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writes:I've divorced my husband. We've been married for 20 years. My husband is 10 years older than me is a selfish controlling and very mean with money. Even if needed he wont spend. I've met this man 16 years older have the same issue - money is everything in his life. I know it after the first date but decide to give it a go. He is helpful and supportive while I was going through my divorce. We've been together for 2 years now but living in separate home so I dont feel as bad as living together. I start to feel frustrated and dont want any man in my life anymore. He is a good man and love me. How do I tell him? Please help.
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Its never easy to end things with someone, especially if they have been kind to you. The best way to do this is to be gentle but firm, telling him how much you appreciate everything that he has done for you, and while you care for him, you cannot be involved right now. Do not lead him on hoping that you will change your mind, or that you are taking a break. If you really want to end things, make sure that you state it that way so he doesn't sit around hoping you will change your mind. The best way is a smooth clean break and do not stay in contact unless BOTH of you realize its STRICTLY for friendship only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): I would tell him that, you apprecaite everything he's done for you, but at this time you're just not ready to have a relationship with anyone. Say you feel that you need to take time to be on your own and you don't know when or if you will be ready for romantic involvment any time soon.
There really is not an easy way to tell someone it is over. Just try to be polite and don't be harsh or critisizing.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Be upfront, or things will only get worse.
Make sure you don't want a man, any man, in your life as opposed to that particular man you're involved with.
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