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writes:My main question here is why do I have the worst luck. I wonder, am I cursed? I mean, I haven't had one girl say that they liked me, I also was rejected once. I don't mean to start any religious conflict, but does someone "up there" hate me?? Let me explain what happened to me just recently. I went to the AIDS Walk, an event that happens every year where people walk in the city's big park and do things to support AIDS victims. I was with a couple of friends. Now, we did finish the walk successfully. So I was back at the starting point where there were hundreds of other people already there just hanging out and chilling. My friends are doing something else and I'm standing near them just spacing out. Now, I hear a familiar voice close by, so I turn around. The girl who broke my heart was there. A girl that I used to love with all my heart, and that I was even obsessed with. At first, I denied it. I said to myself, "This can't be happening. My mind is playing tricks on me. There's no way that at the same time and standing position that I'm in with hundreds of other people I don't know that she would be standing less than 10 feet away from me". So, I looked again, and I saw that it was her. She looked surprised to see me, and she said "Is that _____?". I panicked. Looking another way and walking away from the area. I told my friends that I'd meet them later, and that I needed some time alone. They looked kind of worried, but in a sense, they could tell what happened. Do you think I over reacted? Back to the main thing here... why am I so unlucky? I haven't done anything really bad in life, I'm not a bad person. Why did I just happen to be there, and why did she just happen to be there? Is it more than a bad coincidence? Someone please help me....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help, fellow answer-ers to my question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): hii...
i want to tackle the religious part of your question. i can assure you that no one "up there" hates you. God only allows hard times in life to make us stronger, better people. unfortunately, He sometimes seems to lump more hard times on some people than on others. doees this mean that they are bad or evil or anything like that? no. it just means that whether they realize it or not, they're strong enough to deal with it. i had a teacher in high school who always liked to say, "God doesn't give you any more than you can handle." regardless of whether you feel like you have the strength to deal with all of the crap in your life, GOd knows that you can do it. and He knows that in the end, you'll be thankful for it...because in the end, you'll be an even better person than you were before. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Don't be a drama queen. People fall in love, they get rejected, they accidentally bump into each other. You have so far been rejected ONCE in your life and you think you are doomed. It's time you face the facts. PEOPLE GET REJECTED ALL THE TIME. It's not you. Ok? It happens to EVERYONE. At your age it is rare to already have a boyfriend or girlfriend, most young teenagers just drift through school, make friends, try to figure out who they are etc. Most young teenagers do NOT meet their soulmate and live happily ever after with that person. That happens in fairy tales and a few odd exceptions.
You are over-analyzing this. You are not doomed. You are not being subjected to heartache any more than any other living human being on the globe. Congratulations, you are just like the rest of us, falling in love, being rejected. You just got to get back up on that horse and keep on going.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 this is not unlucky. lots of young guys find it hard to get girls but when you get older it will get easier, especially in your thirties - if you are still single then you will have plenty of divorced single mums throwing themselves at you! :)
you don't have the worst kind of luck, but you do have rather a negative outlook and this is sad in someone your age. chill out - be happy. there is more to life than girls anyway. you will be happier when you realise that
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): It says your age is 13-15, you haven't had a chance to find love you should be enjoying your teens!
Is it really that weird that a girl of your age, who lives in your city should appear at an event held in the park at your city?! Not really too much of a coincidence, if you happened to be on holiday in Timbuktu and she appeared behind you then that would be weird!
Try to lighten up and if she says hi, then just say hi back and pretend you never noticed her on this day. If she brings it up just say it was so busy you thought you heard someone call you but guessed you were hearing things!
But please just enjoy having fun and go out with your mates, if you meet a girl don't cling onto her like she is the love of your life just go out, watch movies and have a good time with her. Life will feel better if you are chilled out and just live for each day rather than dwell on negative moments. Take care buddy!
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (18 October 2011):
Look, shit happens man. That's just the way it goes.
Why did my grandmother have to be put in a concentration camp when she was 10 years old, why did her dad have to be beaten to death when she was 12, why did her first husband have to die at age 37 from an accident, why did the second have to die 2 years after they got married from a heart attack, why did her daughter have to get an incurable illness at age 28.....If there was a list of most unlucky people I'm sure she'd be high on it.
You have to rationalize here. No matter what you have been through, you can't tell me it's worse than what I put above. Some people are lucky, some are unlucky. But I also believe in creating your own luck. If you let your circumstances get to you, you'll be unhappy forever. Being miserable and feeling isn't going to get you anywhere. Coincidences happen to everyone. Deal with them.
You can't go through life feeling sorry for yourself because it's not some high power who is out to get you. With this attitude, YOU are the one defeating yourself.
You loved this girl, it didn't work out, well that's that. Everyone has had to deal with a broken heart. It hurts but life moves on and so should you. Dealing with setbacks is never easy. Having the right mindset helps a lot though.
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