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writes:Hello, So I'm over the "is my penis size to small or, how do i know if its the right size"I have a much more inportant matter at hand...So here is the story, I'v been with my new girlfriend for about a year not and we have been having sex(We have both had parters befor us so weknow what we are doing) and I wont lie the sex is good, but the problem I have is yet again my SIZE!...My size is 8 1/2' long and 6' round... and my girlfriend love's the size but her lower parts dont so much, we dont have any need for lub becuse we start off with forplay and she dont have any problems in that area when it comes to being wet.But she say's its hurt her when I push "it" all the way in, she and i both like rough sex but i am to afrade of hurting her and the last time she got rough she had a bit of spotting(blood) I am worried for my girlfriend and care to much to what to hurt her when we are sharing that moment, she said she likes it rought but is it to big to be too rough?!Please help, her and My "appetite" is quite large and i dont want to risk hurting her!
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Size of woman does not determine depth of vagina. Tall, short, wide, narrow, heavy, or thin. Length of torso is better way to determine what a woman is most likely comfortable with as far as length goes. Just FYI. As far as spotting or bleeding goes, that's going to happen when sex is rough. But don't freak out if she isn't. She knows her body. Have fun and keep the sexual communication with with her strong.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Let her know that you are concerned but if she takes control and wants you to be that rough then it is her choice because she enjoys it and doesn't mind being a little sore after. She"ll be happy to know that care.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Just do what your girlfriend asks, but tell her it worries you when you see blood and you do not want that to happen again.
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reader, KingOfThron +, writes (19 October 2011):
KingOfThron is verified as being by the original poster of the question There is the problem though, she likes when it is all the way in and when its fast/hard thrusts, and for her rough is a bit of pain( its what she likes i guess and im fine with that) but she said she has never had/seen some one with my size and she is a smaller woman. Do i keep doing what she ask's and go rough on her or should i try to slow things down for her?I just became worried when i seen a bit of blood on the condom after we where done(she was not around her time for her period ether) and after it she say's its sore but she is fine with her lower half being weak after it.Please help...
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reader, KingOfThron +, writes (19 October 2011):
KingOfThron is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere is the problem though, she likes when it is all the way in and when its fast/hard thrusts, and for her rough is a bit of pain( its what she likes i guess and im fine with that) but she said she has never had/seen some one with my size and she is a smaller woman. Do i keep doing what she ask's and go rough on her or should i try to slow things down for her?I just became worried when i seen a bit of blood on the condom after we where done(she was not around her time for her period ether) and after it she say's its sore but she is fine with her lower half being weak after it.Please help...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 This is a problem with a very simple solution : don't push it all the way in. Control your pelvic thrusts !, btw pushing it all in may be psychologically satisfying ,I guess , but does not serve any practical purpose for the woman, the innerved, sensitive part is the first third of the vagina , not the bottom.
You say that you both like it rough, but... it depends. If she also likes some actual physical pain ( there are a few women who do ) then I guess it's Ok, I doubt you are gonna send her to the E.R., a vagina is very elastic and built to handle a lot of wear and tear.
Otherwise, if you want to avoid actual physical pain / discomfort, you can have it rough and passionate even without digging away like a possessed gold miner. You convey " rough " and " powerful " though the way you hold her, embrace her, squeeze her body, talk to her during the act etc. etc.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (19 October 2011):
Just don't go too rough on her... You'll learn to control your thrusts in time. Try to be careful with her, that's all. It's not a real problem as such, you just can't be hammering at her like crazy with a size like yours, you must be gentle. Sounds like you and your girlfriend are good at talking about it, so continue being open and have a good communication, and you will work it out. There's no magic trick to it, all you need is communication and care for each other and you'll figure things out. Don't push it in too deep that's all. You don't need all of it in there for it to feel great.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Thanks for posting your question.
I agree with a lot of what The Realist is saying. And yes you may have to alter positions. For a guy of your size, you may want to try implementing more doggystyle- and sitting missionary positions into the sex.
The reasons why I say these two positions, is because you can control exactly how much you're putting in, how she reacts to how deep you're going in, and how hard you actually go.
Barring the chance it's an infection, STD, or a cervical problem, it's a possibility a woman can bleed during sex. Especially if it's rough sex. And even though she may like it rough, just be careful not to go overboard.
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reader, Koala Bear +, writes (19 October 2011):
If you two love each other then I really wouldn't worry. So you two like it rough, hopefully by now you've established trust and communication in and out of the bedroom. By this I mean a code word, sound, or movement you two can recognize with things are getting too rough and it's time to pull back. Honestly just keep doing what you are doing and make sure you are paying attention to her responses. She'll let you know when to stop.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (19 October 2011):
When this is a problem you really have to be careful how far you go in. She isn't going to be able to get used to the size because it is most likely just hitting too far.
Try letting her be in control to see how far she is comfortable with. Hopefully some others on the site will be able to offer you positions where this will be less of a problem. I can't seem to think of any off the top of my head.
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