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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How to tell husband you are leaving him???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Because of some horrible problems, that can't be worked out, I am leaving my husband. But how do I say it?? We (he) are/is purchasing a home, but the agent has been pretty rude to me, so I want out of the deal and the marriage. Should I just go and not answer his calls? H... (81 words)

My ex womanizing b/f keeps contacting me. Should I block his number?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, I have this womanizer ex- fling boyfriend contacting me from time to time. he is not inlove with me, but seems to dial my number from time to time pretending to want a relationship with his charismatic ways, and i find him soooo attractive and we had great sexual enc... (177 words)

Should I allow him to go out with his female friend, knowing that she likes him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, slowly but surely he has been telling me about this female friend that he had a crush on for years, since high school. They are really good friends, but she doesn't currenlty live in the country, but she will be returning in a ... (446 words)

My wife feels upset because a woman at work doesn't like her but talks to me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, We have been married for 19 months now. Originally both are from India. I am in the US since 2006, went back home got married (in 2010 May) and came back with my wife. Though we were complete strangers we started liking each other and everything was great! I work in... (325 words)

With my depression and with my wife being so distant. I just want to end this marriage...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been married for 5 years. The wife is OCD, and Has a lot of anxiety. Mostly with people. Which made me pull away from a lot of my friends because the relationship was new, and good. I wanted to be just with her, and no one else. But her lack of wanting to hang with them ... (354 words)

B/f still texts his exes and doesn't see why its a problem

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Right so 2years ago my bf met up with his ex behind my back and said he hadn't and saved some half naked photos of her on his computer from her facebook. We had a big row and made up. We've been good since then but he still texts other ex's and I have told him this makes me ... (79 words)

I like him but he's got a girlfriend and doesn't know that I like him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - it's this boy that i really like but he's has a girlfriend.he do not know that i like him like that. the first couple weeks we were good because he said his relationship was (very) complicated so i thought i had a chance now he talk to when he get ready but i dnt want that i ... (88 words)

To me my wife is perfect. How do I help my wife to accept that I love her? she's still blaming herself for something that was not her fault, before we met.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I need advice on how to help my wife. We've been married a little over 3 years, have 1 daughter, and she is pregnant again with our 2nd. If our 2nd child is a boy we are going to stop, if it's a girl, we will have a 3rd trying for a boy. I made the mistake of saying I hope... (467 words)

Do men generally avoid a woman who has experienced sexual abuse in her past?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Everyone. I understand the moment anyone who mentions sexual abuse o/r abuse of any kind screams a red flag, but do men usually avoid women how have experienced abuse? Would you place a stigma on her as being emotionally unstable and avoid getting close to her? If you ... (78 words)

Married a man I did not love. Wish I could have loved him. Since then why do all my relationships end, leaving me depressed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm feeling really defeated and down so I'm hoping maybe someone can give me some advice since there have been some awesome agony aunts and uncles on this site. I was married to this guy for a few years. The only reason we stayed together for as long as we did was for our ... (488 words)

Does her recent breakup explain why she was so ready to have sex with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I met this girl aged 20 years. She just fell into bed with me. I like her stacks and her availability was too much for me to resist. It was unplanned and unprotected. She is pregnant. She has recently broken up with a guy she loved. He chose another and left town. She is a ... (77 words)

Can I ever make things right between us again? I lost a dear friend, what to do? She's blocked me every way she can.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, I apologize in advance for this long story, but it is just complicated and those who read it, I appreciate it a lot! Well, I met a girl on Facebook. At first we communicated there for over 6 months, exchanging messages on almost a daily basis. Initially she wa... (1544 words)

I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks since I found out his devastating news!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok,I need some advice. I've been to ashamed to share this with family or friends yet. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I'm 28 and he's 26. I found out recently almost by accident that before he started dating me he was involved with a 14 going on 15 year old... (136 words)

How do I stop looking for a problem when it isn't there?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've taken a partner back after he had an affair - we are on a new road and taking back to our relationship. My problem is trust I keep looking in his phone and checking texts messages, this is my issue and I want to stop it. I recently sent a txt to one of his friends and my ... (108 words)

Am I not fulfilling him if he's watching this category of porn?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok here is the deal. My fiance has an obession of black porn. I am asian and average looking women. All I see is ebony categories. There was one porn where he had watched a white guy and a black girl porn. I had confronted him about if he likes black girls and he answered to ... (98 words)

I'm 18, single and unemployed but I want a baby

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have posted a question on here before and received good advice, therefore I wanted to ask for opinions on something that has been puzzling me for some time. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20, despite my young age, I am desperate for a child. My boyfriend earns a good wag... (193 words)

How can I find out how she feels without being too forward?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Im in love with this girl... Shes the most amazing person i know. Only i dont know how to tell her how i feel... We used to like each other as kids. We used to call each other girlfriend and boyfriend, and we used to kiss. This went on for years, from before i can remember ... (142 words)

Do I pretend that all these things never happened and gradually I'll forget all the trauma?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I used to have a crush on this guy Ax early this year but Ax made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. I was cool about it. Then months later he told me that he liked me. But I did not like him anymore. But because so many of our mutual friends knew about us, there was ... (496 words)

Is getting turned on by his expressions normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Heloo :) Just a short question, i was on web cam with a boy ive been dating for a while didnt like him at first but he had grown on me. When i was on web cam i got turned on just because he was raising his eyes at me and licking his lips. Is that normal? Thankyou... (61 words)

My parents have refused my girlfriend who has been on wheelchair since birth, now I want to marry her without their assent, don’t you guys think I have taken the correct decision ?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend has been on wheelchair since birth but she's well educated and doing teaching . I think she's so pretty that one can easily compare her with Fairy. She's 5 years younger than me and I am her first boyfriend . We are in a relationship since June 2008. When ... (221 words)

I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has never thrown me any "red flags" w... (405 words)

She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in that relationship til she was ... (394 words)

Miscarried, should I tell the dad?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I want some advice as its a very sensitive issue. I recently had a affair with a married man which I posted about on here and after getting advice I ended the affair however I have since miscarried our baby and I just don't know if I should tell him or not I don't want to upset ... (74 words)

He dumped me out of the blue, found out he was cheating on me all along. How can I get past this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do I feel the way I do? is it normal? ? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I never cheated on him or lied to him. He was so sweet and lovely told me he loved me everyday and I believed him cos all his actions told me he loved me. He suddenly broke up with me sayi... (234 words)

How can I know if my teacher really thinks that I'm like a son to her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - my friend told my english teacher that i think of her as a second mother and she told him that she thinks of me as her son but i'm not sure that she thinks that i'm a son to her. so how could i know if she really thinks of me as a son to her?... (56 words)

How I can help my friend? Should I just stay out of her problems and be a good friend to her in other ways? Or should I try to do something more to help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I am trying to help a friend of mine but need advice please. The woman in question was with her partner for about 14 years and, during that time, he treated her very badly indeed - drinking, being abusive, even hitting her and showing little commitment to her. I know for ... (1235 words)

I'm afraid my lack of interest in sex will drive him back to porn

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my partner have been through a bit of a rough patch recently due to his porn habits! Everything has been great for the past 10 months apart from our sex life, I've completely lost interest which isn't like me. I'm scared that this will drive him back to porn and even ... (83 words)

How do I tell him I'm uncomfortable with him seeing his ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How to deal with this pending meet of his? Ill try to keep this as short as possible. My bf is going to see his ex this weekend to help her out and I dont know how to handle my feelings about it. She is a much older woman and nearly 30 yrs his senior- he is 29 and she 58. T... (512 words)

Our relationship was amazing and now.... I need help knowing what to do next!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid I’ve been in a relationship for just over seven months and it’s been amazing up until recently. Before I ask my question, here’s a bit of background that I hope will help… My ‘girlfriend’? and I met and it was very much love at first site. We we’re long distan... (1568 words)

Is my post-orgasm refractory period unusually long?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - When I have sex, I typically have no physical interest in sex again for at least half a day. And if I do try to have sex at that time, arousal is difficult unless my wife is wearing something particularly arousing. Also, the orgasm takes more time to achieve, and doesn't feel ... (165 words)

Sex has fallen off of the map for way too long. How do we bring it back into our lives?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I have not made love in quite some time. Between the two kids, job stress, general tiredness, various health issues etc., it has just fallen off of the map for way too long. Now the question of how to bring it back - I think things have settled down enough that ... (236 words)

Does my G/f want more from our relationship? Not saying full out sex, but maybe a bit more touchy feely?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my gal have been going out for 2 months today. She is my sisters friend, I am her first boyfriend, she is very innocent, and a virgin. We have neither talked about or been intimate. It stops at light kissing. What I am asking is when is too soon to be intimate?... (637 words)

Is my female best friend falling for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've read questions on here about this type of situation before, potentially one or other opposite sex best friends falling for the other. The questions is how easy it is to tell without, if getting it wrong, making your friend feel awkward. I think my female best frie... (327 words)

Why does it make me feel lonelier?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm a teenage boy and like most teenage boys, I masturbate. For fun, for relaxing, for stress relief. Recently I noticed that for some reason, I feel a bit lonelier than when I started. Basically, I long for that type of connection with someone else. I wish I could stop ... (128 words)

Should I tell my GF I ended up having sex with my ex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So here is the question. To tell or not to tell? Before everyone jumps to answer this the second they read it, take a moment to chew on it. So I met this girl, we had been going out for about 2-3 weeks before I went back to school. I get back to school and the first... (1646 words)

How can I change my insecurity issuses so I don't drive him away once again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf of almost three years and I just got back after being broken up for about six months. In the past I became insecure because I felt him becoming distant and then he would lie and hide certain things from me and then as I felt him pulling away I would try harder to be with ... (463 words)

Why would he want to help me if he does not love me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend said it wont work anymore because i do not respect him. But i never saw it like that and i thought i was being open about me feelings. Like when something happens or when he says something to upset me when i confront him about it he would say i must stop and that i ... (167 words)

Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe viral fever. so, please advice me ... (67 words)

B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his house and he was touching me-- ... (105 words)

I get too embarrassed to kiss my girlfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i love my girlfriend and she loves me, but we have been going out for almost two months and we've only kissed once and i cant bring myself to do it. i have veeery little dating experience(one other girl that i never even kissed even though we dated like 3 or 5 months) and i get ... (95 words)

Is this a normal break up??? Is she messing with me and just doing this to me because she is going through alot? am I just helping her cope?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4828 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I broke up at the beginning of september. The reason we broke up was entirely my fault, and as much as I want her to forgive me. I dont think she will. Basically I got drunk the first week before school started, and I went online and sexted a girl. I was no... (912 words)

Do I open Pandora's box to ease my mind?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has been fairly open and up front with me about the women in his life. He has talked about one at work that apparently all the guys ogle, and another that has befriended him (I think she has a crush on him). We're friends on Facebook and he's switched his ... (189 words)

Should I tell my b/f that I was raped as a teen?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Should I tell my boyfriend that I was raped when I was in my middle teens? I've worked with this guy for almost four-years, but we just started going out a month ago. He is my first date since I was raped and I feel like I am having difficulty getting close to him because of my ... (58 words)

Should I tell my bestfriend that her boyfriend was cheating on her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need to get someone else advice on this. should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her? My best friend and I are close, so I feel bad. My sister came and told me that my best friend boyfriend has been cheating on her. Because they broke up but my ... (253 words)

College teacher taking it to far???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - *** of note:this is college not highschool. Thanks I'm currently taking a horticulture class and our teacher is pretty cool.Jokes around a lot and sometimes in the most ADD of ways.Class got out for lunch, and he, myself,two of my friends came along. Two guys and two ladies t... (146 words)

Husband is pulling away from me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I have been married for a few months and I feel like my husband is pulling away from me. He used to ask me if I wanted to go places with him and now he just gets up and goes without saying anything. I am going to admit our relationship went really fast and I am worried now ... (146 words)

Is age really just a number

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Cupids. Im a little curious about your opinions. Today I found out a boy I use to go to school with likes me, hes really nice and everything I don't know him all that well. He gave me his number today and well the only thing that is stopping me from sending a te... (107 words)

Any ideas for freak show costume?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I apologize for wasting evryone's time. I have a [hip hop] dance recital coming up. Our song is "Freak Show" so we must dress, well, freaky. The colors are black, silver, and white, I plan on wearing my black hip hop sneakers and am have no ideas for an outfit/costume. ... (61 words)

Relationship of 12 years not going anywhere, so I'm cheating and want to be with that girl

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I,ve been in a relationship 4 12 years now but the relationship doesnt seem to be going anywere. recently i,ve been seeing someone else behind her back, shes allot younger than me, when ever i see her i feel complete, ive even risked a kiss and cuddle when my girlfriends not ... (102 words)

What's it like to have a girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Whats it like to have a girlfriend? I never had one and I'm very curious about love and sex. I heard relationships can be stressful and can be a pain in the neck sometimes. I really want to have a girlfriend, I guess I haven't met the right girl yet. I think that love is the ... (65 words)

I think my best mate has an eating disorder. What can I do to help get and talk to her about it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I think my best mate has eating disorder. She doesn't ever eat property meals just tiny snacks of fruit and yoghurt and maybe pasta sauce (no pasta) all day. She wears clothes 2 sizes to big for her all time and she's a 6/8. She cooks only desserts but never eats them herself ... (139 words)

I want ex back in my life how do I do this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (M)

age - My partner/girlfriend have broken up a week ago because I looked in her phone and txt her boss pretending to be her.Also my girls who are 9 and 10 dont really get along with her as the girls mother is asking what was said when they come over and stay My girlfriend said ... (110 words)

My new boyfriend doesn't like PDA but I'm the kind of person who loves being hugged!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So i have a new boyfriend. We started dating last week, and theres a little something im curious over. How should i take it that he doesn't like PDA? I told him i understood, that i also didn't like making out n public (school). I talked to him for awhile and how i'd like him ... (203 words)

How can I get this obsession of him out of my mind asap?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4828 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Help, I can't get my ex-player boyfriend or FWB out of my mind. I am so obsessed with thinking about him although he is not worth it at all coz he's a cheater and a liar. I try to get busy and talk to other guys but it doesnt work. does anyone have any tips? and do you b... (89 words)

Is my brother's friend interested in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4826 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been very curious if my brothers friend who is 23 is interested in me (I am 18). I will start off by saying I have a boyfriend but for some reason me and this guy have been texting a lot. He just texts me about anything, and I've known him for several years because of my ... (204 words)

Why wasn't I invited to my friend's sister's party??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4828 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I know this is a dating forum, but I have a question about general friendships which is part of relationship issues. my friend's sister didnt invite me to her gathering at her husband's house. She has been married since one year, and I only have contact with her sister. I ha... (338 words)

Was it just a sex dream or something else?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

13 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - For the past week, I've been having numerous sex dreams. In one, My family and I had to hunt the vampires living underneath our floorboards. One of the vampires was that actor who plays Toby Cavanaugh in the show, Pretty Little Liars. I fell in love with him and we had sex ... (419 words)