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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am a little nervous about performance anxiety.I've slept with two girls and with both of them I've had this trouble.I don't understand why I have performance anxiety as it isn't as though I lack confidence in myself I am very happy in myself. However, when it comes to sex despite being told I am apparently 'amazing' when I do have my good days. I also have days where I just can't get the idea of losing an erection out of my mind. I am fine in the foreplay, like most people with this usually are but as soon as it comes to penetrating I cannot get an erection and if I do it is a weak one that doesn't last very long. What I need to know is how can I just relax and keep performance problems out of my mind. I know the only reason it happens is because I think about it but when I am getting closer to sex I can't manage to free my mind from this thought. I know I need to be totally relaxed and connected to the girl but with this running through my head I can't be.Any ideas on how to stop this?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 well you are young so maybe it's your body's way of saying "hey i'm not ready"
perhaps you need to wait till the right girl comes across...
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