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Archived questions from: 27 October, 2011 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What exactly constitutes a "first move"? And how can I be sure that I have not made the first move?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I was just reading another post and one of the answers was to NEVER make the first move and I suddenly thought "S***! I don't know if I accidentally made a first move or not!" I understand the psychology behind this idea - that some guys like to feel that they have d... (371 words)

Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to have a girlfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm very nice, mature, really sweet, really cool, smart, funny, strong, and tough. I have the confidence to ask out a girl. Do you think I'm likable to girls? I never had a girlfriend before and sometimes I feel like need one. I always wanted to hug a girl and play with he... (177 words)

Unexplained blood after having sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship, I say long - we live like forty minutes away on a train, but to be fair it's long enough that we only get to see each other once/twice every week at some point because of money and juggling work ect. So obviously, we miss ... (132 words)

He said he'd come over, I gave up, he then left a message. I ignored it. Did I do the right thing?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4766 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age - Hi I just started dating some one! He called me last night said he wanted to seeme before leaving town. His daughter called him and wanted him to come and see her before he left town. He ask me if he could come over when he got back from his daughterhouse said it should be ... (114 words)

Why does my B/f still have pictures of his ex girlfriends on his laptop? Would it be unreasonable if I asked him to delete them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been together one month, but we were seeing each other before that for about 4 months as I moved away and we had liked each other for a year previously, now were finally together I couldn't be happier, although I seem worried about the pictues on ... (156 words)

How do you tell your boyfriend you were a text sex maniac?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I,ve decided to come clean with my boyfriend. we're dating nearly four months and he deserves to know the truth as He told me all his secets. I used 2 be a sex text maniac. I used to text guys off the internet and we'd send each other pictures I,ve sexted over 30 guys from ... (102 words)

The baby mama of my husband is making our lives a living nightmare!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age - Hi, Hope someone can help - i am going out of my mind. My husband of 17 yrs had an affair with a girl nearly half his age, bad enough but after he told me it was over he had to admit that she was pregnant. Now i am sure that in the beginning she did not know that he was stil... (329 words)

I supported him before we married, now he won't support our child or myself...should I do this on my own?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid i need some advice on my marriage i usually have pretty good judgement when it comes to problems but in my marriage what seems like the right thing to do leaves me feeling not at ease and unwilling to give up. you see I've been married for several months now and ... (610 words)

Married man is trying to break the no contact rule

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have cut off a friendship with a married man because we are both attracted to each other and we both realized it should not go any further. We have had no contact for two months now. It has been hard but in that time, I have been trying to move on and work on getting my life ... (115 words)

I think my night shift wages are inadequate

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, this isn't a relationship question, at all :s sorry, but I've gotten good advice on this site numerous times so I was wondering if I could ask peoples opinions on this please... I've recently started a new job doing an overnight shift at a hotel/guest hous... (448 words)

Please help me figure out the female mind

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Why do girls act so strange? I have a huge crush on one of my co workers and I have been told by 2 of the girls we work with that she likes me too. We hang out all the time at work and even recently outside of work. I month ago I asked her out and she said no. Yet she has asked ... (126 words)

How can I get over this, and still be friends with his brother, and not see my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I am really having a hard time getting over my ex. I met him thru his brother, aand now it feels like i have to cut his brother my friend off, because things are, well nothing is happening with us. I was doing ok with not communicating with him for awhile, but recently ... (233 words)

My past is coming back to haunt me.....

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was COMPLETELY innocent. He knows... (318 words)

Should I stay or should I go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4556 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I met this guy online and when i asked him if he lived in Singapore, he told me no, but he would be back four weeks later. I waited for a month and during that month, I spent my time talking to him. I am impressed and instantly know I love the way he thinks, he looks and how... (399 words)

Tired of dreaming about my ex boyfriend.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I stopped seeing each other two weeks ago. We were seeing each other for several months. I will admit that it killed me, but in hindsight I have come to terms that our lifestyles weren't compatible and that this would have happened at some point. I'm trying m... (471 words)

Online dating - no-one replies to my messages! How do I make girls interested in me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) age 41-50 - I have been using dating sites for quite some time now but no one seems to be interested replying me. I might not have look of Tom Cruise but I am not that bad either. So What I need to do to make girls interested in me and finally get a girlfriend for myself? Dear Cupid, ... (72 words)

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bought a house a year ago when we m... (599 words)

Is it right for my husband to leave me despite having a high risk pregnancy to go on holiday?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i have been married for a few months. i am 34 weeks pregnant, with a history of heart disease, and classified high risk pregancy. my husband lobied for a paid for 2 months vacation out of the country with his employers and really excited about it. i feel he is being uncaring. ... (180 words)

Will we get together? And if not what should I do about being his "bit on the side"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and an old friend have started talking a lot more like we use too. We did stop talking for a bit because we both was busy. we have been flirting like we use too, however he is 2years older than me and he has a girlfriend. I do enjoy spending time with him and I have found ... (145 words)

I asked her to dress sexy and she laughed at me and now I feel embarrassed!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in a relationship with this pretty girl for the last 2 years and we are having great loving and sexual relationship . Recently, I asked her to wear very tight pent and jeans in home so that her big tits and butt become obvious for me . She replied with big laugh saying i... (116 words)

I'm confused as to his true intentions

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been hanging out with a guy who's normally used to casual relationships. i told him from the start that im not the type of girl that is okay with casual sex, but yet he still asks to see me almost every weekend. when we hang out we talk most of the time, ad the most we ... (92 words)

I cannot live with the thoughts of his immoral illegal past dating a 14 year old when he was 23!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. We have spent almost every night together for the past 4 months and he more or less lives at my house with myself and my child. He sends me love notes and love bears and tells me almost every second of the day that he ... (512 words)

First (proper) date. A kiss - yes or no?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Essentially, I met a girl a few weeks ago who I took to straight away. We text every day - pretty much all day (with a few exceptions). We've also been out for a drink (just the two of us) and even though I wouldn't have classed it as a date, I think she did. Last Saturday she ... (280 words)

Should I write to my ex first or wait to see if he writes to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok my ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago (I am over it already because I know we have no future because we are too different) and a few days later I had a kind of date with another ex (well it actually wasn't supposed to be one) but he was flirty and cute (and during my relationship ... (164 words)

She started off friendly but now she's reserved. I wanted to ask her out, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, i started uni a few weeks ago and in my first week, met a really cute girl. We got talking and exchanged numbers and chatted with each other a few times a week in person and via text. I was thinking on asking her out – go for a walk and get a coffee, but in the last week ... (131 words)

Why is my G/f behaving like this?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age - The first time discovered my girlfriend on the internet asking for quickies and affairs she became angry when I tried to discuss it and she just told me I`m paranoid and was being mentally abusive by making allegations through my own guilt, and I should just get over myself. ... (217 words)

I don't know how to make this guy stop calling me without sounding nasty!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi Readers. Could someone please give me some advice. I am feeling very depressed about numerous events that have taken place in my life over the last 12 months including the death of my two cats in April of this year within 2 months of one another. I feel like I just can't g... (601 words)

I haven't had many boyfriends. Where is the best place to meet someone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 26 and not had many boyfriends, i'm quite shy and don't go out much - most of my friends have moved away and i prefer saving money. Where is the best place to meet someone? Are any online dating sites good?... (48 words)

Boyfriend cheated on me and now I can't trust anyone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why would he do that to me? what did I ever do to him:(? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought he loved me too. He was so sweet and so lovely but then he asked to go on a break and started acting weird. Then he broke up with me saying he doesn't want a relationship. ... (171 words)

Problems with premature ejaculation!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have a sex problem. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now. He has always had a bit of a problem with premature ejaculation, not coming ridiculously quickly but the sex only ever really lasts ten minutes or something. Anyway, that was fine, and I didn't want ... (232 words)

Is my B/f thinking about marriage and should I bring my feelings up in conversation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months yesterday. We have know each other since we were 13 and 14 respectivly, got to know each other better mid teens then became very close friends from the ages of 18-20 and now are a couple at 21 and 22. because we had known each other ... (477 words)

He was cheating on me so we broke up, but then he contacted me again. Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi,i am 19 yrs girl.i was in a relationship to one guy.he is my senior in my college.i love him a lot.i was in a relation only for 1 month..i understood that he was cheating me.his friends told that.and i heard from his mouth that he was cheating me.he told to his friends.so we ... (142 words)

My best friend doesn't understand my problems and I feel like I hate him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is something that's been troubling me for so long, and it's kept me swinging back and forth from anger, resentment, guilt, and jealousy. I'm a 17 year old girl, in my last year of school, and my closest friend in school is a boy I'll call 'Aidan'. I've known him for 5 ... (818 words)

Does she need extra attention?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Does she love me or what? she spend most of her free time on social sites flirting with guys and when i bring it to her attention she acts like omg its just tumblr. wtf u doing rbloggin these guys pics? does she care or whats going on... (48 words)

Should I contact him or wait till he does ? was I wrong ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - was i wrong, should i contact him or just wait ? so yesterday me and my boyfriend of 3 yrs. got in a arguement he was mad cause he came 2 visit his grandma and do some business but my boyfriend wanted me 2 take him home he lives an hour away we are LDR i don't have my ... (336 words)

When someone loves you, how do you really know?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hello all. I am going to be completely honest because I truly need advice or insight. I'm 33 will be 34 in january and I just broke up with my 21 year old ex. he just turned 21 this month also. But I guess I'm just confused about everything that happened but also was it bound ... (615 words)

I'm so ashamed and afraid that I have an STD!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - this summer i made a huge mistake. i hooked up with a guy and we both performed oral on each other. he didnt cum though. he had had a few oral sexual partners before, and had said he never showed any symptoms for stds. i have shown none as well but i am paranoid that i have ... (88 words)

Should I tell my B/f about my dream?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night, I had a dream about me and my boyfriend making out. It was obvious we were going to do more in my dream, but I woke up before we got intimate. I need my fellow ants and uncles to give me their opinion. Should I tell my boyfriend about my dream, and see what he h... (119 words)

He seems really interested in me, yet looking at his Facebook account, there are many signs pointing to the fact that maybe he already has a girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy at a club last night and we were interested in each other so we swapped names and numbers (I didn't kiss him or go back with him or anything, just talked). This morning he added me on facebook, has been texting me LONG texts all day, and even asked if I wanted to ... (299 words)

Is a tan a turn on? Guys and girls, your thoughts on whether tan lines are a turn off?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I personally think it's a bit shallow for one to complain about tan lines on their partner, but that being said, I'm one who loves to soak up the sun in summer and obviously when I'm by the pool or at the beach with my friends, I'm not going to be naked, and I will have tan ... (190 words)

What can happen if you are found guilty of kissing somebody of 13 years old, and your 20.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - OK a simple question. If somebody is 20 years old, and they kiss somebody underage (13), and there is evidence of it, such as witnesses, or pictures, etc. And if Police do get involved etc, what can happen?? As far as I know, (but this is where I could be wrong), kiss... (99 words)

Should I be concerned that the guy I'm dating is still occasionally logging on to the online site we met on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm wondering if I should be concerned that the guy I'm dating is still occasionally logging on to the online site we met on. Here's the background: - We've been dating for almost 6 weeks - We live two hours away from each other - He told me he didn't want to date other ... (743 words)

Friendly flirting or more to it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi. I have a question about a girl I like. We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and likes to hug me or pretend shove me... (365 words)

Is it time to ask him if he likes me or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Cupid! I've been good friends with this guy for several months, and we talk/hangout pretty often. We have a lot in common (not to mention that we are from the same state), but deep down I have a crush on him. Even though we have this connection, I'm unsure about how... (214 words)

Do I need to explain to her that it will not always be this way? She ends up paying too often. It's temporary.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - So, i'm a teenager, in full-time education. I run a band, and the Band is getting more and more popular by the second, and have just signed onto a label. Unfortunately, this actually means being really busy, and getting literally no money. However, my girlfriend works really ... (151 words)

Since my friend got a boyfriend she has no time for me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - This isn't really about a relationship to do with me, but it's my best friend. She's recently got a new boyfriend, they've been going out for about 2-3 months now, I've given up keeping track. We used to spend quite literally even minute of the day together, always on the ... (282 words)

He wasn't hard! Was I just not turning him on anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - usually sex is not an issue with my boyfriend and i. this last time we were at it for a while and he still had not finished and was not even hard anymore at the end and i was not wet after a while either. as much as we tried he wasnt getting hard anymore so we stopped. could it ... (98 words)