him back a realistic aim? My bf went back to his wife, will he ever come back to me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 29, 5 months pregnant. My bf left me after I called him COWARD because he was too afraid to show his face to my parents and stand up for our baby. After a day, his sister told me that he's gone back to his wife. I am in so much pain right now, but I have to move on for t... (94 words)

Was I hoping for more than my FWB can give? Should I wait or contact him to ask about his "no show"?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone my fwb was supposed to cook for me last night, and I was supposed to be staying at his. But I have not heard from him for over a week now, this is not unusual, though what should I do? should I text him? or should I wait for him to get in touch with me first? We hav... (100 words)

do guys even want to be in a casual relationship with a girl who doesn't want to offer him sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i've recently starting hanging out with a guy who is in an open relationship with another girl. this works for me as i'm not interested in anything serious, i just enjoy the flirting and the company because we are both attracted to each other. the thing is i've made it clear ... (88 words)

B/f wants to give me oral sex but I feel insecure about it

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi :) So just wanted to talk about a problem im having and hope you guys can offer some reassurance.. Iv been dating a guy for about 3 months now and its all going great. we've been sleeping together for about a month now and really care about each other. But the other... (176 words)

Struggling to get my 14 year old to open up about her first love and first break-up, any other moms going through this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi...so, my 14 year old "little" girl has just experienced her first love and now it seems like her first breakup!..She is not allowed to go on dates yet, but the young boy often came to our house over weekends..and every now and then a group of teens would go out with my ... (154 words)

Why do I have the worst of luck in everything, including love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - My main question here is why do I have the worst luck. I wonder, am I cursed? I mean, I haven't had one girl say that they liked me, I also was rejected once. I don't mean to start any religious conflict, but does someone "up there" hate me?? Let me explain what happened to me ... (349 words)

Was I wrong to tell him to stop induldging me in the details of his life? We cant be together because he has a child and a girlfriend....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - He's my X, and now we are just friends. we couldn't be together because his got a child and a live in girlfriend. so we decided to be friends. though we are still in love with each other. However when he calls which is often, he's telling me everything that is going on i... (139 words)

What do you think, is it over? What would you do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid My question links on from this previous question... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-relationship-was-amazing-and-now-i-need.html Basically I gave my gf space for five days. Come Saturday I left her a voicemail saying I hoped she was well and that I... (442 words)

Is he loosing interest or just not enough communication?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - question: i'm starting 2 feel my boyfriend doesn't care about me well first off we are long distant relationship so i feel we should communicate more to feel closer to each other well he got me mad cause he was lagging it and than when i called him he said he was talking to ... (233 words)

She says she wants to be friends, doesn't want to lead me on

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I was recently with a girl. It took me a lot to get her, she has committment problems because of a past relationship. She tends to push people that make her happy away, like me. All was going well until she ignored me for a week. When she did talk to me she said she can't do ... (161 words)

After 10 years is a future with an ex worth hoping for?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have spent since February with out a woman. Dateless for the most part and am now wondering about getting back into the dating world. It's a funny thing that has happened to me. I am 33 years old now. I am told I have always gone for the woman who needs help due to spending ... (245 words)

I'm worried about my parents' reaction to this interracial relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a white girl who's developing feelings for a guy who's Cambodian. While our differences in race do not bother me at all, I'm worried about how my parents will react if anything truly develops between me and the boy I like. While I'm legally an adult (I'm 19, almost 20 years ... (325 words)

Not sure if she likes me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi. I'm a freshman at college and I'm not sure whether a girl likes me or not (I have quite a huge crush on her) - it's kind of depressing and driving me nuts. We're in the same course. She always uses my name in a conversation (after she found out my first name). For examp... (172 words)

He's been away for three months, now when he's finally coming back home-he tells me he's thinking of going back again!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My guy has been gone for three months because of a work project in Costa Rica and he's supposed to come back in early Nov. Today, he told me he might have to go back again but it's voluntary-he wants to go back. Ok. But then he says he's missed me and texts/calls me as much as ... (133 words)

23 and never been kissed or in a relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Why am I single? I feel like everything I do gets effed up or something. And really badly too. The guys that are into me I'm not into. The guys who it was mutual with either didn't want to be in a serious relationship or there was a whole love triangle and friendship won... (212 words)

Why is my fiance trying to look different?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used to criticize tanning saying i... (279 words)

Online dating--I'm ok till they ask to meet and then I get scared!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, I am not sure if any of you have had the experience of online dating? I have recently signed up on OkCupid, and it seems to be a very polite and good site - people there are not particularly sketchy, and are fairly friendly. I have been asked to coffee from a fe... (209 words)

Was he cheating? What does this guy want out of the relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - well, not sure how to start this question.. My boyfriend and I had ended our relationship. What happened the last time I went to his house, I noticed that everthing was password protected, when he never had it like that before, his laptops, his phone and he even went into t... (479 words)

I cheated on my g/f and the guilt is really getting to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - i really love my girlfriend weve been together for about a year. but one day a couple months ago i cheated on her. with an ex. i went pretty far. right after it was done annd i went home i immediately cried. ive been crying since they day it happened. which has been a couple ... (109 words)

How should I go about asking my ex when is he going to start spending night at home again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age - How should I go about asking my ex when is he going to start spending night at home again: Hello me and my ex are friends be broke up 2 months this Friday well week before last him and his daughter fell out he has been staying with me ever since I am starting to think that it... (139 words)

How to win his heart back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - what do you do when he claims he doesn't like you anymore, but deep down you know he does...how do you win his heart back, or atleast get him to admit that he still has feelings for you, i've seen it in movies but movies lie :(... (47 words)

Could he have food poisoning?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, my bf has been going to the bathroom every 5-10 mins. He has been cramping and every time he eats it's hurts his stomach and basically feels like he have to use the bathroom constantly. It's loose stool only a bit. It's been going on almost 2 weeks now. And also I think he ... (73 words)

I'm so stuck - days just go by and life keeps ticking away and I just don't know what to do

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in a rut and have been for a long time (although I appreciate many people are!). The last 10 years in my head are nothing but a blurred montage of bad decisions, depression, regret, anxiety, ill health and lack of motivation. From about 16 everything seemed to go dow... (579 words)

3,000 miles separating them, will their LDR work out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay my sister is 22 and her boyfriend is 23. They both graduated from college but her boyfriend moved to New York for a job and now he's living there. My sister is working at a hospital here in Seattle (working in a hospital is her dream job). They dated all throughout ... (139 words)

Should I let him say he loves me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend, and he says he loves me. I'm 16 and he's 15. It's probably not love rather than it is an infatuation...But do I let him say that he loves me? ... (40 words)

Is spending most of his free time with me how he shows his love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

18 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - We've been together 1 year--overall it's been good, but because he's so reluctant to verbalize his feelings and can't financially really buy me "stuff" (that I really don't need or want to be honest), I grasp for other signs of his love. I had a few minutes that I could vis... (207 words)