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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What am I doing wrong? Will I ever find a guy who really truely cares about me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 15 I had a boyfriend before, and many "things" with guys but it seems that after a period of time they stop liking me for no reasons, please don't give me answers like "your 14 your too young, and you'll find someone your only young." maybe its other girls? Maybe its just ... (84 words)

After everything why is he ignoring me now?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was messing around with a guy for about 11 months. He was actually my friend before it began. At the beginning he was sweet, complimented me and all that, but at the same time he was messing around with other girls. I wasn't tripping because he had just gotten out of a ... (961 words)

I am afraid to lose her but I think its certain!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age - i feel like a dummy for asking but...some people, including my gf are convincing. i met a young lady half my age a year ago online. fwiw, she spoke to me first and the first few times after meeting her, when i'd go online she'd be the one to initiate conversation. we simply ... (488 words)

Shall I contact him on FB even though I am not supposed to know his surname? Or ask his friend for his phone number?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there - I met a guy at a party and we slept together. I like him but i do not see him as relationship material. But i would like to see him again. Just to have fun. If i wanted a relationship i wouldn't contact him but i guess i have nothing to lose in this case. What is b... (94 words)

I am really nervous when I talk to girls!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I am really nervous when I talk to girls... For example when I take it seriously I am having panic attacks, and ? tremble in waves... When I am going for fun, just to say a girl I like her, I say it normally like talking to my best friend... How can I say seriously to a girl I ... (74 words)

Has anyone been through a situation like this...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4752 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a friend back in school (8 years ago to be precise). We were really close and good friends but didn't date. Over the last couple of years, we've been in contact, at times 3 months apart. Thing is, I think about him a lot and I feel he does too. Whenever he calls we talk ... (210 words)

Did he just want his ego boosted or does he feel the same?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi All, Over 18months ago, I had a short relationship with a guy I met on dating site which lasted about 4 months. We parted over something really trivial and I did not pursue it any further, we remained friends and lost contact over time. However, we both found each other ag... (193 words)

Does my friend have an abusice dad? Would I be abandoning her if I went to take my A levels at a new school or is that the best option?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I love my best friend, she's like my sister when we hang out but her parents are so controlling, I feel like she trapped. when we were little my friend discovered she had cancer, we were only about 5 at the time but i remember it very clearly, she recovered but as we didnt at... (625 words)

What do I need to know that can assure me I am making the right decision to take her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My gf dumped me because she said something wasn't there, i took it like a man and didn't whine and ask why like so many of us guys do. I just said you're right this isn't working, and of course in the same conversation we were having about breaking up she started to say she ... (322 words)

Question for the guys-Could this have happened...???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a question for the dudes, something that happened to me years ago, but it's sort of unclear at this point what actually went on, and I'm wondering what you all think of this, if my interpretation of events seems likely/something you would do. I was seeing a guy, and I ... (192 words)

Does he like me? Or am I jumping to conclusions?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I know I may be jumping to conclusions, but, there's this guy in my a few of my classes. Actually only 1st and 4th. Anyway, he has a girlfriend, and she's in my 1st and 3rd period and whenever I am near her she gives me these dirty looks for NO reason. I've never even talked to ... (387 words)

We have decided that we will go back out with each other in 2-3 years. Should I just move on now??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Well me nd my bf (now ex) decided to break things off when his baby momma threatened to put him on child support if he didnt go back.And im only 16 and he is 21 so we decided it would benefit both of us if we waited a few years to go back out. Well I mean ALOT can happen en 2-3 ... (137 words)

Should I add a one night stand to facebook when I would like him to be a FWB?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so I slept with my friend's friend yesterday and would like to be fwb with him. I didn't know why, but I didn't give him my number when he asked to exchange numbers.. probably too drunk.. anyway, the only way I could contact him is through facebook.. should I add him? will he ... (139 words)

Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, yep its me again so thanks for taking the time to read my question. I haven't been at school for about a year now and now and my family and I are making the necessary changes for me to go back to school. Only problem is many schools round my area and out of my area d... (314 words)

I wouldn't act on it, but am I attracted to her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I'll get right to the point here... I'm 16 and have been talking to this girl of 13 for a few weeks. It is purely chit chat, the simple hello and few questions, but as of late I have been noticing myself staring at my phone waiting for her reply. Is this a sign I may have an ... (117 words)

Worried about my sexuality!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I think i am bisexual or i could even be a lesbian. I do think i lean more to be bisexual as i do like men but as time has gone on ive been getting more and more put off them. The only problem is, i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian, for many reasons.... (282 words)

I resent my boyfried for his past experiences!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, Me and My Boyfriend, we love each other so much. We've been together for 7 gonna be 8 months. And we're extremely happy together. The thing is, maybe two years ago, he had sex multiple times with his ex let's say her name is C. And I just can't picture hi... (261 words)

Why are guys so quiet after sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - why are guys so quiet after sex? after sex all my boyfriend wants to do is sleep and hardly talks. seems like hes in a bad mood. usually im not the type to always be that sleepy after sex. i dont mind laying there and cuddling but i cant just lay there forever if im not falling ... (58 words)

He has images of ex's on his computer, but still says he loves me. Am I right to be bothered by this?

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30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ill keep it short, I've been with my boyfriend just over a month, but he says we might have well been together a year, because everyone saw it comning but us.. and we both really liked each other... Recently I've noticed that he still has a picture of him and his ex ... (110 words)

Does he have masturbation issues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 16 and me and my boyfriend are very much in love and are seirous about our relationship. We haven't had sex but that not an issue, we'd both rather wait till we're older. He said that recently he's been sexually frustrated.- he feels horny all the time while thinking about ... (187 words)

We meet as friends but I still have feelings. Will I ever be able to heal my heart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, First sorry for my poor english language. In the last 2 years I,ve read questions and answers in this site hoping to find an explanation for my relationship but I,m still in ,, middle of nowhere,, and I can,t get out the pain from my chest. I am 40 yrs old, spent... (232 words)

Dating a man a family member used to date?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Am i wrong for falling in love with a guy my aunt use to date while back? we been seeing each other for about 9months but what should i do because i really dont want to go through with it now that our secret is coming out and dont want my family to look down on me but at the ... (72 words)

How can I change my boring husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - its been 7 years when i got married. my marriage is like a rock. when we got some fight, we did 'nt talk for so long for about 3 months, is the worst..sometimes 1 month or less..my husband is a type of person that when you start talking, he will talk, when i start romancing ... (110 words)

Where is this friendship going?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age - i met a really nice man 13 years ago when he was going thru a divorce we eventually had a relationship for a short while but it didn't work out for him although i was in love with him very much. We split up for about a year, he met someone else but it didn't work out for him. ... (279 words)

She has been abusive but threatens that she can't live without me if I leave. please help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4767 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - 2 years 3 months ago i was single and i was just out of an open relationship when i made friend with one girl on facebook.we started to chat everyday and she kept on telling me how her boyfriend was treating her badly....i felt very sorry for her.when i learned we live like 5 ... (427 words)

LDR--we were to get married but now he's always ill. I just don't see things happening

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i'm gonna have to say sorry in advance cos this may be a long read. I'm 30. He's 31. We been in LDR for 3 years. Different countries. We met while he was working in my town for a few weeks. I was in a mess trying to end my then relationship. He was the caring sensitive guy who ... (637 words)

I have pain when I'm finishing urinating. Anyone know what it might be?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have pain when im finishing urinating. My first pee of the day is the worst because i get really uncomfortable after the pee and i have pain for hours. What could it be? Im sexually active but i make sure the guys use a condom all the time so i'd rather believe its not an ... (86 words)

Why would a woman refuse to do a DNA test to prove to him that he is the father, if she was certain that he was the father?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4745 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a friend ask me for advice and I was just wondering if I can some other people's ideas before giving him any advice. My friend had a one night stand with a girl (I know for certain it was not a relationship, just a once off) anyway a few months after she tracked him down ... (183 words)

I seen alot of potential with this relationship but he has backed off. What did I do wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Did I do something wrong? I have been on five dates with a new guy over the last month or so, and I felt things have been going really well. On our last date, he seemed a little off with me, not nearly as hands on as he has been in the past. We hugged and cuddled, but... (201 words)

I don't know if I should back off or try to pursue this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 19 and in my first year of college musical theatre. This is my first time on my own and I feel like everything is going too fast. guy I like is 22 third year. There is the guy who is gay and well I don't know how I should read this. First off, I am gay. Not everyone kno... (568 words)

Why am I tolerating boyfriend's gambling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I'm trying to figure out why I'm putting up with this. I've been in a relationship for over 3 yrs. and its been mostly about his needs, wants. He gambles, is controlling and spends basically whatever he has on himself or what he wants. We can't even afford to go to a ... (217 words)

We had a big fight and now I find b/f is on dating site

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4768 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is going to be long and I apologize in advance. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 16 months. We see each other all the time, he loves my family and vice versa and we've talked about the future. About 2 weeks ago, we got in a very big fight; it was over me having an ... (237 words)

I don't know whether to continue with my travel plans or try to get back with my ex

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30 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and i broke up at the beginning of the year - she said that I wasn't enjoying life which is true and that I need to go and do my thing in the world as i am often very depressed and disillusioned with the world (i don't see any point in the rubbish jobs i've been ... (429 words)

My friend likes me but I don't have the same feelings. Should I go out on one date with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm sure this is gonna sound really pathetic and that the answer is obvious but here anyway. There's a guy who likes me I mean really likes me. We are friends so when he asked for I my number I thought nothing of it, he misinterpreted this that I liked him too. I feel bad cus ... (168 words)

What do I do about my needy boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been with my boyfriend just over a year and throughout our relationship he has constantly acted possessive over me and everything that I do. He loves me too much and I don't think it's healthy for either of us. I know he's interested in what I do in my daily life when ... (499 words)

I feel like he's flown off and I'm stuck on the ground

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So, things are a mess with my ex. Help? I'm sorry if this is one huge ramble, I really need to let it all out somehow. I broke up with him at the start of July earlier this year. We'd been together a while, a year and a few months. Each other's first love. To me, that says ... (504 words)

Gf lied and decieved me however has alot of underlying issues, should I stay?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - my gf and i have gone through a very rough patch recently when i found out she had been lying to me for months and texting and talking with another man along with sending semi nude photos to him and telling the man she loved him and he her. i am not sure if they met up or ... (279 words)

Anyone ever been told their friendship wasn't valuable?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Has anyone here ever had the experience where a close friend (or partner or family member) tells them directly that they don't think their friendship is valuable? I've had a very a close friend of 8 years say she felt that our friendship was "no longer productive" during a... (307 words)

I'm 24 and get horny but don't want sex ever! Why!?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 24 yrs old and I have been with my girlfriend for a lil over 5 yrs.when we first got together I couldn't keep my hands off of her and it was the same for her with me.well for the past 2 yrs I haven't wanted to have sex. I get horny but I just dont ever feel like having sex ... (105 words)

What is your opinion about one night stands?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What's your opinion on One Night Stands? Would you do it? Is it bad? I like one guy. We are just friends and he want to have sex with me. I'm confused. I don't know if I want to do it or not. I'm attracted towards him and I like him a lot. He is 23. I'm 16 years old. ... (62 words)

True or false? Are girls attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have this question about dating in general: I have heard from my guy friends and even read this on a girl's profile on a online dating site, that Girls are attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging. Otherwise if you are a nice guy and too pr... (129 words)

Why would a dumper complain to an ex about their current relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My mum's friend was married years ago. He retrained as a teacher and she put him through school. After he finished he dumped her out of the blue. No reason, just cut her off. She went to his parents house, but they slammed the door in her face. He had turned everyone against ... (135 words)

I'm not sure whats wrong, could I possibly be pregnant even though I'm on the needle?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Uh, i have no clue how to put this. ill just try my best. Lately iv been feelings a bit weird. i feel like im going to vomit pretty much all day every day. I get full off like nothing pretty much, i pee millions of times. i havnt had sex since 2nd october. (without prot... (114 words)

Would you let him go if he were your Bf? And been together two years.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure where to start. First off, I'm sorry if this post turns into a novel…I'll try my best to keep it short and simple. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years Its my boyfriends birthday soon and he wants to go clubbin for he is turning 21 and im 21 and h... (346 words)

Is there a support group for my problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've recently read a post on your site about experiencing bad luck every time a person masturbates. I have also experienced the same problem and would like to know if there is a support group. I am not angry or anything I am just searching for answers, would like to understand ... (71 words)

I really need advice on making friends please? guys tell me I'm "intimidating" but I don't see how I can be intimidating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there. This isn't so much of a "love" question as it is more just "how to meet people/make friends" kind of question. I seem to have a really hard time making friends. This isn't something new. All through school I only had a couple friends I would hang out with outside of s... (539 words)

Can this happen? My Sex drive is gone, and I'm only 20 years old

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have lost my sex drive completely. I have an amazing fiance of four years, and we never have sex anymore, b/c I don't want too. I'm only 20 years old, and I don't care for it. As of right this very moment, i don't care if i EVER have sex again. At the beginning of our ... (209 words)

Can anyone help me with my confusion? I was positive that I was straight, now I'm not sure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i'm here because i'm confused about my sexuality and i don't know what to do. For awhile now i have been thinking about men, specifically kissing and having sex with them and even having a relationship with another man. I try not to but when i get aroused, i start fantasiz... (168 words)

My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her family because her dad alwa... (277 words)

Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a babysitter or family to help) I woul... (150 words)

Did I do anything really wrong? B did have a gf, though in the past we had some major chemistry

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - What would a guy think? I met this one guy X after I met his friend, B. I knew B for four years and he had a thing for me but I was always unsure of my feelings. I decided to go for B after a year of not seeing him. We talked for a while when I got on touch on fb. I hinted ... (132 words)

How do I ensure I don't mess up this relationship? I've had a track record of having a crush on a new guy every single year.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Everybody who reads this, I am an idiot. For as long as I can remember I've had a track record of having a crush on a guy every single year. If I got over one, I'd get one as soon as the new year came around. When I was younger I was really insecure and it was a crush ... (593 words)

Is my proposed celibacy solution workable? And any tips on helping me get over this intense amount of regret/shame?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 15 years old. I have given two guys bjs, and I am soooo ashamed. I regret all of it, and i feel sick whenever i think about it. I feel like i am a bad kid. However, I am in a relationship right now (although he says he doesn't care about physical stuff, and will not pres... (140 words)

Do other think this looks hot on guys? I think shaved legs on men are amazing

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I saw a guy at the gym the other day with shaved legs and it looked amazing. He was on the treadmill and I was on the stationary bike, so he didn't see me but I couldn't keep my eyes off of his sexy legs. Is there any other females that like a man with shaved legs.... (57 words)

Do I wait and see? How do I find out whether or not she is playing hard to get?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel I'm inaccurately reading signs she's giving off. I'm not sure whether she is playing hard to get or just isn't as interested as I am in her. How do I go about this? Do I approach her and ask her if she is into me? Do I wait and see how things pan out and take the ris... (82 words)

Mom knows! Isn't she in the wrong for listening to my B/f and I 'dirty talk'on Facebook?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been seeing my boyfriend for a while, and we're sexually active. We're both 16, it's legal, I'm on the pill and we use condoms. Until today, neither of us had issues with our parents because we just hadn't told them. Today, my mom saw that my facebook was still signed... (172 words)

Fickle? what can I do? It took me courage to ask. She said yes. Then she just changed her mind

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey peoples So here's the deal. Recently I told a girl that I really like her and she responded with the answer I had hoped for. Everything was great we made a plan to meet up and talk about things and see where things go, but 2 days later she said that she couldn't me... (223 words)

We have broken up but still aren't over each other!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - About a year and a half ago my boyfriend's father passed away in a car accident. SInce then there have been a lot of family issues that came up, along with the normal formalities of a death. Everything between us carried on as normally as it could for about a year. About 3 mo... (472 words)