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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is this guy waiting for his ex to become single?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Following situation: 1 guy 2 girls One of the girls is his ex and he was madly in love with the other one 2 years ago so he is pretty good friends (probably she is one of his best friends)with the ex (although she has a bf!) they write often on Facebook and sometimes then mee... (274 words)

I'm frustrated! G/f and I can't go to each other's houses anymore and the sex has stopped!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I need help me and my girlfriend of 2 years have been having sex for about 1 year and it completely stopped because she is not invited to my house anymore because my dad got mad at me just for tryin to get him give my gf a ride home now she can't come over and idk how to ... (156 words)

My Lesbian Girlfriend is as Nice as the Grinch

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Pretty as a princess with the heart of Gargamel (the creepy old mean guy from The Smurfs). I love my girlfriend but she's incredibly mean. We are in a long distance relationship so we actually only get together every 2-3 months. However we talk 6-7 days a week at least one ... (682 words)

Embarrassed of getting erection while hugging my date. Opinions needed!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Something very embarrassing happened to me and I would like female readers' opinions: There's this girl at work with whom we've been flirting for a few months now. Finally she initiated to go for a friendly coffee where we had a really nice and fun chat and she even trusted ... (187 words)

What should I wear for my first time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - right then, I suppose this is a question mostly for the guys, but I think some girls' opinions would help too; basically, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time, I'm a virgin and he's not. I trust him implicitly (which is saying a lot coming from me ... (282 words)

Could I be pregnant or an STD?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - About a week ago I had sex with this boy called shane that I Am seeing ( it was my first time) we both really like each other but the next time he came round we wanted to do it again . While rubbing his penis I felt further up and felt a few lumps I got a bit nervous. When he ... (124 words)

I want to know his feelings!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i’m in love with a boy and he’s my friend about one year,one day i confess him that i love him but he didn’t say anything i was so broken after that,and he didn’t talk, about that and he acted so normaly,then after sometime i was talking to him and i said that ‘i don’t love ... (165 words)

Would he ever want to commit? How do I bring it up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello. Just wanted to get some opinions of my situation. ( especially the men ) I have been dating a guy now for 5 months. Both of us have been married before with kids ( on both sides ) I know he is the one for me. When we met, after about 2 months, he told me he is so happy ... (249 words)

Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the fact. There has been some ki... (202 words)

Will my husband change after 10 years?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi we have married since 10yrs, my husband is not romantic he never said I love you,I don't no when will he change... (24 words)

Cheated on my girlfriend and I didn't tell her, but I want her back!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - About a 2 months ago I cheated on my girlfriend. I then broke up with her but didn't tell her why. We had been together for about a year and a half. I can't stop thinking about two things: 1. How much I love this girl and want her to be my wife 2. How could I do this to her?. I ... (140 words)

He seemed interested, but now he's not responsive.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a query, let me set the scene for you all.... When I was 16 or so I used to go out with a guy, I lost my virginity with him and we have always remained friends. We had not spoken for a couple of years and he got in touch with me recently. He is God Father to my son. He ... (307 words)

My mom thinks my BF is abusive, but he's not!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my bf for about 8 months now.My parents don't really like him because when he was 17 he and a bunch of friends broke into a cottage, threw a party and the place got trashed. He got house arrest and had to do community service. My mom always tries to find ... (217 words)

I'm getting married, but I'm not sure how to handle some aspects.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I know that this might be a little bit off topic but planning my wedding and have a few questions for you all: - how should i involve my stepdad- i lived with him and my mum growing up and went to my dads at weekends and holidays so he has been as big a part of my life as ... (203 words)

I haven't found a girl I want to date!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - How do I find love? I'm still single. I haven't found the right women yet. I'm very nice, confident, not a push over, very smart, cool, a good kid and a sweet heart. I don't know why a girl doesn't like me back yet. I've been waiting for the right girl for two years now. I hate ... (86 words)

My LDR went cold after I asked to get back together with him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've tried to break up and stop communicating with my 4 yrs long distance relationship.. but lately its so hard for me to realized that were over and I tried to win him back by saying stuff like we could work things out and he said "yes,let's try work things out" but I noticed ... (129 words)

My ex is doing all the things I love with his new woman!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2873 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'd like to know why a man will do one things with one girlfriend that he wouldn't do with another. I broke up with my ex-bf nearly 2 years ago and he found a new partner very quickly. I was getting over this fairly well, until I found out all the things he was doing for he... (595 words)

How do I talk to my sister about what she saw?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My sister is small and she dosen't know anything about sex. My mom went on a trip from her office and I have to look after my sis. My boyfriend came to my house. My sis don't tell anything about him to my mom because he is very friendly with my sis and he brings chocolate for ... (142 words)

How do STDs spread? Could I have one?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I had unprotected sex 9 days ago. It was only for a few seconds and the guy told me when I asked that he has no STD's or anything of that sort. He seems like someone who takes care of their body, he's a vegan, in really good shape, etc. But he could always be trying to make up ... (123 words)

I want to continue my affair, but he dumped me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4818 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. Am here for an advice.! Pls don't judge me I hv been throu a lot in my life. Am a married women 36 with 2 kids I had an affair with an Indian married man 45 has 1 kid. He gave me my self confidant again after years of depression. And now just yesterday he dumped m... (194 words)

Dating is new for me and I'm having trouble getting in touch with my feelings

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so theres this guy who likes me and has made it clear that he likes me however i have never been in this situation before and am having trouble knowing how i feel i kinda feel numb and not sure if i have feelings for him back, i like spending time with him and we get along ... (133 words)

Let me give you the tools to beat 'Retro jealousy' I now possess them!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I write with excitement and hope that my experiences might help others that have had similar problems. You may remember a post I made back on the 15th Oct 2010 titled: Girlfriend was a prostitute and slept with over 350 men before I paid for her to get out of that scene... (279 words)

I'm scared of my daughter's father

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i was with a bloke for 3 yrs who is the father to my 2yr old daughter when i first met him he was lovely, caring then after 6 months he changed used to beat me up giving me black eyes i tried to split up with him but he kept saying i will change but he never changed so i spli... (194 words)

Does he like me or is just a flirt and playing me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Yesterday I went to the movies with my friends Julia, Jay, Jack, Cassie, and Jose. Julia, Jay, Jack and Cassie know that I like Jose, as in more than a friend. And they think he likes me too so theyre trying to set me up with him. Jack told me to pull a move on him (the yawn ... (274 words)

Should I write to my ex wife?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am divorced from my ex wife for half a year and I miss her very much. We were separated for a while before that, and the marriage was very problematic before that for years although I felt we were still strong enough to fix things. Im wondering if it would be inappropriate... (120 words)

I'm having trouble dealing with my retroactive jealousy

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I have a question that maybe some of the women readers can answer. Why would an attractive, intelligent woman -21 years old at the time-carry on an affair with a much older married man {25 years older}with children of equal age for 7 long years? He had some money and he was her ... (548 words)

What are the non-verbal clues that a person likes you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok just curious on the responses, for both guys and gals, what are some nonverbal ways to tell someone is interested in you... (24 words)

I am missing my husband very much and want to sort things out, but he just won't deal with me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age - I have been married for nearly two years and things are not going very well with my husband. We live in separate houses which does not help matters but recently we row all the time. We have had a lot of issues in our marriage - he has children from previous relationships, he ... (139 words)

Will I ever trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Just over two years ago, I embarked on what was then an affair with my current boyfriend. We knew each other from work and he had always been flirty with me, he had given me his number a few months before and after discovering he had a wife I backed off. Then later on in the ... (420 words)

I want to take my family back into my life, but then ask myself, why would I, after all the hell that they've put me through?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm battling lots of different emotions right now and could really use some advice. For years, my sister has been sick with bipolar disorder and it's broken my family apart - worn my mum and dad down to shells of their former selves. I stayed living at home for years.. afra... (816 words)

I've been there for her. Yet she doesn't want others to know about me. Is there anything worth waiting for in all this, for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - what does my ex want from me? my ex and I broke up years ago, we decided to stay friends, but it seem to me at cost. it seem ok at first but i began to wonder, over the years, she dated other people, and so have i. but i think i put myself in touble being her friend. one thi... (617 words)

So what's up with this guy? And how do I handle his actions? He has a girlfriend, so why is he doing this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So i am working for this theater department. and i had showed up for rehearsals on night and skipped the next day because i wasn't needed. This guy had asked my dad ( who's in the play for the theater i am working for )"wheres your daughter at ? " and he asked about me a coup... (153 words)

Does our friend have a new girl friend or not? He is acting differently with this one versus all his previous girl friends

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - my dearest friend has a new girlfriend, we text heaps and he's always talking about her and what they get up to etc. BUT when we are face to face and I ask how she is going he just says she is good and changes the subject? is there a reason for this? he's had other gf's in the ... (84 words)

He's jealous. I feel scared if we break up he's not going to care about anything. And he's not warmed to my children. But wants his own. Problems ahead?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok so I've been with my boyfriend over a year. He's a really nice guy he's a lot older than me by like 8 yrs or so. Sometimes we disagree with so many things as he's a really jealous guy!! Recently my family had been talking to me about him changing me! They say I'm not the ... (177 words)

Why is it so easy for guys to act heartless after a break-up? I was upset because he was hiding things from me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and my bf of 5 months have recently broke up a week ago and im about to go insane! I don't know what to do anymore, he was always there for me and my son, hes done more for my son then my sons father! he would come over every night.. everytime we would fight he wou... (323 words)

My 12 year old daughter kissed a boy. A little shocked, wasn't expecting it! Even though I knew it would! Big deal or not so much??

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My daughter is 12 almost 13! I know what I'm getting ready to say ppl will think I'm nuts. Yes what I have to say is normal, but I am a single mom, I work and go to school! I have my own buisness so I could always be home with her! I have done this since 2005! Now I'm not sure... (572 words)

Do I have to compromise and give up my goals to find love? Caring for animals is my passion. Can I find love too?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Will I ever find someone with the same goals as me? I am interested in love, men, etc....finding "the one", but what I am most interested in in life is animals. I want and dedicate my life to making sure I help as many animals as I can. Its time consuming, money consuming, and ... (150 words)

Is masturbating nasty? Some girls say it is. Girls don't like me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 29 year old i have been single for 5 years now . Girls dont like me because i am stocky and they say that i am ugly . Is masturbateing nasty? because i do it every night . I started doing it when i was younger. Don't girls masturbate too? Some girl... (80 words)

Does having sexual experiences as a teenager make you a bad person?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I have been experimenting with my sexuality recently, and I'm worried that by doing these things it makes me a bad person/is inappropriate for a teenager to do. The stigma surrounding sex and girls really bothers me, guys can go around hooking up with girls and they're ... (152 words)

I am constantly worried he will break up with me. How do I prevent this? How do I act to ensure I keep him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've recently got a boyfriend who I like a lot, except I'm constantly worried he'll break up with me even though there isn't any real indication that he will. Is this normal? What are things I should do to prevent this? and will playing kind of hard to get help me (like being ... (65 words)

We had a fling. I'm meeting up with him again soon. Want more from him. How will I get over him if he rejects me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I work sometimes with a guy who is married we had a fling not all the way. I know it is wrong I will be seeing him next week and I plan on acting like nothing happened. I feel anxious about it already because I'm so attacted to him. If he rejects me I will feel awful. How can ... (68 words)

We's been together for 4 years. But is my 22 year old partner losing interest in me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I've been with my partner for 4 years he's 22 snd I'm 34 , we always had a spontaneous sexual relationship but for the past year and half we hardly ever have sex I am gettin frustrated with him as I caught him pleasuring himself , why don't he want sex with me ? I ask him ... (69 words)

Am I the world to my fiance, or does his heart still belong to his ex? He lies to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been engaged to this guy for 6 years we share everything together he never leaves my side and works really hard for us to have everything but we have a problem and I guess its me but idont know how to let go..when I first met him he lied to me and said I was the only woman ... (280 words)

Should I play hard to get too? I want more from her. But she's always 'too busy'

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Time is my worst enemy. I have a friend who I think I am really in love with. The problem is, there is no time! Anytime I ask her to hang out, or even chat, she tells me that she doesn't have time. She is contantly busy with homework, etc... This goes both ways. Because it's... (109 words)

Why do girls get so mad? Why don't girls forgive mistakes?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - why do girls hate you if you do one thing that makes them mad? i liked this girl a lot then i said something on facebook she didnt like and now we avoid each other and dont talk.... (38 words)

First it's all good. Then he stops replying. Then stupid excuses. what does his confusing behaviour mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why would a guy who seemed really into you, told you he liked you a lot, text you all the time, suddenly not reply to your text message? Secondly after a couple of weeks you text him again, but this time he replies, with a stupid excuse as to why he did not contact you befo... (66 words)

He NEVER will talk to me in public! Am I just his booty call? PS: he also has a girlfriend

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, there's this guy. I really really like him, and he seems to like me back. But he NEVER talks to me in public. Only when its just me and him. He has this girlfriend that he claims to love. But when he's with me he says he doesn't even care... I had sex with him 3 times to... (74 words)

It still hurts. He has drug issues. How do I accept it will never be the same?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

8 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - It's been six months since I moved out of my place with my ex and so much has changed. We dated for over a year, and in the beginning everything was perfect. I knew he had a past with drugs, but I thought that's where it was going to stay. We started fighting constantly and ... (364 words)