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writes:So there's this dude, we'll call him, simply, Dude who likes this girl, we'll call this girl Lady Friend. Now, Dude has never gone 'all the way' whereas Lady Friend is more experienced than Dude.Lady Friend and Dude have been friends for a while and have shared a couple of drunken snogs and Dude now wants to get to know her on a bit more of an intimate level.Say that Dude and Lady Friend happen to find themselves in bed with each other, apart from concentrating on her needs and to use all necessary protection, what does Dude need to know?Also, should he tell her that he is a virgin before hand?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Dude should just enjoy... and yes letting Lady Friend know it's his first time is a good idea...
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (19 October 2011):
 I was in your situation, and I told my gf fairly early, in a situation where we were making out but sex was not in our plans yet. She reacted really positively, although she did say she felt a little concerned that she wouldn't be "good enough" for my first time. Obviously that was silly - I told her that she'd be the best I've ever had. :)Having her know my situation made our first time much easier because she felt it was alright to guide me a little. I felt much more confident knowing she knew - so that when the excitement meant I didn't last very long, she understood why and that it was a special situation.There is nothing you need to worry about. Again, I'd tell her.
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reader, NinetiesKid +, writes (19 October 2011):
NinetiesKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help, Dude has more confidence about the situation now.
Lady Friend and Dude will be having a non-alcoholic beverage together soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): Dude lay back and enjoy the ride it never makes a darn you want to have the best time ever so hush thinking at all We know how to calm it and hold you down.Relax you will never forget it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): I love finding out that the guy I'm into is a virgin, the same reason men have a stereotypical love of virgin women. I feel like I'm helping him somehow. Showing him a new part of life that couldn't exist for him without me. You should tell her. It's not going to turn her off if she's interested. If anything it'll make her want you more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): Dude should first verify that he is not in the friend zone or a "friends with benefits" zone. He should find out if Lady Friend takes him seriously and has feelings for him or if she's just borrowing his face when she's under the influence. You might want to spend a little more one on one time with Lady Friend while sober to let her know you take her seriously. Do date-ish things or just hang out one on one.
Otherwise, I think you're set to run the gauntlet. I think if you use protection and she doesn't ask, there's no need to tell her about your virginity. It's not that she won't find you unsexy as a virgin, but I would guess it's far more likely that she just doesn't want to be the one responsible for taking it and it will add pressure to what will already be an intense moment for you.
Good luck.
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