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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I move forward in our relationship when I can't stop thinking about her? I want her back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - So here is my story. I will cut some stuff out but it will be a long one. My ex and I started dated for about 5 months. It had been a while since I had been with anyone and she had not been with anyone seriously since her divorce about a year ago. Her ex was a little abusive... (731 words)

My Dad asked me to tell a serious lie. I feel bad about that. Should I cut contact with him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone so its been awhile since i have been on here but i could really use some help, so this morning my dad called me and he lives six hours away from me and i only see him once in a great while and he asked me if i could do a favor for him and tell a little white li... (238 words)

Going to meet him. To talk. But can I get him to like me as more than 'friends'?i don't want to lose him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi i'm a 23 year old female. I met my boyfriend 3 years ago as (then) just mates no emotional connection just friends. His little sister passed away and i was there for him. 3 years later i moved to a new city and it was a shock that he was moving to the same place to. None... (377 words)

Would an older guy be interested in someone mature or innocent?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm 18 and I usually like older guys, like who are in their mid to late twenties. This is a step up for me as before I used to like my middle aged teachers. I don't know if it's because I grew up without a father or what, but I tend to act very innocent when I'm around ... (184 words)

Our six-year love has faded. Should we break up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. Problem is all we seem to do lately is argue. I feel he doesn't appreciate me. Uve told him this n hes promised hell change but he stil hasnt. Im not as happy as I was before and just wonderimg whether I should break up ... (83 words)

What should I do now that my crush knows?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - the person i fancie found out about it what should i do?... (15 words)

Should I tell my ex I'm coming home for a visit?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. Well she broke up with me. She wants to be my friend I said no I wont. She texts me all the time and 99%of the time I dont respond. I want to get back together with her but she said no.(at the beginning of the break up). She has texted ... (601 words)

My ex always tries to befriend my new boyfriends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex is so annoying he doesnt like it when i go out with somone else even tho the relationship has been over for nearly 2 years now. Whenever i get a new boyfriend he acts as if he is their best mate and never likes me to talk to them or be near them, if i am he will just come ... (218 words)

I'm an adult, but still have teenage skin. What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My skin's just like your typical teenage skin.. Break outs here and there and black heads. But my break outs seem to be getting worse and I can't stop picking at them! I'm going to try and break that habit, but what are some things I could use and do for nice, beautiful, clear, ... (85 words)

How do I become less anxious and gain confidence?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - how do i gain some confidence and get over anxiety? every think i do has its own worrys even pathetic stupid things, for example, im at the hairdressers tomorow and all ican think about is what to say and what to wear. i cant stand the way i look my body is way out of ... (249 words)

I want to get in shape!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Alright so I've been a little overweight for a couple years now and I'm beyond tired of it! I just want to get started on a healthy lifestyle and shed these 30 pounds off so I can be healthy and feel good about myself and have confidence. I'm 5'4 and I weigh 152lbs. ... (169 words)

If I'm 17, is it OK to be in love with a 26-year-old man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - im a 17 year old woman in love with a 26 year old man and he is in love with me we both live in indiana is this legle we need advice cause my parents told us both that if we continue our relationhip that they would have him arrested please help... (52 words)

Is he making excuses for me to not go out with him and friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have gone through some issues, mostly with me and my trust issues. Then when we were going through those, he became less and less sweet. He hasn't become mean; he's just become nonchalant and blah about everything, like he just doesn't care as much. A co... (667 words)

I can't guarantee I won't cheat on my boyfriend if I visit my ex.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. I wasn't too sure about going out with him at first, as he wasn't the type I would usually go for. I went for it, and found it the best decision I'd ever made. He is the most caring, sweet, loving boyfrien... (645 words)

If a girl is slow to reply to your messages, does this mean she isn't interested?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - If a girl is slow to reply to your messages, does this mean she isn't interested? I went out with a girl this week and we seemed to have a really nice night together. It started timidly, but then we relaxed and enjoyed our evening. It even ended with a goodnight kiss. I ... (235 words)

Where do I stand with this girl? Friend Zone? Or more if she re-thinks her stated intentions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - The first few weeks of university have been a true whirlwind experience and yesterday, I went out with a girl who I really like. We had a few drinks and then headed back to her appartment where after a drink she told me that she "didn't want to sleep with me because she liked ... (191 words)

Is he interested or just playing games?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! Me and this guy went to two parties, made out at both if them. We went on a date on the weekend, he paid for cinema, food and cab. I said I liked him and he said that he's not looking for a relationship, he has uni applications and a business to run and he just got out of a... (119 words)

Am I a loser? And is it wrong that I no longer miss my ex-girlfriend? Is that normal after 14 months?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend me dumped 14 months ago, saying I would never get a good job thus wouldn't be able to give her financial stability. She used to call me a loser which would make me laugh. I am still doing smaller paying job and I am fine with this loser term because I am loser. N... (109 words)

Am I doing the right thing by breaking up with my boyfriend?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm breaking up with my boyfriend today, and I just need some support that I'm doing the right thing. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. In January we moved in together. He and my other roommate really didn't like eachother and they got into a fight last ... (289 words)

What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you" after an argument?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2772 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you _____ (my name)"? We had an argument on the phone last night about his hot and cold behavior with me which has been pretty consistent throughout our entire relationship (problems with communication). ... (249 words)

How to stop being jealous of husband's female friend?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 October 2011 (?) age 36-40 - This is a short question: How do I get passed being angry and jealous of my husband having a picture of his female friend in her underware? How do I forgive him when he assures me she didn't give him the picture, and it was supposed to be funny and him and his friends were... (130 words)

Why is LDR boyfriend embarrassed to sex text me now? He wasn't before!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Sex Text question? I have been with my LD BF for just over 6 months- we meet up every month or so and have a great time together. A few weeks ago he mentioned to me that sex was no longer the most important thing to him and that just being with me was. This I thought was a re... (420 words)

Burning "down there"- Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiya, i've just started university a few weeks ago and during freshers week I had a one night stand (actually it happened twice) and the condom split. Now i'm on the pill anyway, so that aspect is ok, but since then i've had a burning down below. Its not terribly bad, unless ... (164 words)

Mixed signals? So does she like me NOW? Despite denying wanting to go out with me earlier?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - If a girl you're extremely close friends with (and has previously slept with one occasion) says to you one morning, "You know that feeling you get after a night of really great sex? Despite not having it last night, I feel like I have. Thanks for an amazing evening." This... (91 words)

Love my job, but! Married Boss is badgering me to have an affair. What's the best realistic thing to do in this situation?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been at my job for about a 18 months. about 6 months ago, my married boss started badgering me for sex. I emphatically told him I wasnt interested because he had a wife. plus he is not my type-- although i couldnt say that to his face because i thought his feelings woul... (337 words)

Arousal makes me need to go to the bathroom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Apologies in advance for the slightly graphic nature of this question, but I've noticed something rather puzzling about my body! From time to time I'll feel really aroused out of the blue, then a few moments later I'll realise I need to use the toilet (number 2). Then going ... (88 words)

I'm insecure about my inner lips ever since one guy said they looked weird!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, so this is more of a body issue question.. I am 21 years old and I'm a virgin. I have had oral sex once a couple years back but it has really made me isecure. I have larger inner lips 'down there' (labia minora) and the guy I had oral sex made a big deal and said the... (149 words)

When someone just wants sex, do they avoid affection like this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F) age 36-40 - How does a man act if it's "just sex"? I've been seeing this man. We slept together once and since then I've tried not to see him, but I keep ending up seeing him and we kiss. We can never be together - there are so many reasons. Our situations in life just won't permit it.... (294 words)

How do I not ruin this relationship, due to my insecurities over failed past relationships?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have had a really bad relationship in the past that was emotionally abusive and resulted in me being very insecure. He cheated on me repeatedly, lied about even basic things and put me down constantly, when he kicked me out I was left pretty downtrodden. I started a new rela... (391 words)

I think I've made the biggest mistake of my life ending my affair. Don't want to be hated. But how do I make this work out right?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, not sure how to start this but hoping to get some good advice. I have been with my wife for 9 years married for 4 and last year i had an affair for 3 months with a woman who is friends with one of my friends. There was a connection from the very start and it was hard ... (1566 words)

How do I get through to him? He doesn't want these two people at our wedding, Because he thinks they dislike him and his son.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and plan to get married. We just had a huge argument because he feels that one of my friends and one of my family members do not like him and his son (from previous relationship). He thinks this is unheard of and that there m... (339 words)

How can I tell my teacher that she is like a second mother to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - first of all, i have an english teacher and i love her very much as a second mother but she doesn't know that. and i really want to tell her that i love her as a second mother but i don't know how she is going to react if i told her that. so, what should i do? please help!... (60 words)

I'm 37 and a very different aged woman showed interest in me. I thought we had something happening. So why did she lose interest so quickly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hope someone can give me an advice here, I am really really confused. Here's the story: About half a year ago a really beautiful woman started showing me interest in me She winked at me, talked a lot to me, asked me if I'm seeing someone, and smiled/gazed a lot. So I finally ... (288 words)

Guys, don't you feel it if a woman wants you? or you just give it a try anyway and try your luck?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - This is what I want to ask you guys and girls, but mostly guys: can you tell when you have a chance with a woman even for just that night, or are just men absolutely oblivious to the signs and you guys need to be told straight forward yes or no? I travel a lot, sometimes fo... (852 words)

My 14 year old daughter wants to call the shots. My family is unsupportive. How do I get through all this alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age - Dear Readers, I am feeling guilty that my 14 year old daughter doesn't want to live me with unless it is on her terms. My whole family disrespect me as does she. My family give her whatever she wants, give her the out and refuse to let me place boundaries. when I have tr... (276 words)

I am Jealous of my boyfriend's sister! Am I out of my mind?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 17 and I have been with my boyfriend (20) for over a year. His sister is my age and she has hated me ever since we started dating. His sister and I used to go in the same school (now I'm not going to school because I can't afford it, my father lost his job and private scho... (496 words)

He loved me. Is he over me now? Would it be OK to tell him why I could not respond? And ask for a new chance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - About 3 months ago, I met this really great guy. I'm not just saying this either, he was very genuine and sensitive. The problem was that I had recently gotten out of a 4 year relationship (7 months prior) and still had my "guard" up. I never really told him about my past, and ... (262 words)

How do I show my boyfriend how much I appreciate his kindness to me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Today my boyfriend bought a computer for me knowing I desperately needed for my college. I have spent most of my time at the library, I don't have to now, thank-you to him! I said thank-you so many times today, I feel I can't say it enough. I have never in my life had anyone be ... (134 words)

My jealousy is getting in the way of the relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hey dearcupid.. im a very jealous person , and i see my boyfriend almost everyday. When my boyfriend and i are apart, and hes with his friends , i seem to always get an attitude because of me being jealous , and i try not to show it , but he still notices it. For some reason i... (154 words)

Is it a bad idea to tell a friend that you don't want to be friends anymore??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4794 days ago

7 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - We were amazing friends then stuff happened and she rejected me, and now I'm totally over it. She still wants to be friends, I don't really need her in my life anymore and i just don't really care anymore. Shes a difficult person to be friends with and I only put up with... (232 words)

How long should I wait to start looking for someone after a break up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How long should I wait to start looking for someone after a break up? I really don't want to be single and my ex does. Should I still wait a bit? Or is it okay to start looking?... (38 words)

Does anyone think the law not allowing 16 year olds an younger to have sex will stop anyone?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Just want to clarify, I don't want to have sex. I just think its unrealistic. Do you think it'll stop anyone? No one will call the police. Especially if their both underage. I know why its there and all, but I also know a pregnant eighth grader. The law didn't stop them... (100 words)

I think my husband is cheating with his cousin

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi dear cupid, good day! until now i don't really trust my husband. i always have doubts in my mind wherever he go and whatever he does.i have doubts that they still contacting with each other with his ex girlfriend which is his 2nd cousin.please help me i don't know what to ... (133 words)

Mother putting me under "house arrest" because of HER bad behavior!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Readers! Earlier today my [separated] parents went to court because an incident happened last week where my mother was not letting me [19yrs old] and my 12 year old brother in the house. That was not the first time we were "kicked out" of the house, it happened almost ... (383 words)

Always the friend, Never the girl. How can I change this??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Since moving out on my own nearly 2 years ago I've become friends with a lot of guys. It starts off as just hanging out, and then when it seems like either I or they start to have more feelings they find another girl. In a recent friendship, I had known this guy for close to a ... (140 words)

I'm terrified that I'll never fall in love again

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

7 October 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Ever since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago I havent been able to have feelings for any other guy. I was madly in love with him and he broke my heart. I have been on many dates but when it becomes remotely serious I just back out and think I can't do this. I met this really ... (141 words)