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writes:We've been together 1 year--overall it's been good, but because he's so reluctant to verbalize his feelings and can't financially really buy me "stuff" (that I really don't need or want to be honest), I grasp for other signs of his love. I had a few minutes that I could visit him before work this morning and he seemed especially excited to know if I was coming back Thursday (he has Th and Fri off for work and we spend nearly all our free time off together). I guess I should take this as one of his ways of expressing his love for me. In 1 year he's only said I Love You twice, and the 1st time I didn't even hear it so it doesn't count.My father has never actually said the words I Love You to anyone in my hearing but shows it in how he provides for and spends time doing things with the family so I'm willing to believe my boyfriend is the same way--actions, not words. He said he gets freaked out by saying I Love You. I shouldn't pressure him on this, should I?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I have learned that WHAT they DO is more important than WHAT they say... my boyfriend RARELY says 'I love you' so when he does say it it's a treat... BUT he cares for me when I'm sick and spends all his time with me and wants to spend his life with me.... so I know he loves me.
IF you have to wrangle things to fit to make you feel he loves you that's one thing.. but if you wake up and go
"he does A B and C and he loves me" without having to figure it out.. then he probably does... Some folks just can't say those three words...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): Sounds all good to me, and actions do speak louder than words
Better a man who gets excited knowing he's gonna spend time with you than one that SAYS he loves seeing you but always has an excuse as to why he can't!
I know its nice to hear 'I love you' but if it's not his thing then you have to get used to it.
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reader, Mylifesnotadreamyet +, writes (18 October 2011):
Don't pressure him. but yes you are correct. I believe since he can't spoil you in riches. He will just have to show his love by trying to be with you every second he can.
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