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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is he just trying to be kind but really wants nothing to do with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I have been seeing the love of my life for about a year and a half, we get along great, we have differences of course but never really fight and I thought things were good aside from the fact that he plays competitive baseball and we don't see each other as often as I would ... (285 words)

She gets mad when I try and intiate intimacy! Has anyone had this with their partner?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone, Just looking for some advice from anyone who might have been in a similar situation to me. My same sex partner and I have been in a relationship for 3 years. Most of the time we are great together and are loving and caring. The only thing we seem to disagree... (332 words)

How can you tell if a shy guy is flirting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - How can you tell if a shy guy is flirting with you? I was playfully arguing with this guy today and he was smiling and staring at me whenever we talked and argued.... (33 words)

Confused by my relationship! Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in a fix, in a relationship with a married man from 2 years, he separated from his wife, has one year old son. Our relationship overall is fine other than fights regarding his wife calling him and pestering. He is yet to apply for a divorce, wife's brother threatening ... (194 words)

How do you go about talking to the "other" woman?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - How do you go about talking to the "other" woman? I am not a exploding/crazy person and I was thinking that I would talk to her calmly but what to say? I don't know how I would start. But I really do want her to know that she's talking to my boyfriend and I don't appreciate ... (169 words)

Does he just want Friends with Benefits or The Real Thing??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So there is this guy that I've known for a little over two years now. We've always been really good friends, and whenever I ever needed someone to talk to or a friend to be with, he was always the first one I'd call. He has always been such a great friend to me, and I don't ... (651 words)

Boyfriend is addicted to online games

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4801 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I think my boyfriend is addicted to online games. He plays at least 8 hours a day, sometimes with his friends, sometimes with me, sometimes by himself. Right now it's mostly LoL and DoD. He used to play WoW but quit, only because he couldn't afford it. He's 24 and he doesn't go ... (370 words)

My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything because I trusted him. They took ... (249 words)

Why do men ask for numbers that they have no intention of calling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I do not really understand men. I met this guy in a party as he was with my friends. We talked and he mentioned about going out sometime. Then we got drunk and we slept together. I thought it was a mistake but what is done is done and i didn't think too much. Thr... (137 words)

What do I do? My ex won't be coming back

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4802 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - What do i do as it seems my ex wont be coming back. Its been nine months. I know i kept messing up and he doesnt want to trust me. I go out with friends but its not the same without him. I dont want to date another guy as they all seem boring. How can i fill what is missing? ... (88 words)

Broke up with my girl, and I need advise on how to make friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4802 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello I am 19 year old male and I have no friends. I lost my female best friend 2 months ago and my girlfriend 3 days ago(it was a mutual agreement, she didn't dump me). I started studying economics this year and it is still hard for me to find one out of maybe 2000 students or ... (104 words)

My girlfriend got into a fight and is afraid she will let me down by not maintaing her self control. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Last night I was talking to my girlfriend about maintaining her self control (she got into a fight a few days ago and has also hurt a few other people in her past as well). She tells me that she's afraid she can't maintain her self control and that she'll just let me down. What ... (75 words)

We were getting along so well, and now I have heard nothing! To contact or not to contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need a little advice. I met a guy on a match making site, we both are newbies to the online dating. Initially, I did the contacting and he responded. I was intrigued by his responses. After a few messages, I didn't hear from him again. (we were using the match making site to ... (534 words)

He has promised history won't repeat itself, but it is already!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4802 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am 43,very very un-happily married and have been suffering due to lack of true love since 1987 i.e. from the age of 19.....I met this guy on the internet about a year back who is 25 years old.....He asked me to be his Lady Valentine on the eve of Valentine's Day this year and ... (208 words)

I'm in a great relationship but don't want to be tied down! Why do my feelings always co-inflict?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm kind of stuck and need some advice. I am in a relationship and have been for about 11 months. I really love her and I care for her a lot. We make each other happy and that's the most important thing in our relationship. So, the problem is... I always thought she liked/loved ... (99 words)

He has been violent to me in the past but now is being a dedicated husband. Do I believe him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I sit here in what is seemingly the "good times" I should see,"the changes he's made",but I cant help but feel,just stupid for believing him. This started 7 years ago although I didnt realize it until it was too late. He was so charming he managed to move in the week after ... (406 words)

When will I ever feel able to talk to women confidently?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Has any guy ever been to my position;being a virgin and never dated any girl because insecurity,being scared of approaching or talking to girl you like,or even not knowing how tell her how you feel.This is something I just can't figure out how to make it go out of my life and ... (195 words)

My boyfriend has a timing plan set out for when we should have sex but I'm worried I wont be ready by then!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am worried my boyfriend is going to get tired of waiting to have sex. We are both 16. Both capricorns ;) . I love him n he says he loves me but i know how fast feelings can change so far we have been together for 2 months but we have known eachother a while....he doesnt want ... (93 words)

Mixed signals! Help...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4802 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiya, i'm 18 and been at uni for about a month. As you can imagine its a bit wild with freshers getting to know each other and everyone generally letting lose a bit, exchanging numbers etc etc. Anyway I met this one guy in a club, we danced a bit but I wasn't really that bot... (279 words)

What to do to stop feeling so lonely? I haven't felt like I've done something fun for a long time. It's getting me down.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It's been a while since I've had a good conversation, it's been a while since I was sure I'd make plans and they would actually follow through. It's been a while since I've had this feel as I've started college. Everyone in my class is 2 years younger than me. I speak to the... (336 words)

What if I don't ever become happy and live unfullfilled? Age isnt on my side and its so hard seeing my friends getting married and having kids

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Im 29 and im at that point of life where im worried that things wont turn out they way I had hoped! I have a 7 yr old daughter which I had from a serious 5 yr relationship. Since that ended 5 yrs ago I just have had so bad luck with men, all the blokes just use you and take ... (141 words)

Is it wrong I want more time with him outside work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. We work at same place and up until 2 days ago together. Because we are dating I was made to change areas. Before this we saw each other at work and maybe 2 nights a week. Which I was trying to get more time away from work ... (174 words)

Is this world only for beautiful people with good fortunes?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4801 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) age 41-50 - I am not good looking and have no confidence in myself at all. When I was 14, pimples started appearing on my head and lost my font hair. Since then, I have been shaving my head to make it look decent but I know girls get turned off my look and that’s why I'm still sin... (274 words)

My boyfriend has been ignoring me for 4 days and I don't know what I have done wrong! What should I do in this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I really dont know what to do and would appreciate some advice. For some reason over the past four days, my boyfriend has decided to ignore me and wont contact me for no reason. I dont know what Ive done wrong, we haven't argued or even said a bad word against each other. I... (86 words)

Inspiration needed....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4622 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ok first of all i should say the admin that i am not suicidal. I just need some inspirational words from you aunts. I am in my early 30s. had two boy friends who cheated on me when i loved them with my heart and soul. last year I started doing a degree which ended up quitting ... (126 words)

First time sex...what can I do so that it wont hurt?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a vigin and me and my partner want to have sex I'm scared that it might hurt from other girls I've heard it hurts I need to know what I can do so it won't hurt . ... (42 words)

I want my wife back from this other man!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My ex wife and I were together since we were 20. Got married at 21 and had our first kid at 23; each proceeding child is 1-3 years apart from the last. (We have 5 kids.) We got a divorce 4 years ago because, somewhere along the line, we stopped paying attention to each other. ... (689 words)

Caught my soon to be ex-wife and daughter eaves dropping, did I over-react?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - hi i have a question do you guys think i over-reacted? i was having a very private conversation with my father about his wife and i guess she cheated on him with some younger man and they have 3 kids. my father was real upset like i never seen him before, they're going to get ... (681 words)

It turned out my online guy was a fake.....how do I meet the right guy? I'm losing faith!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear all aunts, I wrote months ago to seek for insight if a guy i met online is real or not, he claimed a US military service man, well the result is, same as all aunts had reminded, this is a fake guy! Althought i had take alert but still i eventually believed in him,... (267 words)

I seem to have trouble finding a meaningful relationship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, I am not sure why, but I seem to have trouble finding a meaningful relationship. Physically, I am considered to be a very sultry girl (coming from many male friends). I am very intelligent (doing a master's degree at a top university). Personality wise, I... (429 words)

My boyfriend's brother is tagging along to our outings and now I don't want him for my 18th birthday party. How can I ask him not to come without sounding rude?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's what happened the first time: My boyfriend was invited by me to my grandmother's halloween party for the family, so he can meet my family. So a few days before the party, he asked if his brother can tag along. He said he had to watch his brother and make sure he didn't g... (215 words)

I don't know where I stand or what he has in mind for our future!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So confusing! My bf/partner/whatever you call him is driving me mental. One minute he is acting like having kids is the last thing on his agenda for years, the next minute hes saying kids are great and who wouldn't want them. He also said twice that he can afford to be a d... (282 words)

Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?

This question has 52 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Because small ones are more feminine? C... (105 words)

How do I resume the conversation without seeming dull?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - i am a 16 year old dude, and i have a problem. its not anything too serious, but it bothers me so i figure it cant hurt to ask for some help. theres a girl at school who i dont really know, and who ive wanted to talk to since the first day of school because i think she's cute, ... (193 words)

Will there ever be a 'right' time to be a mom?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay so I have a question about life regrets. I was thinking what would mine be right now if something was to happen to me? It came down to two things. Seeing the world and having a baby. I have done a good bit of the first! You see, having a baby and being a mom is my... (219 words)

My dad doesn't think he has much time left and wants to see me married with kids, am I ready for this? Should I talk to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help and offer me your advice. What should or can I do? My dad spoke to me once about his death. He said he was afraid of never seeing his granchildren, really afraid. He said 'We don't make old blood' with a serious, sad face. (It means we die young). He said... (335 words)

A good friend of mine likes the same guy I do, and he asked me out!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4801 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I am in quite the predicament! i'm 15 years old, and me and my friend both like the same guy, M. My friend, T, doesn't know I like M, and I liked him for awhile before she told me she had liked him for a week. It made me miserable, knowing that now M and I could never be ... (228 words)

I'm wondering if I should initiate yet another conversation or just wait for him to come around?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met someone at work that I an very interested in. Each time we have chatted, the convo was initiated by me. I found out that he is single and is interested in me. So I'm waiting for him to initiate a conversation for once or approach me and he hasnt. it's been about a week ... (111 words)

He seems weird sometimes. But I'm confused and cannot work him out. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - someone please help, I really don't know what's going on right now. last year I liked this guy, we got along amazingly, a had a bit of a thing for him. to make a long story short, I found out through mutual friends that I wasn't his type (physically). I accepted it, and was ... (547 words)

Stealing someone out of a relationship

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - okay now I need to know if it's ok to steal someone out of a relationship. I wanted this guy first and he got with his ex and still showed signs of interest in me. Seeing as at one point I was there first but may have messed up, pretty sure I did but was stupid at the time, I ... (242 words)

Six years and I'm no longer sexually attracted to my boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! Okay. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of all of high school, we are 3rd years in college and 700 miles away. I have come to the recent revelation that I am no longer sexually attracted to him. I have told him this and he still wants to try to make things work. Is it worth ... (142 words)

Any favorite blow job techniques?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (?) age 26-29 - Hey everyone, I want to make my question not only to help myself improve and grow on ideas for giving blow jobs and hand jobs but as well for all of you girls/guys that are wanting to expand on your awsome knowledge of blow jobs. Definetly there is the same old same old tri... (132 words)

Does this girl at work have an interest in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4803 days ago

28 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I posted this question earlier, but did not get manty replies. I hope it's not violating any rules by posting it again... any help is appreciated. Hi. I have a question about a girl I like. We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my ... (385 words)