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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I suspect my son is gay and is going to move away because he doesn't want us to know

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age - My son is 30 and for a few year I've suspected he might be gay. As far as I'm aware he hasn't had a girl friend and the friends he seems to be close to have always been mixed sex couples. He has women friends but no relationship that I'm aware of. Over the past 5 years things ... (219 words)

Do I have appendicitis?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - MOD NOTE: Poster, I am approving this, but PLEASE understand we are NOT doctors on here and NO ONE can make a diagnosis over the internet. You are just going to get general opinions. I think I might have appendicitis but I can't be too sure. On June 17th, after waking up, I ex... (317 words)

Why? I care so much for others. Yet I am the one being Cyber Bullied. Help me rise above this please?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4765 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I finally thought I was okay, and didnt need to rely on strangers over the internet to help me through my life.. Guess I was wrong.. I havent been upset lately but now its all coming back. about a month ago, I went to a party and i regret it, but everything happens for a ... (658 words)

How do I get in touch with her just being a friend and then later ask her out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - theres this girl i used to go to school with 2 years ago and she was in a few of my classes but we never spoke at all only if we had to. anyway were friends on facebook and she commented on my status a few months ago and that was it the only time we have spoke. I have st... (119 words)

Does same sex Female Colleague Feel the Same Way as I do or Does she just Not Like Me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I started a new job two months ago and although I sit wit a table of guys (the women sit at another table) recently I have noticed one of the girls acting differently towards me lately. I am not sure if she is jealous of the attention I get from my male boss who is very ... (504 words)

Me? freshman still - does he really like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hi. so i'm a freshman in highschool. i've liked this guy for a while, since school started pretty much. he's in my mentor group class, but thats only on fridays so i don't talk to him much. i'm a bit weird/dorky myself, and he's dorky as well. we both play a particular g... (228 words)

I had a falling out with my friend. Do I wish him a happy birthday?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've put off asking this for a very long time, wrote it all out and deleted it, as I thought it was stupid to ask. But I cant make a decision. I fell out with my male best friend a couple of months ago. For good reason, and have done my utmost to keep him out of my life. And I ... (188 words)

I'm bigger than the guy that likes me and he lied to me. He told me he's 16 and he's only 14. What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - somebody please help with my situation well here we go my brother just present me a guy thru the phone their friends hes really cute!like two weeks ago its been since we met we have a really good time talking to eachother and the third day we were talking well he asked me to ... (256 words)

I just want to be attracted to girls but sometimes I find guys attractive

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I believe that I'm straight, but sometimes I have terrifying gay thoughts. I'm very attracted to girls, I never been attracted to another guy. When I have these thoughts it makes me stressed, anxious, and have head aches. Gay people freak me out, and I just want to be straight. ... (78 words)

Why we hurt those who love us so much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am Pakistani and have been in a relationship with a British girl for the last 18 months and she happens to be just one year younger than me here in Dubai. She and I being great fans of football . I like Diego Maradona and regard him, like millions people around the glob... (475 words)

I want to be a partner, not a mother or a sounding board

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am 43 and am dating a 46 year old man for 9 months. We are both divorced (5 years and 10 years) and both have kids. I have really been enjoying getting to know him. When we first met, he had just moved from a rental house into a house he had built. Things were very hectic ... (452 words)

I hate that my boyfriend is flirty with other girls!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just hate the fact that my bf is flirtacious to other girls,he is 22 now...and thats very immature,he admitted to having an ego problem ..that it kind of boosts his ego!his friends challege him at times if he could talk up/get the no. of a girl...i knew him well before we ... (453 words)

How do I keep from falling in love with this guy again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - How can avoid falling in love again? Ive been in love for about 4 years with my best friend and I think I have finally got over him which is great because he is such a dick to girls (I'm a guy.. Gay.. He's not... It's complicated) but since he has had a messy break up with on... (218 words)

I cheated with my boyfriend's friend, we broke it off but are now communicating again and I'm only happy when I'm talking to him! HELP!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey , i really need some advice, please dont judge me i feel bad enough about myself as it is back in may i fell for my boyfriend of three and a half years best mate lets just call him james, ive known james just as long as my partner who we will call eddy, i went to school w... (352 words)

I'm worried my husband is embarrassed of me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4765 days ago

21 October 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Okay, what do you think. My husband is pretty popular on social networking. A while back I posted my picture on my social sites that are linked to his (like twitter.) He quickly told me to take down all pictures of me because people would take them, photoshop them, ... (386 words)

How do I let him know I'm up for a FWB relationship without sounding stupid?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hi everyone. I want to get into a FWB relationship with a guy i know. Im pretty sure he'd be up for it, but how do i suggest it/let him know thats what i want without sounding really stupid? Any advice please? Thanks!... (43 words)

I normally go for older guys but now I like a guy 17 months younger than me but can't see it going anywhere?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey :) well basically, I find guys who are older than me very attractive and they are the people i normally develop feelings for. For example, I am 16 and I have "liked" guys of ages, 18,21,24. But recently,about 2 months ago I got talking to a boy who is younger than me.... (180 words)

I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex! Can this be fixed, or should I walk away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i was in a really bad relationship on and off for about 6 years i moved states away to be with this guy and we eventually broke it off. i met up with an old friend that ive knows for a really long time and he was over seas for a few years and i havent seen him in quite a while. ... (342 words)

Am I just being insecure? Or are these reasons not to be with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So I have someone great in my life,but I've been finding out some things about her,and I'm not sure if I should try to persue my love interest,or just take it back to a strictly platonic friendship,or sever the connection completely So first ill start off by saying that we a... (738 words)

How sexy should I encourage my wife to dress for Halloween?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - OK, so we are going to a Halloween party. Same party we went to last year. Last year there were a few (like 3) fairly sexy costumes. Needless to say, these women got a lot of attention, and I am sure were the topic of conversation among many couples as they went home (probably ... (461 words)

Is my boyfriend being uncaring and is it okay for him to be hiding photos with girls from me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, i have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and everything was going so well until recently. The other night he went clubbing with his best friend and put photos of it on facebook which he showed me and that was all cool, looked drunk but like they had a ... (498 words)

Is this even worth it anymore?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone and thank you for your help! My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. Started off nice as all relationships usually do. He was sweet, listened to me, complimentive, and very caring. He still has many of those traits but there only visible half the... (268 words)

My wife is burning herself out and I miss the days when we were students! How can I get to spend more quality time with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - In 2001, I lost my heart to 15 years teenager and to whom I got married March this year. She has been living with me and my parents since December 2001 and my parents considered her daughter. I think this space would turn minute if start describing how pretty and nice she is ... (327 words)

Is it normal to still have sleepovers at 19?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This isn't a relationship question but is it normal or ok to still have sleepovers at 19? My friend and I always stay in each others place and have a few drinks is it normal that we still have sleepovers?... (40 words)

If you are with a divorced man does that automatically mean I have to have a second best wedding and a second best life?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner of 3 years is a nice guy, he makes me laugh, he’s good company, he cooks me dinner, we share interests. Intimacy is great. He got divorced 6 years ago. I have never been married. The problem is he has so many problems and we cannot get married until they are s... (412 words)

How shall I approach my mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear girlfriends, could you give me some useful hints how to tackle the following situation:¨ I am 47, a mother of two children, 19 and 22 years. I left my husband four years ago, it turned out he has been unfaithful to me from the very beginning. It was very hard on me and m... (403 words)

He cant ejaculate! How common is this and what, if anything, can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been dating a man for a few weeks now, everything is good and this isnt really a complaint, but he cant ejaculate through sex, blow jobs, handjobs...you name it, no girl has ever made him ejaculate! He is 29, in good health, doesnt take medication, exercises, doesn... (163 words)

How do I talk to my FWB about my feelings for him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone here is my problem me and this man are fwb, I wanted more and I told him but he didn't say anything back. he treats me quite badly, we arrange for me to stay at his and then he forgets all about it. we arrange a night out then when the day comes he says he has to ... (201 words)

My Friends with benefits relationship has gone wrong because now he has feelings for me. Should I break up with him?.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! For a while now I've been sleeping with a guy who I'm friendly with. We both agreed it would be a no strings attached relationship, which I'm completely happy with. You see my life is pretty chaotic I'm up in college during the week and come home weekends just t... (282 words)

Being ignored by the first guy I ever loved, how can I fix things?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I am 15 and i am a bisexual, a year and a half ago, i told a boy in my year, that i was convinced was also gay/bi, that i liked him and he cyber bullied me. It has been a year and a half later and he hasn't spoken to me at all, he has unfriended me on facebook, he hasn't e... (148 words)

Why did he not want me when I was his girl but now he wants me ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I have a question about a guy I met online. We met on a dating site and really hit it off he lives in another state but we kept talking exchanged emails and after about 6 months phone numbers We eventually decided to meet I was so crazy about him and we had so much in commo... (284 words)

What does it mean when a girl smiles at you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I am 24 years old and never had a girlfriend before. I just had a question, sometimes when I'm out I see girls smile at me when they see me. Like this one time I was out running at the park and I made eye contact with a girl while we were running on opposite sides then she ... (127 words)

Need to let go of my friend and move on but sometimes I miss her

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My ex bestfriend sarah and I got into a big fight at the end of the school year. I brought a girl named Leasette that she didnt like to the lunch table because Leasette was to scared to sit at the table because of her and was sitting by herself . I said thats enough and brought ... (399 words)

Leaking bladder problems

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ever since i was little, i always had a bladder problem. Where I accidently leak in my underwear and no matter what I do, it always happens...i can hold my bladder and tell when to go, but i "tinkle" and it is quite embrassing, especially when I'm with my fiance and we are ... (68 words)

I feel completely addicted to my fiance, is this healthy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i feel completely addicted to my fiance. we have been together coming up to 4 years and since the very start of our relationship almost we have pretty much lived together. we do almost everything together besides work. normally in relationships i get tired of women very ... (154 words)

We just don't match sexually anymore. I still love him and feel that I'll marry him, but recently it's gotten worse.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I've been with my bf for over a year and we've talked about marriage and kids quite a lot. Problem is, when we first got together, he was not over his ex and we had some issues of him lying to me about contacting her and hiding emails/texts from me. then, the contac... (434 words)

Can women really be addicted to a man for the sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay ladies, this is pretty sexual. What do you think of a man that is a, for lack of a better word, GOD in bed. Can women really be addicted to a man that can basically just give her absolute pleasure anytime, anywhere, all the time? Would cheating with another man even cross ... (133 words)

Sex with my younger boyfriend sucks. How much time should I give him to improve?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost a year. He is a very lovely and caring guy. He is also tall, handsome, dark hair, and muscular (ok he's really my type). He just moved from Poland to US when we first met. Since I came from Poland many years befor... (267 words)

What advice do you have for an ugly girl?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What advice would you give to an unattractive girl? Not beauty advice but life and dating advice... (17 words)

He won't let me see his facebook page because I snooped when we were broken up!

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I snooped in my boyfriends facebook account months ago when we were broken up.we're back together now but he wont add me back on his friend list.he said i dont deserve it because of when i snooped.he said he will put that he is in a relationship as his status but my name wont ... (94 words)

When will I feel comfortable with a guy, enough to overcome my fears?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 16, he's 18. I'm still a virgin, and he wants to have sex. I know I'm going to get a lot of answers saying that I'll find the right guy, and that I should wait til I'm ready, but I really haven't done much of anything,in fact I've only kissed one guy before. I really feel ... (174 words)

I don't want to get feelings for somebody who really doesn't want a relationship.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've recently developed a sort of fuck buddy type deal with a guy who I started out dating. Not serious dating or a relationship,but just dating as in going out for dinner and what not. I kind of got pissed off because he would want to make plans with me, and then would change ... (481 words)

What should I do about this guy my girlfriend is hanging out with?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So my gf meet this guy on a dating sight just like she meet me. But this guy is 30 and says age is just a number. He buys her whatever she wants and she hangs out with him i know she hates this guy. SO DO I. But he keeps touchin her and picks her up. My gf is only 18. What ... (127 words)

Is it fair that I ask him to stop communication with his ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - In short, there's this girl that my man was in love with before him and I became an item. He's stayed friends with her after claiming to be over her. Their close contact bothered me, and I wrote about it on here even, to ask if this should be something I should talk to him ... (638 words)

I need help, my family treats me badly!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I feel trapped in my life with my dysfunctional family treating me badly. My 3 siblings have shunned me and always scheme things to get me in trouble. I'm always being yelled at and blamed for things that I didnt do wrong. I'm always being pulled into their drama and they are ... (260 words)