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writes:Dear CupidMy question links on from this previous question...http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-relationship-was-amazing-and-now-i-need.htmlBasically I gave my gf space for five days. Come Saturday I left her a voicemail saying I hoped she was well and that I hope she knows I'm here if she needs me, after a friend had told me how she'd told him that we hadn't spoken for days (almost like she didn't get it?).That night she rang me and we spoke about random things like what we'd done that week. It was a little awkward and I could sense like she wanted to say something but couldn't? So to avoid pushing it/making her feel under pressure I ended the call and said she could message me if she likes. I then got a message in the early hours saying she couldn't sleep etc.Over the last two days I've had a few messages now and then, but when I reply she has a conversation with me over text with simple one or couple word responses. I did however send her a message the day before yesterday saying 'I just want you to know I'm not unhappy with you, all I wish for you is to be happy. I miss you and hope you sleep well'.I'm so confused and tomorrow we have to meet up to work for two days. I know we'll both be professional but I feel so uncomfortable. I have no clue where I stand?To confirm before I gave her space she text me saying she wanted to be like where we were, to have a laugh and fun as friends and that she felt cooling things off was the best thing and perhaps we could start over.I don't know if it's over or not, if this is her being 'friends' with me. She's not said how she feels, where we are and I feel I can't ask her, I don't want to push it?I'm not expecting it, but I really hope if we get five mins between the next two days that she gives me some hope by saying something about how she feels/what she wants. I just feel in such limbo and as if I'm being blown off, but I don't see why I deserve to be treated like this.What do you think, is it over? What would you do?I'd do anything for things to be where they were.Thanks
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Hi,
You need to communicate. Ring her up and see what's happening. Might be difficult to speak at work so I'd say ring her tonite.
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reader, tb0721  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I think you just need to ask her. Tell her your feelsings for her but if she doesnt feel the same way at least let you know and that you will respect her decision. Sounds like either shes unsure about having a relationship or doesnt want one. Either way she needs to tell you so you can move forward.
Good luck!
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 October 2011):
 No other choice than to ask her mate, you will never know how she feels until you do.
You're in limbo atm, there's only one way too find out what the state of your relationship is.
Good luck.
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