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writes:He's my X, and now we are just friends.we couldn't be together because his got a child and a live in girlfriend. so we decided to be friends. though we are still in love with each other.However when he calls which is often, he's telling me everything that is going on in his life. what he's been doing all day. how he's going to baptise his child, and how am invited. how he is spending the day with the dad.so i got really pissed, because i care about him, and when he tells me these things, they make it harder for me to move on. i told him to stop indulging me with all those details, was i wrong? will i loose him as a friend
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2011):
 You are 100% right to take care of yourself and if hearing details of his life upset you then you should not have to do it.
If you get so upset with the stuff... (which is what friends normally would talk about btw) maybe it would be better if you were not friends at least for right now...
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reader, Ligzynoly  +, writes (18 October 2011):
In other words it would be nice disclosing your feelings since those facts you mentioned irritate you. But you did wonderfuly well by not getting him read of the reasons why you told him that. If he finds out your reasons he would just take it to be that you are envious about his life. Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): I think you were right to not hold back on your feelings. If it was making you unhappy then he needed to know or he would have kept talking about those things! Maybe it would be for the best if you stopped contact for a while, so you are able to move on and be in a better place. If you feel then that you could cope with contact and it wouldn't bring back old feelings then you could talk again. If you lose him as friend then find comfort with other friends, enjoy things that bring you happiness.
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