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Archived questions from: 14 October, 2011 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I was innocent! A girl accused me of rape so her boyfriend wouldn't think she cheated! Its ruined my life!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

14 October 2011 (?) age 36-40 - A girl I had a fling with cried rape on me and even though I was proved innocent it's ruined my life. It seems no one 100% believes me and still questions what happened. A couple of months ago I was out with a few mates in a club and got chatting to this girl. We got on really ... (311 words)

Is it wrong to show your true affection to your partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been going out with my boyfriend for four months now.We met on facebook and he stays in another country different from mine.Things have been so good between us lately until now,he started actining strangely,sometimes he doesent even say good night.Everytime i ask he will ... (81 words)

How do I tell my sister she needs to use better hygiene?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so today me and my mom where talking and my sister who is 28 came up in our conversation. It happens to be that my sister still lives at home(Never had a boyfriend) and that's not the problem but what is is that my sister has poor hygiene. I love my sister so much and we ... (164 words)

Will he stand me up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

14 October 2011 (?) age 26-29 - I'm met a guy at my cousins birthday party and while there he told my cousin that he liked me and my cousin told me. I really like this guy and we got talking and arranged to meet up, my cousin said he's a really nice guy and that we should definitely meet up and everything. ... (107 words)

Am I being over sensitive when my boyfriend has not time to text or call me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age - Hi, Can anyone help please. I met a guy on a dating line and he lives a long way from me (2and a half hours drive away). He has been phoning constantly and texting and we have met up a couple of times. He calls me at all times of the day, sometimes even texts in the night and ... (251 words)

Dating sites -- vanilla vs hookup type sites?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I've been considering going into online dating again. I've used plenty of fish and match.com in the past and all the guys I talked to were a bit passive. Sort of either way too cocky or no confidence at all. A friend of mine, a female, mentioned she has good luck with ... (131 words)

What exactly is making out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Alright, I will make it directly so that you guys won't be feel bored about it. PEOPLE, tell me the correct term of "making out". Till now i thought making out is just a kissing. Yes, even though i am in high school I don't have much information about these kind of stuff. Omg i ... (164 words)

I met a nice guy after breakup but all I kept thinking about was my ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - A couple of months ago i broke up with my boyfriend. Well actually he broke up with me. I was really in love with him and when he broke up with me i broke down. he really hurt me. I stopped doing the things i did and i really didn't care much for anything. I was so depressed ... (294 words)

How many times do you go out and week and how much do you drink?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi Everyone, I have a question please, especially for people living in the UK that are late thirties/early forties...how many times do you go out each week in the evening and would this usually involve drinking on each of those occasions? If so, how drunk would you say you get ... (139 words)

Is my ex jealous about my new man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - After my ex bf rejected me weeks later I met this wonderful man and we had amazing sex iam falling for him he's a friend also so since my ex didn't want me and cheated on me I've moved on my ex wants to be friends so since he wants to be friends I shared about my new man and ... (119 words)

I've become a hunting widow! Boyfriend has not time for me now!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months. He is everything I ever hoped to find in a guy...he's smart, good looking, great personality, hard worker, and laid back for the most part. He also served in the Marines. I'm officially a hunting widow. As soon as Octob... (769 words)

I fall for men too quickly, how do I stop this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How do you stop getting too emotionally involved too quickly? I have been dating a very nice man for a couple of weeks, and I am conscious that I am probably falling for him too quickly. I think he is great, his personality, his sense of humour, and the way he thinks an... (315 words)

Do you think I was being manipulative?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm moving to another city for nine months next November. I have talked about this to my boyfriend about a month ago. We are going to stay together while I'm away. I feel like we haven't spent quality time together lately because he has a lot of homework, which is fine. Bu... (219 words)

Couldn't get it up.....

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So there's this guy i've been hanging out with at uni. We're both 18, and he seems like a genuine lovely guy. Anyway the other night we were both out at a party with separate groups, but ended up hanging together, kissing etc. I should point out we both had had a lot to drink. ... (289 words)

His family don't know I exist!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been seeing my bf for 15 months, we met online and he only lives a ten minute drive from me. We had chemistry and clicked early on and i've been very happy with him, also he's happy with me. But, his family dont know i exist! He lives with his parents since splitting... (215 words)

He says his love is so pure that he cant even imagine me naked!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, i need help. I am totally perplexed in this relationship of two years with this guy. He says that he loves me. I know that very well. I love him too. But i think, may be he loves me too much, far beyond my imagination. He is a nice guy but recently his behavio... (205 words)

I slept with someone else when were not properly together and now I'm worried my boyfriend will find out, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 22, I've wanted to be with him for over a year, then I moved away for work in june,and he finally told me how he felt, we acted like we were together but wasn't due to long distance, when I came back for a few days I slept with a friend.. We weren't ... (157 words)

Overwhelmed with life and don't want to be independent anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm frozen with inaction. I'm in a relationship that I hope will lead to marriage, but at this point (1 year), it's too early to be sure. I have always been fairly independent but I'm tired and lonely taking care of myself. I want certainty that I'll have this companionship ... (206 words)

I'm jealous of his very attractive best friend! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in a very sticky situation. My bf and I have been happily together for 10 months and were friends for about 5 years prior. Things have pretty much gone off without a hitch, except for his very attractive, charismatic best friend. She is beautiful and a stripper. The two ... (228 words)

How can I get him to open up about his past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so here's the dealio: Me and my boyfriend (It's kinda long distance) is a foster kid. When I met him, he lived five miles away, but a while ago, he got placed in a new home, and he ended up being 10 miles away. Now he's just told me he has to go to ANOTHER home. ... (219 words)

I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you I am not trying to nor will I ever... (185 words)

What could be the reason for the pain?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend fingers me very well and i feel no pain but pleasure but everytime he takes his finger out its painful. Yet when its out the pain goes away. At times i think maybe its because he takes out quickly!? What could be the reason... (47 words)

Is this enough to satisfy a woman?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Women! your thought please.... Is it possible for man to satisfy a woman even if his penis is of the size of his middle finger in terms of legnth? I'm talking only about intercourse. Honest opinion please....!... (40 words)

We both have put on weight and I really don't like my wife's belly fat, should I take the first step in getting fit? Will she follow suit?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys, i'm here to ask for help about something is bothering me to much. After my 4 years marriage me and my wife got belly fat. We are not fat, lean, but have it. My wife's belly bothers me to much, even if she's too hot and gorgeous. I keep telling her for we get a healthy ... (149 words)

He has made me feel so bad about myself I am considering breaking up with him. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need to know the essence of our relationship and also the essential lacking. Following is the sequence of events: We met and he fell for me head over heels. Would keep complimenting me all the time, was happy with me. I did not very much gel with his non-intellectual ... (582 words)

Are the steroids the reason for him behaving like this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2316 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend told me he was taking anabolic steroids after we had dated for about 4 months. Recently, he never talks to me, treats me like crap. Took back all of his promises he kept to me. I am moving 3 hours away in a few days and he used to promise me for 3 months that he ... (342 words)

Should I tell him I don't want to be friends anymore or should I just ignore him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been friends with a guy for about 9 months and I don't think I can be friends with him any more and would like advice on whether I should say this to him or just ignore him. I have already tried to explain and been met with a very sarcastic and immature attitude. I th... (552 words)

How do I tell him I don't think its a good idea for him and his kids to stay in my flat without offending him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of 1 year has 2 kids, 9 and 11, who live with their mom and they are going to stay with him for the holiday in December. He’s living with his elderly mother and father for financial reasons – he had to give up his flat because he could no longer afford it. He wan... (276 words)

We havent had sex in 9 months! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years next month. We haven't had sex in nine months, though he regularly asks me for oral, but if I say okay, but I want oral in return he says no. We live together, I feel confident he isn't cheating on me as we do alot ... (177 words)

Will it last with this new woman? I want my ex back!

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age - My ex husband and i got divorced 2 years ago today.....it was my fault i asked for the divorce and he was gutted and in great pain. i started seeing someone else. But realised i loved my ex who tried to get back with me...i was confused and rejected him kissing me so he got ... (357 words)

How do I get past my strong feelings for her because she's married?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I wrote a couple weeks ago about this girl whose married and have pretty much been having an emotional affair with. Her husband was out of town this week for business and I spent 5 days at her house with her. It was pretty much a nonstop party for the most part. Besides these 5 ... (442 words)

I feel like we should be working on our sex life even if we're not having sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my man been together for 3 1/2 years now and been having sex. Sex went from everyday, down to once every week, down to once every month, and down to 3 months passing no sex and then we decided to not have sex until we are married. We are not really in a rush like my ... (238 words)

Started thinking about a baby

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 26 years old with NO kids, recently like the past couple months i have been thinking of wanting a baby. But then i think 'not every women is meant to be a mother,' I still have at least 5 years of my life i want leave to myself and my man. I been liking pages on facebook ... (161 words)

Should I take a stand? It seems like she overreacted.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I have been together for three-years. Although about three-months ago, she had to move to Salt Lake City for her family (her mom is sick and she needed to be there for her). I was fine with it, even though I live in Portland meaning it's a pretty big gap. ... (415 words)

Should I be hurt by his ultimatum?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age - My fiance' and I got into an argument bout his job and its influence. I feel like a dirty secret. He says he wants to keep his home life seperate from his work life, ok. Yesterday he was called into work, just to realize that they didn't call him to work, but to go have ... (234 words)

I don't know how to trust him even though I have no reason not to

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This might be long so ill get straight to it. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, but I have serious trust issues. He hasn't done anything to make me not trust him but I don't. Truth be told o trust no one. Especially men. Today we spent the day together and he got a missed ... (386 words)

Wife's sexual past is tormenting me

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I was a virgin when I met my wife. More than that, I didn't even have another serious girlfriend before then. Meanwhile, she had a bit of an adventurous past. At the time we first dated I didn't really care. However, once we fell in love it really started to gnaw at me. It s... (242 words)

Is Implanon birth control the cause of my low sex drive and vaginal dryness ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4818 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently started using Implanon birth control and im starting to suffer from some vaginal dryness. It is also starting to diminish my sex drive. Is there anything I can do, or is there any type of medication that can help me out down there? ... (45 words)

Boyfriend wants to cook for me but he's a terrible cook!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So this is kind of a silly question but I do need some logical advice on this. My boyfriend is a great guy(the majority of the time). He isn't a cheater, liar, or woman beater so...he's definitely a keeper lol. The problem is...He's a terrible cook. Well I won't say ... (204 words)

How is a rebound defined?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I was talking to a male friend of mine and he said that he doesn't want to fall in love right now, he wants a rebound first. What constitutes a rebound and is that necessary in order to get over someone who broke your heart? Might this be the reason why I am still hung up on my ... (117 words)

Frustrating situation with a guy who just broke up with his gf

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So there's this guy, he is 24 years old that I really like. I just recently started talking to him. He is sweet, nice, awesome and totally cute. I have been seeing him every day for the past week and things seems to be somewhat moving forward. He just recently broke up with his ... (164 words)

Help on getting b/f to kiss me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4818 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey! I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we were really good friends before that. We had our first kiss a month or two ago , yeah i know , he wants to "take it slow". So anyway, we haven't kissed since. He's kind of shy and I'm insecure about it haha. So I ... (73 words)

I've been too clingy, so was this a good idea?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I are both 18 however he is still in his last year of school and I stayed in this town because I met him, and we decided we would move away for university together next year. We have a really really good connection and have been together almost a year. Past... (948 words)

Will a man notice my lack of experience?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 27 and I only had sex several times with one man 5 years ago. And he wasnt able to provide any orgasm despite his supposedly vast experience with women at the age of 45. Will it feel weird the first time i have sex with a man again? (i have not used any dildos, just ... (77 words)

In somewhat of a struggle with my current relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

14 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi there, (warning: this is long) I've been with my girlfriend for 14 months. We've had amazing times and lots of not so good times. Over 14 months she's had issues with a lot of things about me, issues that we've never really resolved that constantly surface. Here ar... (1490 words)

Why would somebody so used to having sex not be making even any slight advances towards me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4818 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all! I have been seeing a guy for the last couple weeks,we just had our 3rd very succesful date with each other yesterday. He is very sweet and sometimes will say things that just make me melt. He doesn't hold back on what he thinks or play any games and I like that about ... (332 words)

How do single moms deal with dating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Here is what happened. I m in my mid thirties, one child, divorced, but good relationship with a father of my daughter.She adores him and also I love his family, parents, sister and so on, and they seem to love me. I m very busy with my work, travel a lot, really enjoy my life,... (684 words)