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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Do I walk away? Or try one more time? when I see him, its torture when nothing comes out of it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I am just looking for people's general opinions and how they would deal in this situation. Im really sorry its long! I had a crush on a teacher who wasnt actually my teacher, in high school. I honestly cant explain the feeling. It wasnt just a little crush. The more ... (1408 words)

Ex in town...should I call?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, just a quick question.. My ex is in town for the next week, and I was wondering if it is ok for me to call him. He knows I am here obviously, and hasn't contacted or done anything.. I leave on tuesday to visit my boyfriend who lives in another city.. So i would like to kn... (80 words)

I'm worried that ex put naked photos of me on the internet

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I was in an internet relationship with a man in a middle eastern country for 3 years. In the beginning I did cybersex with him and didn't have enough sense to keep my face off of it. I stopped doing it a few years ago but am terrified he might have recorded it even though he ... (104 words)

His Mom and us! How do I talk to him about this? How can we make this situation better

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all! Any advice is much appreciated. My boyfriend is 21 (soon to be 22) and I am 20, respectively. We have been dating for nearly five months. I care about him a lot and truly love him but we have been hitting some stumbling blocks lately. The most major one seems ... (1389 words)

How can I further improve my thoughts about myself and help my relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, So I guess I'll tell my story. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 20. (yes, i am aware of the age difference please do not comment on it) We've been dating for 7 months. We are both very in love with each other. I'm very insecure. I always believe I'm not good enough or p... (459 words)

I'm overworked and overwhelmed by school work....and I don't know what to do!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So recently I have been very stressed out about all aspects of my life. I wake up at 5:45 am to catch the bus, which comes at 6:30. My school has block schelduling, so i only have four periods of homework to worry about, but my english ad history teachers are notorious for ... (321 words)

Do I become friends with my ex or do I move on?? or secretly wait for her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Its been about 3 months since I broke up with my girlfriend, we broke up because of past resentment, pent-up frustration and constant fighting (which was mostly started by me). I apologized to her and how my actions affected our relationship and also she apologized for her acti... (284 words)

Just lost my virginity. Now I can't stop thinking about sex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently lost my virginity. Me and my boyfriend have done it a few more times since then. Now I can't stop thinking about sex. I keep replaying the sex in my mind and I can't wait until we can get together to do it again. It is distracting to say the least and I can't seem to ... (96 words)

He never said he liked me. Do you think he's a player? If he does kiss me is that significant?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4807 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Well, I've known this guy for a long time. We've occasionally talked, but not like we were friends or anything. Recently, he gave me his number and we've texted for a week STRAIGHT. Actually, he would text me. Then it just stopped. So I texted him, but he would stop talk... (187 words)

How long do you chase a guy before giving up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How long do you chase a guy before giving up ? I been with dating this guy for 2 yrs and it seems like he doesn't love me the way I love him. Everytime we fight he's always ready to leave he gets angry at everything and disrespects me I don't know wat is holding me from leaving ... (71 words)

Ex is talking to this girl and saying she's just a classmate but why did he tell her he loved her?

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22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and I broke up 4 days ago, (we both still love each other) after 2 days i checked his inbox and i saw him flirting with another girl i faced him with it and asked him about her, he said that they're only classmates and he consider her just a sister. but he's ... (139 words)

I told her I wanted to be with her and she treated it like a joke

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (M) age 30-35 - I am in love with this girl and I have a feeling she likes me too. We chat everyday without fail and went out together etc. We always make jokes about each other and yea, we were to an extent quite much like a couple. Waited for each other for whatever that we do Then on... (120 words)

I have to move, b/f thinks he wants to move with me but isn't 100% sure and now I"m feeling insecure

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so I have/was with this guy for a year and three months. A around the eighth or ninth month I told him I really wanted to move to another state because my mom and I could not make it out here on our own for financial reasons. He said he's go anywhere with me and that he ... (790 words)

What's the possible reason to why he's acting like this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, So yesterday me and my boyfriend of almost 2 years went out together had a really nice day, even bought me one or two things too which was out of the blue but very very nice and kept telling me he loved me and missed me because we hadn't been able to hang out that week wit... (377 words)

I definitely like this new girl more, and would rather date her, but she's my girlfriend's friend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So i've been dating a girl for almost 3 years. but within the last 2 months i've really started falling for her best friend, whom she recently met. i seriously think i'm in love with this friend. she is more attractive than my girlfriend (i never found my gf too attractive) ... (118 words)

Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with this man. I started seei... (580 words)

I dumped him by accident, now he says he's over me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 14, I think I love this boy at my school, me and him went out for a while, but I over thought about if going out with my best mate is a good idea, and I did dump him by accident because of that. I now want him back very much, but he is already over me so he says , he is ... (101 words)

How do I deal with or even support my daughter when her partner does everything to alienate her from us?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age - I am in my early sixties, happily married. My daughter lives in Ireland and is a single mother even if she lives with her partner. They are both unemployed. How do you deal with your daughter's partner when he shows signs of personality disorders. I am not a psychiat... (158 words)

I know he wants to be with his son but shouldn't he be with me too?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Im in a difficult situation, ive been with my boyfriend nearly a yr hes has a son and I have a daughter! He has his son every wkend and my daughter goes to her dads every other wkend! The thing is he pretty much lives with all wk then every wk end he goes home which is half hr ... (383 words)

Why is my fiance so kind to me and I don't return it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 28 and my girlfriend is 36 years old and but she is amazingly fit and looking stunning beautiful We are together for the last 2 years. I am not that explicit in expressing my feelings. When she says I love you , I just reciprocate her with Ok . I only love having s... (199 words)

Fiance has cerebral palsy and is very self conscious about it. How do I help him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - When I first met my fiance (friend at the time), I never thought that I would have fallen for him as hard as I did. One thing about him is that he has a disablity called 'Cerebal Palsy'. He has a mild case of it, but it makes it so he has to wear braces and use canes to walk ... (292 words)

My love crushes and unrequitted love have gone on for a while.Can I expect them to ever love me back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i am 13 years old. and i hav been in deep love with a guy i know for 3 years,(call him A) A does know i love him but he doesn't love me back.so i decided though at a very early age that i will wait for him to love me. i think he will eventually though i am not attr... (129 words)

Girl at school told me it's just a phase. It's not. What can I do about my love for my possibly gay PE teacher?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Im 15 and i love my pe teacher but he never seems to notice me, my friend caught me staring at him in the cafateria and i had to spill my guts and she just told me its a phase and i'll get over it. but i know its not and i really want him both in a relationship and sexually :/ ... (94 words)

What do you do when your ex turns everyone against you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I ran into my ex mutual friends with my ex today. It's the first time I've seen them in over a year. They didn't even Acknowledge me at all. It was weird. I can't believe I used to be friends with these people, let alone close friends. My ex dumped me by text fir no reason, ... (95 words)

Boyfriend never sees me should I call it a day

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months we get on so well but part of me thinks thats because we have a texting relationship. Every time i ask him to come round he always makes some kind of excuse, I know he works some weekends as hes a band premoter what ... (247 words)

I am a shy, gay and socially inept. How have others in my situation formed relationship? Could my cyber friend become more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I was inclined to pose to my problem because I am not sure what to do. Well, like most who come here. Anyhow, I am a gay man. I am also socially inept. And recently, I joined this international social network (quite ironic with the former comment) but I was only looking ... (338 words)

My ex will not leave me alone. And I'm afraid I'm letting things move too fast in my new relationship. Is my new relationship the answer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months a month and a half ago. I guess you could say... I fell out of love. I was miserable, unhappy. Kisses and hugs felt... absolutely empty. I wanted to stay to make him happy but I started reverting back to feeling too distressed. So I end... (295 words)

Would a couples therapist be the answer? It destroys me, but she just doesn't get it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I've asked a question on here before about the same thing, but this time its a little less extreme. Basically this question sums up my problem: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-girlfriend-doesnt-want-to-have-sex-anymore.html But for others that dont want to read tha... (663 words)

I am in a slump and sick of being single. Where should I look to find a woman I want to share my life with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm sick of being single. I'm 33, I have no children, I have a job I hate, I have a home that still needs several grand in work to finish it. I've taken an almost 1 year sebatical from dating. I've learned that I went after women that needed taken care of due to me taking care... (164 words)

What's his aim? He wanted to be on friendly terms after the breakup, now that I'm ready for it, he's being aloof

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - We had a brief romance, but it was pretty intense while it lasted. At first, he wanted to be friends after, esp since we have to still see each other everyday at work..but I got nasty..that was my fault. Anyway, it was like 6 months ago and he and I said hi, good morning ... (199 words)

So does he like me or find me attractive? Is it likely he is interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so theres this guy i work with and i find him rather attractive, well these past few days hes complimented my hair saying its cool, complimented my watch, and complimented my boots, and today he asked if i have boyfriend.so is this guy into me??... (45 words)

I want to be fair. Do I yell at them or talk to the school counselor on monday?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4802 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is this normal, or have they crossed the line? I write this while my tears are still as fresh as the memories itself.. Yesterday, I was told "if you keep talking back, you wont have computer priveledges tomorrow" I wasn't talking back, but I shut up anyways. Today, I go... (329 words)

My FWB? he's awesome. But I'm starting to worry we will break up. can I strengthen our bonds?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone. So just a bit of background info, my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, we're both 19 and we have known each other for 3 years ("friends with benefits" for 2 years of that) so I guess I would say given our ages we have a bit of history. Our rela... (405 words)

Should I ask her what is wrong? Is there a mis-understanding over texting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - There's this girl I like. I always text/talk to her when I can, and she asks me for homework help pretty often. Today, I was going to ask her to a dance, but my friend wouldn't leave us alone, and she left before he did. I decided to call her and ask her, to which she replie... (188 words)

I don't want my father at my wedding. But he's said "i had better be invited".

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Im gettin married next year and while everything is perfect in the sence that im marrying the love of my life, I hav a huge problem concerning my father. Its a long story so i'll explain best i can my father suffers from a mental illness and also is an alcoholic.the fi... (290 words)

Am I addicted to sex? if yes, then will that make it difficult for my fiance?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i cant go for 2 days without sex without going completely nuts. my sex life with my fiance is great however sometimes i will pressure my fiance for sex, even if she is tired or feels unwell and afterwards feel horrible about it because when i am driven by my need for sex. it... (217 words)

Do I have trust issues? My G/f blames me for being upset at her, due to her exchanging flirty texts with guys.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i just found out that my girl friend is exchanging dirty messages and flirts on the phone with a guy she says is her friend. i asked her about it and she got all defensive n blamed me that i had trust issues,plz help.... (44 words)

Is being told your motherly a compliment or a complaint?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

22 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is being told your " Mothery " a compliment or a complaint? I was out with my boyfriend last night in his car i was cuddling him and I kissed his head while stroking his hair and he said I was mothery. I wasn't sure how to respond so I just stayed silent till he changed the ... (67 words)

Girls: What did she mean? "We are too close for anything like that to happen."

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

22 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi there, i'd love a lovely lady to please translate this into male speak, "We are too close for anything like that to happen." Was in relation to a date. To me that seems like a perfect reason to try dating but apparently women don't think like that? Help please!... (54 words)