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writes:My friend is 19 and a virgin. We are both going to the same college. He met this girl at a school party and she gave him head over the weekend. She later asked how many gilrs he has been with and he said 0. Her roomate is leaving this week and she invited him to drop her off at the airport. Afterwards today they are going to do it. My point is I dont think he should do it for his first time. You have to do it with someone that means something to you. and this girl wants to just break him in..I told him all this last night and he has heard that most people feel like shit and regret it later. I am telling him he will regret it. and that he shouldnt do it. i dont know what to tell him... and I am shocked when he told me he was a virgin because he is really good looking. and he looks like my friend from my High school and he got every girl! I dont know what to say or should i say anything? Its his choice but I know he will regret it. I mean he is going to have to tell his future gf my first was with this girl I met at a party... I mean i dont think it should be like that. He said people make fun of him because they think he is really good looking and should have already lost it awhile ago. Alot of people make fun of him for it but not in like a mean way just like they are shocked.I was trying to hook him up with my friend from High school. she is really nice and I think theyd make a good couple but i was going to introduce them later this week!! now today!!! he told me that this girls roomate is leaving and she wants to hangout with him...... WHAT SHOULD I DO?????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): Its his choice, and its really not your position to dictate when he can have sex. He's old enough, and how do you know how the girl feels? Most girls don't just want to "break someone in". And he probably wants to do it just as much as she does. You've said your bit, now bac off.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 i know your intentions are good but you are just gonna have to let him live his own life and make his own mistakes (which it might NOT be by the way) tell him how you feel but don't be disappointed or annoyed if he decides to go ahead with his plans regardless. it might be better for him if he loses it with someone with some experience anyway, rather than a novice like himself, coz if it goes wrong that could have a lasting effect on his confidence. personally i imagine that girls tend to want to keep their virginity for someone special but most guys think of their virginity as some sort of handicap that they can't wait to discard. stop worrying about him, he's an adult
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Just tell him your honest opinion as a friend, but do not try to persuade him. It's his life after all and he's entitled to make his own mistakes. In fact he needs to make his own mistakes. You can't always be around to watch out for him, and he needs to stand on his own two feet. Support him when he needs you, as his friend, but that's also all you can and should do.
You can't lock him up and tell him he's not allowed to do it. If it is what he wants then it is what he will do.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (18 October 2011):
Just tell him your honest opinion as a friend, but do not try to persuade him. It's his life after all and he's entitled to make his own mistakes. In fact he needs to make his own mistakes. You can't always be around to watch out for him, and he needs to stand on his own two feet. Support him when he needs you, as his friend, but that's also all you can and should do. You can't lock him up and tell him he's not allowed to do it. If it is what he wants then it is what he will do.
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Nothing at all, at the end of the day it's his decision. Sure, you're his friend looking out for him, but after a while of being a virgin it can become a despiration to lose it, maybe this is the case here maybe not. But either way he's gotta make this decision on his own so leave him to it.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Hi, You gotta let him go ahead. He is an adult and knows what he is doing. I appreciate your concern and your morals but it is his choice with this girl. She may be very experienced and perhaps she just wants the honour of taking him but it is his decision to give his virginity to her. They obviously fancy eachother so just leave things to them.
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