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*ebeccaa
writes:I need advice. So i just posted a question about the same topic but the problem has grown and got worse. So a knew boy came to live near me, i have known him form being tiny, our familys know eachother and they knew eachother as kids. His mum was talking to me on facebook the day before he joined our school, she asked me to keep an eye on him, so i added him on facebook and told him everything he needed to know, then a few days after he had moved to our school he told me he liked me. I had just been in a relationship with somone and i was torn apart at the time so i said i didnt realy want a relationship. Then he kept asking and asking so eventually i gave in and said we could give it a try. So after i noticed what looked a bit like flirting between him and my one of my best friends, this friend is quite a big flirt, but i didnt think nothing big of it, i went onto her facebook because i knew her facebook password not expecting much but i got quite a big shock when i saw that they were saying things like ''lets shag'' and putting loads of kisses and winky faces to eachother. Then saying ''dont you think im sexy'' and the other saying ''yes you are'' things like that. Now i thought this was flirting and ended up having a massive argument with him and my friend, but after a few days everything was back to normal or at least it seemed like it was apart from i hadn't forgot about it. I kept saying to him you dont like her do you? and he said no it was just a joke i promise, but for some reason i thought that she fancied him and didnt like the fact i went out with him even tho she had a boyfriend of her own. On the day it happend i told all my closest friends and they couldnt believe it they all said it was totally wrong of them and my friend shouldnt have gone along with it. Anyway everything cooled down for a while but it has still been in the back of my mind. I kept asking him if he was going to flirt and he said i no i dont like her in that way shes not as good as you, but didnt mean it offensivley he keeps reassuring me that there is no feelings for her what so ever. I do believe him, but its my friend i dont believe i think theres more to her feelings for him than she is letting on. I told another one of my friends about this and about how he kept telling me that he doesnt like her. Then my other friend just came out with it out of the blue infront of him the friend who flirts and all of our other friends. So we all had an argument about it and the friend who was flirting took it offensivley and got upset because he said he didnt like her in that way. Now i trust him more than i trust my friend at the minute. Now she was one of my best friends who i thought i could trust, but ever since that i havnt been the same with her, then it all came back up again and she said she thought it had all been forgotten about, but i dont know how she thinks i can just forget about it and just get on normally evertime i see them mess around playing (which it is most likely to be her who starts it) it makes me think twice about what happend and should i have been more angry at them with it.Now weve fallen out and my other friends who agreed with me at first turned round to me and said there was nothing wrong with it but that was just infront of her. Now i dont know what to do? Somone please help
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (19 October 2011):
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 If she was a true friend well then she wouldn't be flirting with your boyfriend even if it was just a joke, it is over stepping the mark. You are better off without friends like her if that is the way she is going to treat you. But your boyfriend is just equally to blame, and he has broke your trust. Messing around about having sex with each other is not such a funny joke and am not sure why they would joke about it in the first place. Have you asked him why they where joking about it or what the point was to it? To be honest with you I cannot see this relationship working, he is a bit of a flirt and you where obviously paranoid before hand when you felt the need to go through his face book. That is private to him. Therefore if the trust is not there for him I think it is time to call it a day.
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