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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I'd say he is hanging around just in case. He has nothing to lose as he has his sex with the open relationship girl already. So for him, it worth hanging around just in case.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Ha-ha. Young nice man is planting a seed: you might eventually agree to have sex, you know... It's not that he doesn't know where he stands now; he's just testing the waters in the hope that maybe, just maybe...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): Casual relationship means having sex without being committed to each other. It you leave out the sex part you are left with no relationship, which makes the two of you friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): Well,this guy i know gave me his number 10 months ago and he has always said that he wants to be friends with benefits with me.we have only met up 3 times since he gave me his number and we havent had sex with each other,and yet,he still texts me a lot and he says he thinks i have fallen out with him if i dont reply.he also said i "rejected" him once when i briefly went back with my ex earlier this year.i dont know why he contacts me when he knows i dont want to be friends with benefits but like others have said,he might be hoping i will change my mind.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Well yeah it's called FRIENDS.
but I'm betting he's going to dog after you till you relenet so it might not be the most comfortable relationship.
If you flirt and he's in an open relationship to him you are fair game...
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 October 2011):
 well if its gonna be a casual relationship then he is still free to pursue other girls to have sex with.
there is of course the old routine -
her - i won't be having sex with you
him - of course not, that's fine. i love you for your mind
i bet if you changed your mind and offered it he would jump at the chance though!
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (18 October 2011):
Maybe he is hoping you will change your mind. Maybe he just likes hanging around with you?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (18 October 2011):
 There are boys who really just get on alot better with girls (in a friend way) than they do with boys.
However as it is sort of nature i'm sure alot of men would admit maybe to being attracted even if just slightly to there close female friends.
I wouldn't go as far as saying the only reason they want to be friends with them is just because they think they have a chance in jumping into bed or because they except the girl will offer it to them.
I am sure amoungst many close friends of the opposite sex there will always be abit of chemistry and flirting its just natrual. However i do think a friendly casaul relotionship between a male and a female can work without either of them ending up in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): Hello
I would be cautious around a guy like this. I could be wrong in my assumptions but if he's in an open relationship the purpose of that is for both partners to enjoy the emotional but more often physical company of someone else, while still satisfying their desire at home. Although you have made it clear you do not want sex perhaps he believes it is all part of the chase and he might believe he can convince you otherwise. If I were in your situation I would steer clear from people in an open relationship as if you were to develop feelings he is always going to be with someone else.
I would not really class what you both have as a casual relationship if all you do is flirt, that is just really a friendship and it may always stay that way. A casual relationship usually implies casual sex is involved. As long as you stand your ground and never give him reason to think you want sex then there is no reason you can't continue with a flirty friendship.
Take care x
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reader, Mylifesnotadreamyet +, writes (18 October 2011):
Okay am I guy. It depends on the guy/situation I am no expert. The littles help i guess.. To be honest with you be friends but don't be anything more. I could go into detail but I'm tired. Just be friends expecially if he is in an open relationship. Open relationships are pointless unless it's long distance. Honestly leave him be one guy isn't worth the drama.
Oh yeah and yeah if he says he is in an open relationship make sure thats 100% guys say it to seem open.
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