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female
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41-50,
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writes:I have been a member on a dating website for a couple of months now,and have met a few different people,and the same thing seems to happen. There seems to be interest at first,and then it fizzles out. I actually made it through a few dates with the most recent one,and now the same thing I believe has happened....he has not contacted me in 5 days,and I have not bothered to ask him why because if somebody isn't interested I don't chase them. I also felt like by the end of our last date,eventhough it ended with the usual kiss,I felt as if something was different, and he didn't mention another date as he had previous times.I can only assume there must be something wrong with me because I have never had a problem with guys liking me before,but I never went out on dates often like I am now either...these men have lots of other options on the website if they just arent into me that much,and can move along without a second thought. I know I'm an attractive person. My lifestyle may be a little different from most men my age because I am a single mom and am not out partying my life away.Upon thinking about it,I can only assume it might be because I'm not so good at leading a conversation with people I don't know well. I tend to let them do most of the talking and I'll add in my thoughts and what not. I'm naturally a bit of a quiet person sometimes. Not because I don't want to talk,but because with people I don't know I just feel like I can't think of what to say,or think I'll say something stupid.I guess I just want to know if somebody could offer any advice how to get past this? I can go out with my friends and just talk away about every little thing,but I am not able to talk this way with people I am not used to yet,and I think it is holding me back from meeting somebody who could turn into something more serious. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Sounds to me like you need to use that age-old device that all the girls have used with me.....
Next time you have a date with a guy.... and you and he kiss goodnight..... lean in and whisper in his ear, "If you date me a couple of more times, you might find it easy to get me to compromise my morals for you...."
That ALWAYS works.. as we guys will do just about ANYTHING to get a girl in to bed......
Good luck....
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (18 October 2011):
I think the solution is making casual friends.....not the no strings attached friends but the traditional friends who actually enjoy your company just because you're an interesting person. It's easy to date someone with whom ur well acquainted. It lessens the stress and there's no hard feelings. So try the friends first rule. Good luck
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