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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Lost, confused, and no back-up plan. How do I change courses at uni and not feel I've failed everyone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Hey, I'm three weeks into a six year vet course but hate university. I desperately want to leave, but not just due to homesickness. I do miss home, but I've made some friends and I love my accomodation. I think I've picked the wrong course, and I'm no longer interested in th... (235 words)

I need his support. Why will my fiance not stand up for me when his Mom is appallingly rude to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My fiance's family are Mormon and his mother has never approved of me. She has always been rude to me and I have never stood up to her because I do not feel that it is my place. My fiance and I have had so many arguments about his family and he just gets angry with me sayi... (301 words)

To me he is disrespectful. Why mess me around? Is this how men act when they mess up?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I were supposed to go to Jamaica yesterday. I booked the ticket for us back in April. He left to his home country in August and the first thing I said was remember our October trip. Anyhow three days ago, I kept asking if he had bought his ticket to come bac... (371 words)

He says he loves me, does not want to break up, but has no feelings for me, what do I do?/

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for just about eight years now, and until recently have been very happy. After a few months of feeling like he didnt want me around him, I asked if he was mad and had i done anything to upset him. He told me he cant feel any sort of ... (349 words)

Is he worth obsessing over for two years??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so..currently i am living abroad for a 1 year school internship, and yesterday i was talking to this guy who i have had a crush on for 2 years now, and he asked me an akward question. i had just posted a new photo of mine on f.b and he said he likes it. we kept talking ... (354 words)

Not sure of my sexuality, can you help me??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Im 17 years old and i don't know if im lesbian or not. I really really like guys but i think i might also be attracted to girls. i don't know if this would be the best thing or not for me Please Help!!!... (44 words)

He doesn't seem as interested as I am, what can I do to pull him closer??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - there is this guy like his single when i met him and like its being 2 months now he still don't want to start a relationship but the EMBARRASSING thing is that im in love with him and im afraid to tell him cause every time we talk on those things he starting with this and that ... (83 words)

He is cruel, but I am afraid to break up with him, what should I do??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid It might sound pathetic, but i love my bf to nuts. But he is often saying things like he is going to have sex with prostitute and he found someone else and he is thinking abt breaking up with me. Whenever he says things like this, he'll switch off the phone or won... (189 words)

How will I not seem clingy if I don't know anyone but him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - A young man i,ve been seeing has asked me to go with him to cork for the weekend. I want to say yes but all his friends will be there and his sister ( who i think does not like me ) will be there too with her friends. I don't want to be clingy to the guy but who else will i ... (86 words)

Should I wait for my overseas boyfriend or move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I was in a relationship with a guy who leave the country and lives there he calls me n sometimes I call him n he asks me to wait on him. I wanna wait on him but he makes promises n don't fullfil them. Now I am entering a relationship n I feel guilty for entering this ... (87 words)

My sister, who irritates me tremendously, heard me call her a bitch, should I apologize??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 20 and my sister is 26 im the youngest and they have always treated me like a baby and since ive started growing up its been hell!! My sister and my mom are overbearing they come in my room telling me to go to bed,yell at me for being on the phone after 12 at night and if I ... (269 words)

His contacts with his ex's make me uncomfortable, should I be??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Right so 2years ago my bf met up with his ex behind my back and said he hadn't and saved some half naked photos of her on his computer from her facebook. We had a big row and made up. We've been good since then but he still texts other ex's and I have told him this makes me ... (79 words)

Do you think it's normal not to be interested in sex at 16?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend and I am having a small conflict right now. Alright firstly I am asian and my boyfriend is American(Half English). We are both sixteen..At first I thought he was really a sweet and pure guy but these days he is acting differently. He asked me for a sex! I said tha... (155 words)

I think I was wrong about him, what do you think??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why is this guy behaving like that? should I be offended? So I've been getting to know this guy. He loves himself and you can tell is all about him cos I ask a lot of questions trying to get him and he never asks me anything about me. He sent me a nude picture of h... (170 words)

What is the likelihood that I could have gotten HIV from him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently fooled around with a 20 year old guy that I met at the bar and I'm worried if I may have gotten HIV from him. We didn't have sex but he did finger me, so if he had precum on his hand (he did not ejaculate) that he used to finger me, could I have gotten HIV? He told... (131 words)

Is it selfish, to want to spend time with her??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am 23 and have been with my girlfriend who is 21 for 5months now with one break up during that time. i have graduated college and she is in her senior year and goes to school which is two hours away from me. we fell in love over the summer where we both live and now that she ... (756 words)

Do we really have a connection?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I might be really stupid and this might sound like a stupid question... but basically, I'm in love with this guy, I barely know him and we haven't talked for years. When we did talk, I think he used to like me, although we weren't close friends or anything. I can nearly always ... (196 words)

My husband is more interested in sex than me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - i m 55 years old women. My husband is 48 years old and he want intercourse daily but i feel pain and dislike. very day he watches movies on internet and want me become sexy women, oral sex, and "pussy lick".... but i dont like all this. Please help me how i stop my husb... (57 words)

I want a casual relationship, but he's all serious...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So this guy Fahey and I have been going out for almost a month. He asked me out the second time we hung out and I think I would've said no or something, but he kind of asked it in an awkward way so I said okay..? And he's a great boyfriend and everything! But he'd be a better ... (173 words)

Prom? To go? Or not to go?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone I'm just wondering if I should go for prom this year. It's my only prom. As much as I'm excited at the prospect the price is a big turn off. It's 90 bucks. Although it's not as if my family can't afford it I feel that prom shouldn't be so pricey. Well this ... (89 words)

Unprotected sex and now I'm worrying if I caught something!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I had unprotected sex 16 days ago. The guy it was with took off the condom without my knowledge for a couple seconds (I was furious!) but I asked if he had any STD's and he said no. I have an appointment to be tested on Monday. As of day 10 after the unprotected sex,... (223 words)

I lost my erection with my ex and now I'm worried it might be a bigger issue

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I used to have a few erection problems (losing erections, performance anxiety) when I first started having sex and then overcome them as I got into my relationship. However, last night I was having a party at my house with a few friends and my ex came. Since we split up she ... (375 words)

Why won't my LDR boyfriend see me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf and I are long distance and have been for a long time. We don't get to see each other often, generally once every month or two. But lately it feels like he's trying to avoid seeing me. I'll admit that he does the work in visiting, he's usually the one to arrange hotel... (469 words)

This guy is using me, isn't he?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please give me honest advice....There's an old friend of mine from high school who got back in touch with me a few months ago. We're both at different colleges now. He confessed how much he liked me since 10th grade and I had like him too but we never acted on it before. So ... (369 words)

How important is it to physically fancy someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm seeing this guy although i do not have strong feelings towards him either way this is confusing. i dont think im physically attracted to him im not shallow but just not sure hes my type we get on really well and all that but... how important is it to physcally fancy hi... (54 words)

I'm dating the girl my friend likes and he doesn't know it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My best friend just told me about his undying love for this girl, usually, not a problem. In fact, i'd do anything within my power to make it happen for him. However, I like the girl too and to make it even worse she's coming over and staying in my flat on monday night. It's as ... (134 words)

LDR boyfriend neglecting me so I got a fake profile and had sex chat with a guy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - okay my boyfriend and i have a great relationship otherwise..its a long distance one..however i always had one basic problem..i dont like the way he talks to his female friends..as well as mine(when i introduce mine to him) he treats women with respect ...all his girlfriends ... (717 words)

How can I keep a distance relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - How can i keep a distance relationship?.Although we've been dating for more than two years now and distance just seperated us recently.... (22 words)

I screwd up my chance ); I need advice? What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So this guy like at work have been giving me a ride two times (cuz I don't have a car on campus and i have to walk to work and to my classes) The last time he offered I said no thanks. (i felt bad bc he has to drive me)he was like r u sure? and then i was like ok, i feel bad. ... (181 words)

He wasn't like this at the start. He rebuffs me sexually. Should I act cool in the morning even though his refusal upsets me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now, and i seriously believe whole heartedly that we are meant to be together we are two of a kind, and we have fallen for each other so quickly. He treats me absolutely amazingly and always puts me first. The only thing worryi... (302 words)

Mini-makeout session? girls 18-19: how far would you expect the guy to go on your first date with him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am going to get mixed answers here, no doubt. This is aimed at the girls. As an 18 or 19 year old, how far would you expect a guy to go on a first date? Would a mini make out session be too much? How come in the movies couples seem to sleep with each other on the first date?... (61 words)

Shd he set firmer boundaries when his friends pester him ? Are his friends jealous of his time with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, this question may sound a bit silly, but do I have a point please tell me ... Okay so I went on a family holiday monday til friday and my boyfriend came too. On the friday it didnt even reach the afternoon and he had a call from his flat mate asking when he would be... (453 words)

I loved him. He hates me now. what can I do? Did he really cheat? I feel so much pain over this breakup.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I was in a long-distance relationship for one year and a half. In a moment of intense weakness, I entered my ex-boyfriend's facebook account. There I found some chat history between him and a girl 15 years younger than him. She seemed to be flirting with him and also tell... (487 words)

My mother calls him a waste of space. Why can't my parents accept him, despite all the good things?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My parents dislike (and I suspect possibly even hate) my boyfriend. Why? I'm 19, and he's 21, he's got a job in IT / computer maintenance, went to uni and is qualified, doesn't drink (except as a social drinker) and spends most of his time outside work with family, has few frie... (379 words)

Party? what Party? What does it mean when my boyfriend does not invite me to go to a party with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just found out my boyfriend is going to a party and he didn't invite me. It's not the first time this has happened, really. We have been together for over a year and I think we should go to parties together! (I ALWAYS invite him to my parties because I know it upsets him when... (238 words)

Did I over-react? my husband defended his friend. Ignored my feelings. The sexual joke was about me

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Tell me if I'm over reacting or if I took this the wrong way. My husband has a male friend who I think has really disrespected me. They were talking online with a bunch of people. My husband's friend said: "We should get you a webcam and have your wife on it. All the other gu... (412 words)

I don't want to be gay. My old friend and I started doing gay things with each other. How do I stop feeling this way?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 20 years old, My old friend and I started doing gay things with each other, we were at first just trying then it turned into anytime we saw each other. we couldn't stop now I cant even get hard looking at girls. I realize I am probably gay, but I really don't want to be ga... (82 words)

I want to be the man she wants. How can I make things more interesting betwen us so I don't lose her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4817 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Please help me out.I have been a relationship for two years, and something happend to me lately. I called my girl with a new phone and sim,claiming to be someone else entirely,(i claimed to be john), i changed my voice for 2 weeks towards her and she never knew that it was m... (175 words)

My girl friend wants to stop sex! I freaked out. Please, how can I make our relationship work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi people of dearcupid I have a major problem with my girlfriend it is just that I love her so damn much and she all of sudden she asked that if we can stop having sex and I got freaked out and asked her why and if she is cheating on me or something be cause she never say that... (168 words)

Instead of looking for a job he's looking for escourts and transgenders. How do I leave him when I am penniless?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am so confused. I live the "perfect family lie," as I am a stay at home mom with 2 kids, one in school and one infant. Lately things have gone down hill majorly. My husband, who before the baby came, and still LOVES my first child, but I sometimes wonder if thats why we stay... (267 words)

Medical reason? Or does excessive kissing or kissing too deeply make your lips a little puffy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Why were my bf's lips looking slightly puffy? i wanted to ask since i noticed my bf's lips like that when he came back from work. it wasn't thin and normal like its usually.that day it looked that his upper lip was slightly bee stung. i have noticed it twice. normally ... (67 words)

Is my snoring likely to cause a problem when I move in with my boyfriend? Can anything be done to fix it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it annoying if a girl snores? I had my tonsils removed as a kid, but I recently realized that I still snore! Usually when my nose is stuffy, like after my eyes water, or if I'm anywhere near cats... Me and my boyfriend plan on moving in with eachother after we gradua... (104 words)

They are 'taken' So Why do people see married men/women in the first place?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Note: if you honestly didn't know he/she was with someone, i undertand completely. I have seen so many questions on here about people being broken hearted about their lovers leaving them and all I can think is, what did you expect? I keep thinking its their own fault for be... (98 words)

Teething problems with domestic bliss? How do we get the Loving Bliss back into our relationship now we have moved in together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've just moved in with my boyfriend of many years. We're renting an apartment together. It seems since we've gotten our own place, all our time is taken up with housework! We both work fulltime (and he works TWO jobs, so starts his second one a few nights a week, working ... (372 words)

Should I be giving him advice to get the girl he wants? Because I WANT him for myself!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I think I am in a love square... Kind of.. Okay, so I like my friend, who likes one of our other friends, and she likes her friend. So we all "like the wrong poeple" so to speak... what should I do? He asks me for advice, and it kills me inside to help him get the girl he ... (66 words)

Nine pm curfew still at almost 19! Is this reasonable? the restrictions are stifling me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I'm 18 going on 19 and still living at home, trying to finish my freshman year of college and I have a 9'o clock curfew still. I don't know what to do. I can't even use my vehicle without their permission which means I can't go out with my boyfriend or my friends on any day ... (72 words)

We are virtual friends and Sext. Should I tell his new girlfriend about us? He says we do the things his Gf is too shy to do.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - dear cupid, soo, there's this guy that i met in college back in december of last year. for most of that time, me and him have kind of been...well, i guess a good term for it would be "virtual friends with benefits." basically, we sext (without pictures). well, he recent... (212 words)

Should I be worried? Her reasons are my snoring? my sadness is no intimacy. My wife and I haven't shared a bed in six years.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. We have been married for 19 years and this started about 6 years ago. Before that time, we always spent the night together. In fact, I can remember once when my wife was away at her mom's in another state that she said she couldn't... (577 words)

Aunts and Uncles help me please on your marriage statistics? I want to ensure my marriage succeeds.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a question for the aunts (male and female) who are currently, or have been, married. How long before marriage did you know your spouse? How long were the two of you a couple? Are you happy with how long you waited to take that step, sorry that you didn't wed soone... (138 words)

My younger wife is having sexual problems. How can I help her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age - I am a 53 year old male married to a 25 year old and we are having sexual problems not by me but her. we also have 4 children. Can you give me some advice? ... (37 words)

I arranged this date before I knew my mate adores and wants her. Do I cancel my date with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a real issue. My best friend just told me about his undying love for this girl, usually, not a problem. In fact, i'd do anything within my power to make it happen for him. However, I like the girl too and to make it even worse she's coming over and staying in my flat ... (145 words)

My over-protective judgmental Mother makes it impossible to see my Bf. How do I make her see reason?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My guy and I are in a difficult position. We're not exactly boyfriend and girlfriend but we've been dating for 4 months. I,ve met his family and I want him to meet mine. but because he works so hard and late we barely get to see each other Once a week maybe once every 2 week... (143 words)

Parents won't accept my current b/f but I've found a new guy they would. I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

15 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. Okay, so I usually am never confused when it comes to dating. But this time im stuck! Ive been dating my boyfriend for a year now. Im muslim and he is not. My family will never accept him if he ever wants to marry me. Im his first love. We both love each other so damn ... (261 words)

She texted me and I didn't give her my number. Does that mean she likes me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - A girl I work with and who I have a big crush on texted me some things about work that aren't really that important. She could've easily told me them the next day. The thing is, we never swapped numbers so she must've got it from someone else. Is this a sign she maybe likes ... (102 words)