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writes:Okay my sister is 22 and her boyfriend is 23. They both graduated from college but her boyfriend moved to New York for a job and now he's living there. My sister is working at a hospital here in Seattle (working in a hospital is her dream job). They dated all throughout college, since their freshmen years. But now they are in a long distance relationship. What are the chances of that working out? I mean living on opposite sides of the country? I'm sorry that seems way too tough. And they are both still young. They both LOVE their jobs and they were happy together in college. But so far she says Skype has been the glue to their relationship. I love my sister, but both living almost 3000 miles apart, I don't know. LDR rarely work right?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Well there are ways that LDRS work. they do have hospitals in NY or he could find a job where she is.
Yes LDRS can work and yes 3000 miles is a LOT but with the internet and jet travel a few years apart before they close the gap might work out.
Things that are needed:
communication (they have skype so that's covered)
honesty
trust
a plan to close the gap. now as long as THEY are both happy with things they way they are it's good... they may say "we are taking 2 years to do our own thing and then we will be together in XXX state..." they may be waiting to see who has the better job... my boyfriend is moving from PA to MD to be with me... I have the better job.
Is there something that's going on that has you so very concerned?
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 In this case, the distance and jobs involved make this a big big problem. Also, the ages are young and I would just question how many times they would see eachother during the year. Hospital work has long infrequent hours so it is very hard to plan things. I personally think there is too much against this working. Further, she has her dream job and she couldn't just give this up.
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