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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Its bothering me! I don't know if he said I love you or am I hurting you?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night me and a guy i,ve been dating ended up in bed while we were in the middle of having sex I thought he said " Love you " as i didnt hear it very well i asked him what did you say? and he said you me " am I hurting you "..I don't know wheter he really did say am I ... (86 words)

I'm having a hard time dealing with husband's selfish and uncaring ways!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age - I am seeking your opinion and advice regarding the state of my marriage.. I have been married for nine years and over this period of time I have experienced a decline in the way my spouse has been relating to me. First of all let me confess that our marriage is no d... (918 words)

I want to quit things with this girl but I'm afraid she'll ruin all my other friendships!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - We were good friends for a year, and I thought she was into me until I asked her out. She turned me down 'for now' but insisted we stay friends like nothing happened. I've tried but I can't. She's a really difficult person to be friends with and before I liked her so I s... (285 words)

How do I stop letting him get his way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Long story short: i (stupidly) slept with this guy and i lost my virginity to him (he doesn't know that). After i slept with him he said he wasn't looking for anything serious but because i liked him i agreed to sleep with him anyway. This goes on for a while then he tells me ... (189 words)

Our relationship isn't going anywhere!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4786 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i dont really no what to do about this, ive been with my bf for 2 yrs now everything has been great i have a son he has a son for someone else, but our relationship doesnt seem to be going anywhere, he wont have a baby with me were both working not like we wont be able to cope, ... (105 words)

Do I keep to our plans or not?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I've been seeing a girl for a few months now and we've been getting closer in a slow and steady way. A month or so ago she asked me if I would like to fly over to Germany to meet her Mother and stay there for a few days. Naturally, I was flattered and said Yes. The visit was ... (503 words)

Do I have right to start something with his best friend who seems like a good guy and likes me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i had this kind of relationship with a man for 10 months, seeing him once in 2 weeks... I was totally faithful and loyal to him. (he has several children from other women from before) He was not good to me and I fell in lve with his best friend, after these 10 months. I didnt ... (227 words)

Can a long distance relationship work for two 15 year olds?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey not a big problem but I just wanted to know whether a potential relationship between 2 15 year olds in the Uk that live about 30 miles away could work. As I have been in love with this girl for about 3 months, I can't focus at school I find it hard to go to sleep at nigh... (84 words)

Intimacy problems

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age - I have been seeing a guy for 5 months now. He's lovely and we get on really well. Thing is, after 5 months together there's still been no intimacy. He'll give me a kiss (peck on the lips) straight away when we meet, then the same again when we leave but there is no ... (407 words)

Should we just split, or can this turbulent relationship be saved?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Hi there apologies if this is a little long winded I just really need the help right now and thanks in advance for any help I do receive, it will mean a lot. I've been with my fiance for three years now and we have two children (19 months and 4 months). Since the second... (924 words)

How do I let her know I'm interested in being more than just friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a bit of a nervous guy and when it comes to talking to new girls I never know what to say. I thought I would ask for help since I was out at a party last night and despite knowing a girl was interested in me and I was interested in her I just didn't know how to approach ... (259 words)

Why didn't he want to have sex with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - dear Aunts, i have a boyfriend, we're "official" for about two months now, so not that long.there's quite big age gap between us, he's 16 years older than me (i'm 24). my problem is....i think he doesn't find me attractive.we get on really well, we have lots in common but th... (185 words)

My ex wants me back, but can I trust him after he texts other girls ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey I recently split up with my ex fiance who I have been engaged to for nearly a year and he has been texting me saying he still loves me and wants me back but I don't think I can trust him not to leave me again throughout our relationship I used to find messages to other girl... (145 words)

We are both inexperienced...we've gotten up to fingering...what's next?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 4 months and I are really great together, never have any serious arguments or anything. First serious relationships for both of us. Because of this we are both very inexperienced, he was a bit nervous at first but slowly we got very comfortable with each other. ... (162 words)

Have I missed the signs? What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - did i miss the sign. am look back an seeing what i did wrong with girls. my friends tell me i alway miss the sign, most of the girls i met have said they been in bad relationship, so i try to be a good guy, but it seen that was an bad thing. tell did i miss it. one girl stay ... (523 words)

I don't want to have sex all the time!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi Everyone thank you for reading this even if you cant help me. I recently turned 18 and im in a relationship with a 30 year old women. She treats me well and i feel close to her, loved and respected but i still feel like there is something missing. I love her i ha... (210 words)

Mum said they'll think of it as more than just friends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) age 26-29 - It was my cousins birthday party last night and while there two of his friends announced that they fancied me to him, gradually over the night the message got to me. Right at the end of the night a fight broke out and one of them got quite badly hurt and I wasn't sure about the ... (172 words)

Will my boyfriend be glad that I'm his first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Yesterday I told my boyfriend I was glad I'd waited to have my first kiss because it meant it was with him - I was 18 at the time - and he replied: "although I wouldn't have minded at all if your lips had known other men than me, I'm also glad I'm your first." Does he mean ... (137 words)

Should I be worried about boyfriend's contact with Ashley?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So my boyfriend and i went to a company bbq party and while we were there i noticed that he was getting alot of texts and texting someone the entire time. Then in the car as i was driving (he was pretty drunk) he kept getting texts and i glanced over and i noticed he was ... (106 words)

Should I ask her on a date?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - There is this girl two years older than i am we work in the same company,she is strict,looks reserved ,and naive. since she came into the company am the only guy she discusses with for a very long time,plays with and shares jokes with.she even her number herself.does this show ... (80 words)

I need a good facebook status that will make my ex jealous

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I know this sounds really immiture and daft but I need a good facebook status that will make my ex bf jealous I don't want to make him think in seeing someone or anything but aw I don't know I really want him back I still love him I know he loves me but he's being stubborn any ... (60 words)

I think I fancy a girl I haven't seen and spoken to in 8 years

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - as the title says i think i have a crush on a girl i haven seen or spoken to for atleast 8years it was back when we started secondry school i was in her form (we were about ten or eleven years old) and would you belive she fancied me and asked me out me being shy and didnt ... (321 words)

He seems happy to have a FB relationship, but I find myself wanting more

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I met this guy online a year ago.Yes it was based on sex.. but mind blowing sex. a year later and i find myself wanting something more, im just not feeling fulfilled any more. We see each other once a week or once every two weeks. He wont just come over to"hang out" watch a ... (206 words)

Is my boyfriend Peter Pan?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been going out a few years. At the beginning I admit I told him pretty clearly what I always wanted from life-to be a wife and mother. He told me at the time he understood but wasnt ready. Scroll on afew years and we are both older. He is nearly 30 and ... (547 words)

Dumped so why did she text?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

- Hi All A week ago I was dumped by my g/f of 5 months because she really likes me but not falling for me. Ouch!! I was shocked, confused but walked away. I didn't go mad at her but it was obvious i was puzzled, hurt and confused. I decided to cut myself off from her. This mo... (136 words)

I really want him back, but does this plan make sense?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - All opinions needed and welcome....and sorry for the lengthy read. So I had been in a LDR for 3 years and then in April he dumped me because he became depressed. It took me a couple of months to get over it but I managed but I still love him. Well im actually moving t... (753 words)

Should I dump my boyfriend ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Should i dump my boyfriend ? I stayed at his place from thursday until yesterday and we argued on friday and saturday.we argued on friday because he wanted us to lose our virginity together,especially as it was his birthday.we couldnt though as i was on my period and also,we ... (271 words)

Ex has new gf but is still contacting me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, I need some help with my ex... We'd been together 3 years and split up a month ago. Since then he has been in regular contact with me (several times a week) just to see how I am and if I'm getting on etc. He also kept asking to meet up, which I didn't want to do straight ... (309 words)

Am I shrinking or is she getting loose?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - so the other day me and my girlfriend was having sex.. it seems as thought she is getting really loose now.. i gotta admit im a pretty small guy and i am pretty small down there, but now it seems like i can't really feel her as much as i use to..and she gave me a blank stare ... (138 words)

He spends hours talking about his ex. What do I make of this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My partner spent four hours talking about his ex yesterday. About how they broke the bed by having so much sex, about how her butt is just amazing etc but also how she was annoying, and caused fights. So it wasn't all praise but just a long, LONG time of stories. They broke up ... (87 words)

I can say for a fact that we are both in love with each other and we always will love each other

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Me and this girl have been dating for over a year and I can say for a fact that we are both in love with each other and we always will love each other. We've never cheated on each other. Here recently in the relationship, we haven't been able to see each other as much because ... (267 words)

Does he want me to be a friend? Girlfriend?

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9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so one year back I met this guy who was my senior at school. I had a crush on him back then but I got over it in time. I told him about it and he was pretty cool with it. We became good friends and we used to catch up sometimes. Once he came over at my place and was kinda ... (577 words)

I slept with him after the first date, he hasn't contact me yet, and now I'm obsessed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - I feel I am obsessed with a guy I slept with on a first date. I have never felt such incredible connection before, it wasn't just physical, it was emotional and spiritual too, really cannot explain it - it was crazy! I keep looking him up online and see his dating profile and ... (131 words)

Is he trying to suggest we go on a date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - One day, a guy friend emailed me and said, "how are you?" Then I responded to this and said, " oh,how are you? I'm fine!" He then said he would go to the city and also said that the city is known for a dating spot.. Why did he say this to me? Please help me out..... (57 words)

I would try and find a j ob if we could move in together...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age - I am married but want to leave my wife and leave home. I have met a woman who lives many miles from me. We would love to live together but she does not earn enough for us to live. I am unemployed at the moment but would try and find a job if we could move in together. Its all ... (122 words)

Ex - Teacher Trouble

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Hi, so in my last year of high school, a new science teacher joined the school and obviously i thought about him as much as any other teacher. Which was almost never. He never taught me, only the lower sets. And he hardly ever talked. However, i visited the school about tw... (118 words)

She doesn't know how to tell guys to back off and I'm starting to think you like the attention

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This girl I'm kinda seeing doesn't really feel comfortable telling guys to back off. And she always tend to have guys going after her. I'm not sure if she likes the attention. I mean she tells me the guys are losers and it's annoying, but she doesn't want to actively do ... (142 words)

We broke up and he hasn't called me or texted yet

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay .. Umm so me and my boyfriend had a fight the other night and it turned out to be pretty nasty unfortunately we both were hell mad at each other and were being really selfish. In the end he was like "lets end it here only", I said "if that what you want then fine we are ... (152 words)

I have this nasty habit of making fun of girlfriend's class. People, please help me get rid of this nasty habit?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am deeply in love with this gorgeous girl and we have been in a relationship for ten years. I was born in a rich family and hardly made myself sweat for anything I wanted my life whereas she’s middle class but with decent education background and having good job now and she ... (291 words)

Can masturbation change people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Many people masturbate. Some people more than others. The question is, can it change people? Do you think it can make people into a sex-addict? Or maybe even narcissist? I've been masturbating for a long time now, and I want to know, what is the drawing line from normal mast... (55 words)

Should I wait until the holidays are over to leave him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 22, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have a 3 year old son. I've been miserable in the relationship for the past 2 years but we've both tried to make it work the whole time. If we didn't have a kid together I'd be long gone. I'm not going to go into the reason ... (199 words)

Can I ask him if he's still a virgin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Hey, Okay so there's this guy who I dated than we broke up because he still 'loved' his ex. We stayed friends, which eventually turned to something more than friends... This 'thing' continued for over a year, he asked me to be his girlfriend, but he was leaving for college ... (273 words)

Ex-boyfriend and I remained best friends until he found someone else

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'll try to keep this simple, since it's a complicated situation to begin with. I'm 24 years old. I was in a serious relationship with my ex for 4 years, we shared our lives together, he even lived at my house for a year. All though we fought a lot, we did have some fun times ... (692 words)

She cheated but I love her to death....how can we make our relationship stronger?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a question and that is if my and my gf stopped having sex like going cold turkey would that cause problems in our relationship. So far it has I've been extremely frustrated not being able to have sex with her and she likes or should I say loves to tease me and get me ... (379 words)

I'm having a hard time finding a boyfriend. Why arn't guys attracted to me, they same way they are to my friends?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 20 years old and I have having a hard time finding a boyfriend. I live away from home at my university and when I go out to bars, my friends have no problem picking up guys or getting guys to dance with them. I do not think I am unfortunate looking, but I think I am ... (144 words)

He said I can't get pregnant because he didn't cum

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend broke the hymn in my vagina and didnt wer a condom after he broke it he put on a condom he said You cant get pregnant as he didnt come is that true?... (35 words)

Does he just want to cuddle to avoid sleeping alone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been having feelings for this guy who just got out of a very long relationship about a month or two ago. We've only been hanging out the past few weeks, but I can't tell whether he has any feelings for me as well. I've been very patient with him, and I've been there for ... (288 words)

I love my bf so much but seeing his ex's name tattooed on his arm makes me wonder...does he still love her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Well me and my boyfriend been 2gether almost a year now.. And I really love him! He makes me happy and I couldnt picture me with anybody else but him. Well b4 me nd him got 2gether he had a baby by his ex, he even has her name tattoed on his arm! I mean I know there not 2gether ... (114 words)

Is there anything I can use to keep my hair from looking brassy while I grow it out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please please please don't reject my question, I've looked everywhere and can't find any help or answers and I need help! My question isn't about sex, love or relationships this time, its about hair. But I've asked personal health questions on here before and they've been ... (205 words)

My "best friend" (girl) walks around me naked, teases me, and then when I try to do something, she refuses sex saying it would ruin our friendship!!

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So this girl I met this year is like amazingly gorgeous, and she has been my supposed "best friend" for a couple months now, even tho ive never been in a platonic relationship. The thing is were both really attracted to each other and she "swears" that she could get me if she ... (261 words)

I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. But he never did. And then he ... (106 words)

How do I approach this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm shy and don't know how to approach this guy.. He is in one of my school clubs but i dont have any classes with him. I do know that he is shy as well. I dont want to randomly approach him and have him thinking i am strange. So how do i approach him without seeming random?... (58 words)

I think I may be in love with my best friend but I feel very ambivalent about starting a romantic relationship with him, because I am scared that I won't feel attracted to him in the long run

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have quite a dilemma on my hands. I am 24 and in grad school. I have become very close to a guy, "John," in my same year in the program -- he is essentially my best friend. Over the last 6 months especially we've become extremely close; we share so many interests and we ... (312 words)

It just feels like Groundhog Day everyday I'm around my b/f and life is just passing me by

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend 6 months. Everything was perfect at first, thought I'd found my dream guy, there was a real connection like I'd never had before. My feelings just grew stronger and stronger. We were inseperable, happier than we'd both ever been, the only guy I've ... (268 words)

My parents don't know that my female friend is my girlfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4791 days ago

9 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need some advice on this situation so please can someone help me and sorry for the long story but i need to get all the details in here. My gf and i both 19 , lesbian couple have been together for 3 years a 4 months. We left home on Dec 2010. We wrote letters to our p... (535 words)