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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm tired of everyone talking bad about my boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so ive been dating my bf for 4 months now, hes 18 and im 17. before we started dating people kept telling me how bad of a player he is and that all he wanted from me was sex, at the time i met him i was still a virgin. i knew he had a bad reputation with girls but whenever ... (390 words)

Is my man holding something from me or is it just in my head

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - here i am again agony aunts and uncles for your advice, i have been with my man for over 2 years now and its LDR, but thats soon coming to a end cause i am due to move up to be nearer him and eveuntally move in together, as we have kids from our exs and we want to move them in ... (469 words)

Is a virgin more attractive dating material?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey everybody 2 quick questions mainly for girls do you believe that a virgin is more attractive as dating material than a non virgin and is an intelligent person more attractive as dating material than a dumb person?... (38 words)

How do I tell my boyfriend hes too quiet?

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2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend doesn't speak often, and I find I do most of the talking. The problem is, I'm not a big talker myself and am used to listening. However, because he is my boyfriend, I am the most talkative with him out of everyone and while I'm quiet with friends, I long ... (108 words)

After fight with a friend, is it ok to email them first rather than talking?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I recently had a fight with a friend of mine in work. We work and live together and it's really awkward now. Basically it was a bout a few work issues and somethings that she said kinda hurt me. I brushed them aside and then early last week we had a bit of a fight. It left me ... (175 words)

I know it was wrong, but should we still be working through this??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I know it was wrong...but should I still be dealing with this? Okay, this is a fairly lengthy situation, so please hear me out, I would love some opinions/advice. I dated a guy about a year and a half ago for a few months. He broke up with me with little explaination and I wa... (680 words)

Will my breasts sag if he touches them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all,i av a bf nd we love each other veri much.he likes touchin my breasts nd sometimes i feel like the way he is touching it could make my breasts to sag.i told him about this and he said that's not true.and also,that it's only those who breast feed babies that their breasts ... (86 words)

I'm in love with my aunt (we are not blood related)

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2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am in love with my aunt, we are not blood related and have had these feelings for her for a very long time. Sometimes and can't resist the urge and stare at her body or lightly touch her but she never stops me. This is not a passing feeling and I just want to know how she ... (68 words)

How do I overcome the fear of trusting someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, I really need some advice or perhaps just a lot of encouragement lol. It's to do with the way I hold back too much when it comes to men. I'm incredibly stubborn and have always stuck by the traditionalist view that men should do all the chasing and make the first m... (682 words)

Stuck on my ex, I don't know what to do.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (M) - I broke up with a girl almost 8 months ago. She used to get angry with me and argue a lot with me. There was hardly any times she had to be that upset with me. I left her because she was constantly fighting and everything bad with her and I became based on her feelings and her ... (916 words)

Am I going to end up in over my head in this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19, and although we're dating long distance and really like each other, what if it's too much for me to handle? He is my first boyfriend (sure I've had a few summer hookups and whatnot, but still) and he knows that. I also know that he's been in mul... (325 words)

I'm terrified of the "L-O-V-E" word!

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2 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I'm in high school and have a long-distance boyfriend in college, and to put it plainly I am terrified of the l-o-v-e word and I want to make sure this relationship is healthy for me. Sounds simple enough, but it's a big of a long story. I got to know him over the sum... (318 words)

20 year old virgin and I can't open up to a guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I guess I'm asking this question to make sure I'm not the only one who feels this way...I'm 20 years old (still a virgin) and I've never been on a date. I would really like to go on a date/have a relationship with a great guy, but it never ever happens for me. It all comes so ... (251 words)

Found out why our sex life has been waning! He's hiding porn!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok...so i've been with my boyfriend now for 5 months. we live together and everything was going ok...our sex life is a little low..but oh well....tonight i found out that hes been downloading porn and hiding it from me...i feel like hes cheated on me... what do i do? ... (50 words)

I thought having a boyfriend meant I didn't need friends!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I'm 27 and I have a really big problem with my mood. I didn't stay in contact with my school friends when I went to uni. I went to an inner city comp and most of them went on to get pregnant at a young age whereas I went on to become a doctor. I'm adopted and... (395 words)

I want to lose my virginity to him, but I hold back at the last second!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to lose my virginity to my LDR boyfriend. I'm physically and emotionally prepared to go through with it; I find myself daydreaming way too much about having sex with him... I'm completely sure he's the one I want my first time to be with. And yet, every time the ... (189 words)

I'm always anxious... and I miss my ex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am always anxious and i miss you ex. I am 21 and I've been in a serious relationship since i was 16. We were amazing together. Of course we had our ups and downs but mostly things were great, until last year. Things went all downhill and we fought non stop. He would swear at... (277 words)

Is it because of age factor or something else? Please help me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i fell in love with a girl, who was just 15-year-old when i was 22. It has been more than 1 year having this relationship. She is about to be 17 in october 22 and i have been 24 lately. She loves me alot. She claims to love me more than all the things in the world and intends ... (253 words)

Why would this guy still be on the dating site? I feel so used and disillusioned!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - I met a guy last week from a dating site for the first time. We had an amazing time and had sex which was fantastic! Of course this all sounds quick, but I believe it was the right thing to do at the time even though we only knew each other couple weeks. Thing is I really felt ... (301 words)

I'm confused... does he want to pop the question or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

- Outline: I'm 22 bf is 25 been together 16 months not living together but see each other every day. Moving in has been talked about but gonna wait. My bf been away work and I only see him at weekends which is hard. Recently we started talking about weight loss. He said if... (188 words)

What do 18 year old girls mean when they call boys 'hun', 'babe' etc?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I bet everyone is going to call my question dumb, but I reckon a lot of lads wonder the same. I often struggle to know whether girls see me as a friend, 'brother' or sexual attractive. What do 18 year old girls mean when they call boys 'hun', 'babe' etc. Obviously all girls are ... (64 words)

SHE is intruding in our relationship. Advice needed!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I love my boyfriend so much that i cant let him go, of recent a lady asked him out and he has began to have feelings for the lady because the lady now pesters him on seeing and hanging out with him. My boyfriend told me all these with the messages she sent to him,my boyfriend ... (156 words)

I don't know how to end a 3 year relationship when I know it'll hurt my bf so much..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been together for 3 years and he loves me and I love him but now I just can't see myself with him. He pretty much killed my social life because he's so awkward and now I have no friends. He can imagine us together forever and constantly ... (99 words)

What does it mean when he rubs circles on my stomach?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So me and this guy just became bf n gf and we were at the movies n he put his hands around my waist and then starts rubbing circles on my stomach and im like what r u doin? XD cuz his my 3rd bf lol n his like wheres ur belly button? n he tries touchin my stomach lookin for it n ... (111 words)

Helppppp! How can I get him to trust me again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i did wrong, i admit. currently in a relationship, my bf doesnt want his family to know ANYTHING about me and him. so obviously i cant mention it to anyone related to him. recently, his eldest brother (who lives in ghana) who has 3 younger brothers (my bf being the younge... (262 words)

Are people with borderline personality problems looked upon as monsters?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi guys! This is more of a general question than a relationship question but I do hope you will give some of your time even to read over it. I was diagnosed some time ago with borderline personality disorder. Since then I have done some extensive research on the disorder in ... (354 words)

I don't want to lose my online guy!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - i have been talking to this online guy for 7 months over phone everynight for hours. we laugh and joke and sometimes have phone sex. I know everything about his family, ex etc and he talks to me when sad. He told me he likes me alot . the last couple of months he had aggro ... (190 words)

He's so nice but I'm not attracted to him like I wish I was

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm really confused at the moment about what to do about my relationship. I've been with my partner for two years and living together for 1 year but pretty much the whole time i've had doubts about us. I wish I didn't because he is the sweetest, most thoughtful and caring man ... (293 words)

Gents!! What gets you going?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - A quick question to all the gentlemen here :) Gentlemen , What is it that makes you attracted to women and turned on by them?... (28 words)

I'm a virgin and he's been with 25 people! I'm freaked out!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I,m still a virgin and yet a guy i,ve been seeing has literally done it all and he's only 22! I asked him how many women had he slept with thinking it would only be 3 or 4 he told me its about 25 people including 3 ways and 4 ways and a prostitute!!! I didnt believe him at ... (134 words)

Relationship issues--better to stay together or break apart?

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2 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - When a couple encounters relationship issues, would it be better to live apart and then solve those issues, or to remain living together to solve them?... (26 words)

He's mean and jealous towards me. I want to salvage the relationship. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi aunts and uncles I've been having problems with my bf recently and we've barely been together for 2 months! He is constantly paranoid that I'd cheat on him with other guys and insecure even though the only guy I hang out with is a really good friend of mine. For the record w... (309 words)

How do I start talking to this gorgeous girl, when there are things I regard as impediments to starting a relationship with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - alright, kind of a long question here. There is this girl in my class at university who is really cute and i want to get to know her/ask her out, but a few things, first, i am really really shy and usually have problems starting conversations with girls and talking to them ... (127 words)

I like her but only see her 2-3 times a year

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I dont know what to do, im a 17yo guy, theres this girl that i have known for like my whole life. we only see eachother like 2 or 3 times a year because she moved to a differant state. Ive always liked her alot.... She is also my best friend's sister. What should i do?... (57 words)

How do I deal with feeling so Betrayed? My husband told family intimate details of our sex life.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband recently told my family that I let him try anal sex. This was really rude, disrespectful, and certainly uncalled for on my part. I am really upset that he felt it was 'ok' to share this private and personal information with my family of all people. I can't even look... (211 words)

Do you think she is cheating or will do so soon?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4786 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - New situation, only a week old. Need some other minds to consider my reality, as I lack hard evidence (you may disagree) or objectivity to say what is up. Background - In early 2010, I took on a new assignment that had me flying out of state once per month about 2 nights p... (646 words)

Am I wasting my time? I don't want to be used for sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok...here it goes. I've been broken up for 2 years after a five year courtship with a man. And I was getting ready to go it alone, he had just broke up with his ex early this year. He was a friend of a friend and so we introduced ourselves and have been talking non stop sense. ... (179 words)

Dont like when my GF drinks

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Im really not sure at all as to why i feel this way, but for as long as i can remember ive always hated when a girlfriend of mine would drink. Im totally not against drinking, all my friends do and i have a few occasionally but ive only been drunk once and dont plan on it ... (138 words)

I was sick, b/f assumed we broke up and now he's glad!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I was sick for the past 1 week, so i couldnt pick up my bf's call and didnt inform him also. Before that we had a fight since he insulted me in front of his friends. Yesterday i got well and returned his call (he called me thrice in this one week and no mesgs). He is say... (125 words)

Is it because she knows I am over her? Girl who rejected me almost went ballistic after I mentioned another girl??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Some of you may have read before that I was crazy about a girl from work. We were friends for a year and I was sure she liked me and so I asked her out one night. She said that she was shocked and that she was not rejecting me, but that she did not have the time to invest in a ... (427 words)

I need to know how to get to know this girl.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a junior in high school, and theres this girl in my chemistry class that i think is really attractive, but we've never said one word to each other. I'm not sure if she will like me because she seems like the smart reserved type and I'm sort of a slacker, but on the other ... (109 words)

Why the sudden change of heart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So this guy and I started dating after finishing school, we live in different states. I went to visit him in his hometown and we fell really hard for each other. He told me that he loved me after about a week. I said that we couldn't have a relationship because of the distance ... (212 words)

I'm scared that someday he's going to reject me

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2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am COMPLETELY obsessed with a guy. It's not healthy in any way, and I wish that it weren't so. I am 18, gay, and living in the homophobic state of South Carolina. It all started about 3 years ago when I first met him. He is my best friends brother, and he, IMO, is the most ... (935 words)

Am I being used for money, sex, and transportation or am I seriously being paranoid and over-reactive?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost five months. At first everything was great he announced us being together on Facebook and all that. But one day he suddenly set his status to single. I didn't make a big deal out of it because I don't even have mine up so ok. ... (281 words)

I'm scared of rejection and stuck!

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2 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so this year(my senior year) has been terrible..I feel depressed for no reason!! Like nothing is wrong in my life..well except that Im too scared to talk to the guy I want because Im scared of rejection..but besides that everything is fine! But I still feel like something ... (131 words)

In a troubled argumentative relationship... Should I stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help me... I've been with my partner for a year now. We used to get on like a house on fire and we could go out and always have a great time. She has never been a brilliant drunk and for the last 4 or 5 months we fallen out a lot more when drink is involved. Several ... (265 words)

What does his imitation of her mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex boyfriend, for whom I clearly still has feelings for, keeps imitating, liking the same things.......etc as this girl he went out with a few years ago but who is now married. If she likes x band, he likes that band too, if she watches this TV show, its now his favorite ... (129 words)

We've Been Together For Two Years, Now He Suddenly Won't Take My Calls

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

2 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I really need help,I have no idea what to do. I have been with this man for 2 years..we met online. We spoke every day on the phone, sometimes two or three times a day.Unfortunately, neither of us has had the means to travel, but we've been okay with that, We knew someday we ... (236 words)

How long do women want their men to last?

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2 October 2011 (M)

- I thought I'd ask a question instead of answering all the time. I answered a question recently about how long a man should last in bed? So here is the question. After penetration, and without stopping, how long do most men last and how long do most women want their men to ... (56 words)

My g/f said I should hit the gym, does this mean she finds me unattractive?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

2 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey there ive just got small question that im just having trouble figureing out in my head..Recently since around may of this year till now i have gained a few pounds not much but enough that you can tell. This morning my GF said to me that she thinks i should hit the gym and ... (97 words)