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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have spent since February with out a woman. Dateless for the most part and am now wondering about getting back into the dating world. It's a funny thing that has happened to me. I am 33 years old now. I am told I have always gone for the woman who needs help due to spending most of my life taking care of my mom who is paralyzed. I was engaged 10 years ago to an incredible woman but I wasn't ready at age 23 to be married so I let her go. Since then she has been married, had 2 kids, gotten divorced due to his infidelity, and she is starting over. We're getting together to talk on Wednesday. Not about getting back together but to give me the opportunity to lay it all out for her how perfect she is and how wrong I was. She deserves this in my mind because I was very immature. I grew up late in life due to my experiences as a child. 10 years have gone by. I'm still not where a 33 yr old should be in my mind. I would put my mental age at about 28. But my clock is ticking and I had to grow up. This woman and I have always stayed friends and she has told me repeatedly that I am still family and that she will always care about me. Is what I'm wanting to tell her worth it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Have a lovely meeting and go slow... feel her out... maybe you two can get together now.
there was a couple locally here they were on the news.. they met in the 50s in high school married OTHERs...and then later in life (like 40 years) they married each other...
stranger things have happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): You sound like a lovely bloke.
I would meet her, but not say anything re relationship stuff unless she brings up the past you had. Listen to her and take the lead as to how she relates to you.
Maybe if it goes well you could ask her for a second meet, just take it slow don't just blurt out everything.Could be she wants a 2nd go too.
If you feel there is a chance then fine but if she sees you as just a friend/family you have to accept it.
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