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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why go to all that trouble and then tell me to find someone else?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - This is a long one... Ok, I had been talking to this girl online for ten months (plus text, phone, etc) and we met briefly at the airport for the first time in July since I passed through her city. We kept talking after the meeting and made plans to meet again. I'm on th... (1081 words)

Why are so many people homophobic? Is it fair to hate someone for something which they have no control?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I was at work today and two male coworkers came in to install new lights. I was alone. I'm a lesbian and i haven't disclosed that to anyone at my job. And I look very feminine. These guys also think I have a boyfriend, I guess bc an attractive smart woman can't be single. ... (211 words)

Are big areolae a turnoff?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Are big areolae(2 inches) a turnoff? Is an areolae reduction a turnoff to men or are men ok with a reduction?... (24 words)

Does my husband have a problem with me? or sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Been married 12 years and sex has always been a problem almost from the beginning. When we were dating I had a higher sex drive and was frustrated about the quality and quantity of sex, although when I married him I reasoned that it would be easier to deal with a man with ... (405 words)

How can I make him understand how much I feel for him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4795 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I know this lad who is my ex's best friend and i've liked him ever since we split up. When I was really upset about the break-up, he always came round to see if I was okay and was there for me as a shoulder to cry on. He used to come round all of the time but he's stopped now ... (100 words)

I need help making my younger man happy in bed

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm wanting to continue make my younger boyfriend happier in bedroom we been together five months he says I don't work my back or hips enough in bed give me tips to keep man in my bed we stay complete I thought I was doing good he says I only got one rhythm please help me keep ... (93 words)

Do my dreams about my ex mean I want him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have a quick question. i broke up with my ex of two years in june. i really did love him and care so much for him, but we got to where we fought so much that i just felt it was hopeless. i moved out and started seeing another guy. recently my ex and i have come back into c... (256 words)

I love this girl but she doesn't like me at all!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

4 October 2011 (M) age 30-35 - So, this is what happened last year. Back then I was 16 and I fell in love with a girl. Oh she was beautiful! Then came a chance to express my feelings. It was a school party. The only problem was that I didn't have the skill to... "get girlfriends" so I really didn't know what ... (231 words)

My wife was adventurous with men in her past but I have to beg her for sex

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Can someone explain why is it that my wife could have sex in every sort of way possible with different men and now that I am her husband I am stuck with just nothing. I literally have to beg her for sex...she never wants to experiment like she did wth other men. what am I to ... (57 words)

I think my b/f wants to break up with me and I don't know what to do

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is avoiding my lately, cause of that we had a fight. I called him and we made up, but he avoding me more now. I have a feeling that he wants to break up with me, not sure why he hasnt done that yet. I am trying to have this conv with him for p... (208 words)

My friend likes my b/f and they spend alot of time together!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4795 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i know that one of my friends likes my boyfriend and she old me she wouldnt do anything about it and he doesent know ... but recentley she has been spending a lott of time with him and she is very flirty and things like that it makes me really apranoid because they spend quite ... (80 words)

Is it normal to still be a virgin at 22?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Um ... I am writing this because I am not sure if it's normal. I am a young female (22 years old), kind of tall, OK-looking .. and I've never been asked out. Like .. ever. I was recently having a casual conversation w/ some of my peers and this came up, and I just don't h... (204 words)

We work together, we kissed and now things are awkward!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so I started working at this restaurant when I had a girlfriend, and this beautiful girl I'm involved with now had a boyfriend. We both ended those relationships at pretty much the same time (not a planned thing, just a coincidence). We started hanging out a lot after that ... (212 words)

Age gaps while dating in school?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My mates younger brother asked me a question the other day that i couldn't answer properly so I thought I would ask the dearcupid community. In a rough round about way he is 15 and he fancies a kid a 2 years younger but he was getting stick from his mates about the age di... (115 words)

You don't bring me flowers anymore..

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been dating someone for 3 months...we moved fast and are in a committed relationship. I want to know why things change...We used to text constantly during the day..now? Not as much...He used to bring flowers...Now? Nope..We have been basically living together the past ... (63 words)

He's sick of me being shy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - my bf told a good friend of mine, after she asked, that he was a little sick of having to always go and talk to me at school and that i never do it. I really dont know if i should be angry or feel guilty, should i apologize and spend more time with him tomorrow??, i mean we are ... (98 words)

Is it possible to run away from your true feelings for someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have a question: Is it ever really possible to run away from your true feelings, ie. denying them or trying to forget about them or staying away from someone when you really do in your heart care about/have feelings for them? How can you tell if your feelings are real a... (79 words)

How do we break the "Ice"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I just recently ended a relationship that was a little over 2 years long. However, I semi checked out quite some time ago due to his reverting back to old habits of drinking and temper, and just knowing I deserved way better and I’m not in it to settle. Several months ago I ... (467 words)

Should you trust your partner enough not to use condoms?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This might sound a little stupid but i am going to ask it anyway and it is more to see what are people's sides when it comes to this topic. So i have been in a relationship with this wonderful guy for like a year an a half, he is in his mid 20s and i am in my early 20s. Th... (339 words)

Courtesy and Texting

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I usually wait to text my boyfriend until I hear from him first. We've been together a year. Initially texting like gangbusters on both sides, so it's not like it was an annoyance when we started. I knew he was going out last night (no problems there). We had been playing a ... (141 words)

How do I know what is assertive and what is taking and not giving?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok so this is quite a graphic question as i feel I have to go into detail to explain. I was with my boyfriend at the weekend and Sunday morning I got a little upset. To explain- I was with someone for 16 yrs and married for 4 yrs before I met my LD bf. I have to admit I was ne... (360 words)

Husband is forcing me to forget the other man and love him again.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi Cupids. I am in a very difficult situation and I need help. I had an emotional affair with a married man for a year. I told my husband about it and now my husband no longer trust me. I fully understand his feelings and he has a right to them because I betrayed him. The... (870 words)

My boyfriend wants me to use dirty talk in the bedroom and I have no idea how to do it.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

4 October 2011 (F) age 30-35 - I'm quite embarrassed about asking this, but i have no one else to ask... i'v been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, and we started having sex, but he never manages to finish 'if you know what i mean' and he told me he'll only manage if i had to use dirty talk ... (89 words)

I'm worried about asking out a girl who is taller than me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hey everyone, i just have a lil problem, im doing an exchange program in europe and i really like this girl in my class, shes cute but the problem is shes a lil taller than me even without heels. im actually okay with talkin to girls i like but this time i found it kinda ... (134 words)

I don't want my first to be a stranger, but at university the temptation is always there!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 18 and I've not slept with anyone before and it doesn't help that when i go out in the evenings and meet guys that i'm so tempted to sleep with them! Two nights ago, I met this guy and we were really on it with each other!! I couldn't get enough, he was really good with his ... (190 words)

I'm sick of all the problems with my family and feel that moving away may be the only solution

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Readers, Could someone please help me in my current situation that I just feel is deteriorating as is my mental health. My family has underminded and abused me for much of my life around my daughter since I can remember. She is now nearly 14. I unfortunatley du... (846 words)

I want to get out of this situation but don't know where to turn!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I feel like such a failure.i'm 27 years old,dont have a job and live with my grandparents.i have either quit jobs or been fired from them due to lack of confidence.my dad has been married 3 times and had my two half brothers in his first marriage and me and my younger brother ... (319 words)

Sometimes I wish I could just erase my ex from my life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex and i split up nearly 4 years ago, we have a 7 year old son together so we still have contact. My ex and i have both moved on and have our own lives and he has since been married but even though he has moved on he still likes to play me and it really affects me. For... (386 words)

Why do guys act interested, then ignore you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this guy while I was at a club on Friday. It was his friend who was chatting to me more during the night and he was just more into the music (it wasn't like a trashy club we were all there to see a big DJ) so I had to make the effort to speak to him, but once I did he ... (246 words)

Is this guy just a time waster?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - About 1 year ago I met this guy at work and we briefly worked together for a few months. During that time, it was clear (or so I thought) that we were interested in each other, but nothing ever developed further. We would speak at work and messaged each other outside of work ... (343 words)

Will all the men I meet be damaged goods?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Is 43 too old to find a partner capable of a mature but fun and equal relationship? Does it help that I look younger, even though I don't want a younger partner? I am recently out of a relationship that lasted almost two decades and can see where everything went very wrong. ... (96 words)

The relationship has lost its spark

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 20 years old. I have been with my boyfriend who is 25 for a year and a half. We moved in with each other pretty much straight away, about three months in... for the first 3 months of being with him we had sex maybe twice a day... always texting dirty messages and pictures... (604 words)

Married to rich girl, but her parents don't wana see me attending parties at their place, my wife doesn't know this, what should I do know?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am married to a girl for last 10 months with whom I was in a relationship for one year before we got married December last year. She is from extremely rich family and my monthly salary is equaled of her daily pocket money . Somehow she convinced here parents and we got ... (590 words)

I understand not being in the mood, but for 8 months??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel that I've become unattractive to my girlfriend. We've been going out for two-years. At the start of our relationship, we were all over each other all the time. We would have sex basically everyday, sometimes two or three times (or more) a day. And of course that decl... (291 words)

Seeing his old messages brought up my insecurities

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Well this morning my boyfriend left me alone in his flat as he went to work. I wanted to watch tv online so I turned it on but before decided to check my fb. As he never usually is logged in I didn't expect it when he was. I then began looking through past messages between him ... (157 words)

Can you be friends with your ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Are there signs that your ex might want to give you another chance. I dont think mine is like the typical ex. but then again i dont know. she messaged me today so we talked a little bit but she kept asking me questions. and I got annoyed and said is this just how its going to ... (152 words)

Is my FWB toying with me? Should I wait and see what he does or should I just ignore him and get over it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've had a FWBs relationship with a guy for a little over a year now, I've asked for advice on here before but now there is a different problem I seem to cant understand. He has recently become more affectionate with me and openly telling me he wants me, as to a month ago h... (391 words)

How do I make these feelings stop?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I think I'm in love with someone who's with another woman. Neither one of us are married. We've been close friends for months, now. I've dated off and on, and he's been with his girlfriend for a couple of years. He calls me his BFF. He confides in me about several th... (218 words)

Playing hard to get?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Girls if you meet a guy and he's showing some signs of interest in you would you play hard to get just so he can chase you?... (27 words)

Does it seem like she's interested?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Met a girl about a month back. Only seen her twice but a couple of nights ago she and I had a 2 hour conversation from 12-2 about Facebook, studies, interests, TV shows and animals. Would you girls have that kind of conversation with someone who you've just met recently... (87 words)

I need to move on and never look back from this LDR

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am breaking up my 4 yrs long distance relationship who's still married but he say he's separated but i never heard from him filing for divorce or steps that will make us closer to diff stage of our relationship. I loved him so much and I always will.. but I have my dreams and ... (172 words)

Am I just another good-hearted loser in this world?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey Everyone, When it comes down to dating, sex, and the opposite sex I'm a very confused man.I have had at least 7+ females tell me in a blunt, sincere, and point blank manor that they find me to be physically attrracive and claim that they really enjoy my personal... (373 words)

Sex doesn't feel good -- is there something I can do to fix it?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so im 18 i have been sexually active since i was 15 but sex has never once felt good. I have never had an orgasm from penetration. Its kinda like im not feeling anything at all when im having sex. when I was younger i did what i think every child did and "Humped" a stuffed ... (102 words)

How can I control my lust?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I think my lust level is way too high compared to normal women. I swore to myself I won't sleep with anyone til I'm married, but I think about sex 24/7. I know this sounds like a paradox, but I really don't want to have sex before I'm married, yet I'm... (140 words)

Should I meet with him after breaking up with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Broke up with on and off again guy. He has a past as a player and I am done with him coz he flirted with other girls only a day after we were having a mini break. I called him to say I think we need time apart, not talking, or texting at all for a month to get over the inf... (209 words)

Is it wrong to like him if she used to?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I think I might like this guy. He's really sweet and cute and funny, but the problem is that one of my good friends used to like him. It was two years ago, before I met her, and she got over it because he wasn't allowed to date in high school. Would it be wrong to like him? ... (162 words)

I gave him $9000 dollars. Could that be the only reason he stays? He still hasn't paid it back.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My and my bf of 1.5 years had a fight a week back which was not my fault. But anyway i apologiazed and we made up. But the thing is he used to call me/msg me at least once a day. For the past few days he is not calling, even if he does just talk to me for 3-5 mins and cuts the ... (169 words)

Nude Pictures. I just did a mistake. Do you guys think my friends would understand me and forgive me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi will i ever find a boyfriend? i did something a year ago its almost two years. i went to a chatting site and i have friends who are gay,bi, etc. and straight a lot. and i was so bored a few days before i took pics with my pc nude. i know i shouldnt have but i did. i dele... (460 words)

Friends? Should I treat my best friend the way she treated me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone... I have a quick question. So my best friend ( x ) and I were both single. She met a Guy and we both was happy about it. Because who wants to be alone all the time? So when she was dating him, like very happy. She would pick him over me but I didn't mind at f... (305 words)

Worried about my friend's health, what can I do to help her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ook, this may sound stupid ... Well i worry about my friend all the time , because well her mom has heart problems, and is on the urge of dying and so is her grandma, because in there family heart attacks are in there .. and well my friend doesn't seem to care, she doesn't eat ... (443 words)

Any make-up and style tips for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm a pretty nerdy person. I have never had a boyfriend and I would like to change that. Most guys I like are out going and "crazy" but I'm pretty shy unless around friends. When I'm around my friends, I'm crazy, random, and fun. But with strangers I sort of close up a little. ... (204 words)

When married guys flirt are they looking for the "emotional attachment" that I miss too? Or are they just looking for no frills sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Does anyone else have a difficult time getting over a crush? I am married with kids and in my late 30's yet still wonder whether my married crush thinks about me etc. My husband is very attractive and athletic - more so than my crush but is sometimes not the sensitive type... (134 words)

She refused to go out with me.Says not yet. what is she afraid of, or is she afraid at all?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Ok, earlier I said, "I am jealous of my friend going out with my other friend", so to get her out of my head I looked for another girl and said, "how do I get my friend to like me". She said no when I asked her out, so now I went back to the girl I liked first of all, and to f... (105 words)

Should I confront my cruel sister for what she has done? She's ruined my education, I miss my husband and she destroyed my passport.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Help help help Please. I got married and was to travel for honeymoon with my husband the next day. as we were to pursue our masters degree in england. On The day, we went to the aiport but We couldnt go. We had to return home because we found out when checking into the plan... (301 words)

Was I Wrong for Talking to Another Guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. We were having some troubles about a year ago and just took a break for about two months. In that two months he talked to other girls and i talked to this guy. I had a crush on him and so di he. We never did anything tho. After ... (200 words)

No husband or boyfriend. Am I wrong to feel bad about this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

4 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it wrong for me to think that my life is over because I don't have a husband OR boyfriend? I'm 35 and I hardly even date. I'm extremely shy and not a positive thinker. ... (36 words)