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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Schools won't take me in, do I have a future? Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, well before i start i'm 14 years old and i am in England so i'm sure school situations and things like that are rather different to places in America so just clearing that up. Well haven't been in school for a year now and yeah i know its bad and i kn... (711 words)

He's flirty on videochat but then gave me a raincheck for a kiss, said he's not ready for a relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I really like this guy. He is in a couple of my friends classes and we met several weeks ago. The thing is that we both just got over relationships. He says he needs time but we video chatted for hours late into the night. I asked him to tutor me. He said yes and tutored me ... (181 words)

I have a crush on my guy friend, he used to flirt back but has now stopped

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a bit of a problem. I really like one of my best guy friends. And for a while it seemed that he likes me too, I mean, I think he flirted with me constantly for about a year. And, of course, I flirted back, but recently, I think he just looks at me as "one of the guys". ... (82 words)

Army wives and girlfriends - do they ALL cheat when soldiers are deployed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am in th army and I leave for deployment in less then 3 weeks. My current girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months, we have a great relationship. This will the first time either one of us will eb dating someone who is deployed. a few of my friends were talking ... (255 words)

Girlfriend has history of anoxia, has low body self-image, how do I boost her confidence?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend had a very serious problem with anorexia in her teens, requiring hospitalization. To the best of my knowledge, she's been at a healthy weight for the last 16 years or so. Although she still has a "complicated" relationship with food, she does eat a good diet and ... (242 words)

I found my old crush on facebook and now I feel like I am in love with her again

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This may sound weird because I am talking about someone I have never dated. There is this girl I was in love with as a child. We were just class friends but in my heart she was more than that. We studied in the same class for 3 years which was enough time to fall in love wit... (347 words)

I lied to my friends to get out of going to a Halloween party

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My friends wanted me to go with them to this Halloween thing last week, but I'm really squeamish and scared easily so I didn't wanna go. I didn't wanna tell them though, so I lied and said I had something important to do that day. Now I know you're thinking, "Why didn't you ... (250 words)

My wife's old journal mentioned sex with her ex and now my imagination is making me jealous

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I was wondering if you could answer a couple of questions: I recently found my wife's journal, and of course I should have put it down but I read part of it and she had a section in there about sex with her Ex... She was quoted as saying "I have never made love like that ... (210 words)

Her parents are trying to split us up, because they say our horoscopes don't match

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hello everyone, please help me...please help me out.as i write this i have tears rolling dowm my eyes...guys please advice i am 23 years old..freshly passed out dentist and live in mumbai,india.i have a girlfriend since two years.she too is a dentist and we passed out togeth... (809 words)

Should I ask her out? Does she like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I used to be really close to a group of girls and suspected one in particular 'liked' me. We were all about seventeen and used to play around together, doing things like spin the bottle, and felt dead comfortable. One night we all slept in the bed together and the girls ... (166 words)

I'm falling for a coworker while working abroad. Should I tell him how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently started working an overseas job that will last for about 7 months. Unfortunately, I am really starting to fall for a colleague. We have so much in common and get along really well, but since I don't know how he feels about me I have kind of been treating him like a ... (246 words)

A girl at work is very touchy-feely with me but she has a boyfriend.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - A girl I like text me to wish me happy birthday. She works with me and is quite a bit younger than me (I'm late 20s, she's early 20s). The texts were really informal, call me by my short name and had lots of x's in them. She even sent a text (the last one) consisting just of ... (204 words)

Does he really care... so confused!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ok heres my problem, i have known this guy friend of mine for five years and we have always been just friends but, he is the sweetest thing such a gentleman always bought me presents never asked for anything in return. we lost contact for a couple of years but i always heard he ... (349 words)

Why are people disgusted by prostitution, but acceptant of celebrities that are basically just high class prostitutes?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is just an out of the blue question really, something that often confuses me when I see questions or comments on the subject of prostitutes and related subjects. I do not by any means agree with prostitution, what baffles me though, is peoples attitudes towards ... (175 words)

I'm in the closet and like my best friend. How do I proceed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Im 16 and gay (closeted) and i have a huge crush on my best friend. I just need some advice on how to go about getting with him or at the least coming out to him. I dont know his sexuality. Everytime i see him i i just want him more and more. Please help me.!... (58 words)

I'm still a virgin because every time I try to have sex, I can't.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi all! I'm 23 yr old, and I have a prob. I'm still a virgin, and this is so because last (and the first) time I was having sex with my girl (and year and a half back!), I couldn't get an erection, and this happened twice in a row with the same girl! I have been feeling ... (130 words)

I slept with his friend after we broke up, now we're back together and he's upset about it.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - About 10 months ago my boyfriend and I of a year split up. It was a horrible split up and instead of dumping me he ignored me for a month until i gave up. A month later i met one of his friends on a night out and ended up going back to his and we slept together. It was... (204 words)

She moved in with me after her divorce, am I being used?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Well I'm at a real loss here About a month ago I moved in this girl I met online like 6 months ago,because she is getting divorced,and was kicked out of her place,along with her 2 kids both under 2,anyways during the course of our short "friendship" since she's been moved in... (435 words)

What are your thoughts?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I recently started dating this girl. At first, I just wanted to sleep with her. She refused. I try at a later date, she refuses me. So I can see here is a girl who really respects herself. Interesting. I become more interested because of this. She doesn't want to sleep with me ... (203 words)

Her mum is suffocating the life right out of this relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Any advice is appreciated. My girlfriend is 19 I am 22 we have been together for 3 years, her mum is 58 and been single since I met her, her mum has always bugged me since day 1 but I put a brave face on everything but I am struggling to do that anymore. We have to be aroun... (450 words)

Ladies: describe your PERFECT date!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This one is for the ladies - Just wondering, how would you describe your perfect date? Be as original or cliche as you want i'd just love to get some real life ideas! :) Thanks... (38 words)

Can he really walk away with the grief I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age - I am 56 and my partner is 58, he has just finished with me after 7 years together. We haven't been getting on as he wont open up and talk to me and i have become insecure about us and unloved. We dont live together but have always talked on the phone every night and see each ... (87 words)

I am very upset that someone else is treating my son in this way - what should I do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid My son is 8 and lives with my ex-husband and his wife every second weekend. Last weekend, the wife had an argument with my son and my son lay face down on the couch. The wife told him to stay there until he had calmed down. He went to stand up, so she physicall... (117 words)

Does she have hidden feelings for me? How can I get over her if she keeps appearing out of the blue?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I broke up with a girl three months ago who I believed was the one and for some reason still do. We are still friends but it is hard to fight my previous feelings. The trouble is about a month ago I began to try and move on by not texting her unless she texted me, which was ... (263 words)

Left my fiancé today because I found out about 7 dating websites on his computer....

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I would truly appreciate a reply to my question. I am 28 years old and my fiancé is 26 years old. I even spoke with my mother this morning regarding this issue. Last Sunday I went to my fiancé's house as we normally spend our weekends today. We are talking a... (270 words)

How can I ask her out in a non-intimating and non-pressured way and have the ability to keep a good friendship going if it goes wrong?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Now i'm sure this is a question that pops up here CONSTANTLY but it's troubling me and i'd like to get 'personal' answers. I've been friends with a girl for a couple years and we've had on/off feeling for each other however never at the same time. She fancies me, i've got a gi... (226 words)

I thought we had come to a compromise but then he totally disregards me and does what he wants anyway! Will life always be like this with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I wrote on here about 2 weeks ago with the question below* and got some good advice which generally agreed with what i thought. So i asked my husband if he would go away for 3 weeks instead of 5 and in the end we compromised on 4. Problem now is he booked the trip but booked ... (368 words)

I suspect something is going on with my girlfriend and another guy, should I let her go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey...my 17 yrs girlfriend is giving much time to her male frinds than me, and i suspect something is going on with this other guy and when ever i put the issue on the table she tels me that if i ask the guy anything it wil be over betwen us. please help what should i do. let ... (63 words)

Why do people give up so easily? Why don't dumper's communicate until it's too late?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex dumped me out of the blue. He said that I have no self confidence [not true] and I'm not assertive enough- that I'm a push over. So why did he wait until it was too late to tell me this? Why didn't he even tell me this sooner? Why didn't he give me a chance to change ... (60 words)

How do I get over an affair I didn't want to end?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - How do I move on with my life and forget him? We are both married. We work for the same company but different buildings. We had been having an affair for 10 years. I am currently unemployed and have been for a year due to an on the job injury. Being off work curbed allot ... (255 words)

My boyfriend is always eyeing other women

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this boyfriend who is always eyeing woman... he has posters and wallpapers and always rubbernecks anywhere. He's mentioned "I don't need any restrictions." And I'm sitting here feeling even lower then I do because I know I don't look like those girls he always looks at. ... (99 words)

I want to have complete trust in my b/f but can't help feeling scared

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have dealt with serveral relationships where the trust with my significant other has been broken. I am in a relationship now that my boyfriend has done nothing to make me not trust him (we have been together just over a year now) however, when he left his facebook up I went ... (295 words)

Used my boyfriend's computer and found out he's been using web sex cam sites

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4075 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am living with my boyfriend and I just went to use his computer. He works in online marketing so I was aware there would be a lot of things in that nature that I would see BUT I saw that he has been on web cam sex sites - I doubt he needs to go to those sites in order to do ... (147 words)

LDR b/f says I'm too depressing

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just got off the phone with my LD boyfriend and I'm a little hurt or annoyed, I'm not sure. He says that I'm too depressing, and that I depress myself for no reason. He brought up the way I get every time we say goodbye when visiting. We only get to see each other once ... (277 words)

Had my first kiss with a guy I like then I find out his ex is having his baby....what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy in my college class has been flirting with me for the past few weeks. He's 26, I'm 20. His flirting hasn't been inappropriate just some "You look beautiful" kind of flirting. Yesterday I decided to go for it and we went to his house to watch a movie and hang out. We ... (271 words)

Are there any suggestions you guys have about getting to know someone you like a little better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4782 days ago

19 October 2011 (?) age 26-29 - Are there any suggestions you guys have about getting to know someone you like a little better? me and my crush we are cool and we talk frequently but he seems to be in his own little world and is always on his phone listening to music or texting or in anticipation of somethin... (272 words)

Would a guy ever admit to having cheated?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Would a guy ever admit to having cheated to his girlfriend? Hopefully there are some guys out there that can answer this.... (23 words)

My boyfriends sister hates me that much that she wished I would die giving birth!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriends sister hates me, more so that i have recently fallen pregnant that she said she hopes i bleed to death and die giving birth! Also trying to break us up, I seriously don't know how to cope with her. It all started when i was best friends with my boyfriends brothers... (209 words)

I'd like to let him know how I feel

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I went on a "date" with a man tonight. We went out for dinner, and played pool, spent a good 4 hours together, talking and laughing the whole time. He has made me dinner twice in the past month, and we have casually gone to the driving range once also. He holds eye contact, and ... (202 words)

Guys: What happens when a girl tells you she loves you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Guys? What happens to you when a girl tells you she loves you? How do you feel? and what do you do about it? ... (26 words)

Does drinking and forgetting to take my b/c mar its effectiveness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is a question about the birth control pill. I usually take my pill between 10 and 11 pm, but I go to parties almost every weekend, get drunk, and forget to take it until 5 or 6 am. These are often nights that I have sex as well. How much does this decrease the ... (59 words)

Falling in love with my former cousin by marriage and not sure what to do about it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am quickly falling in love with my former cousin by marriage and i dont know where to turn, how to approach, if i should approach, how to present to our family if im reading the signs from her correctly, everybody still considers us cousins even though my mom and step dad r ... (88 words)

Does my best friend have feelings for me and should I make the move?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Does my best friend have feelings for me and should I make the move? It seems like the timing is right as we are both in the same place in our lives. -Known each other for 5 years and for the first two years we both had feelings for each other at different times but never ... (220 words)

How do I convince her that I'm worth it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am currently trying to mend a relationship that ended because she freaks out at any sign of commitment. We still talk everyday and hang out, she said she doesn't want anything but then says she wants to try and that she really likes me. every time i ask her something ... (71 words)

Does it mean he cares if he refuses to make her the other woman?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Is this a fair statement? If a married man has a female friend he is attracted to and she is attracted to him, does it mean he cares about her if he refuses to make her the other woman? Any opinions?... (48 words)

Could this just be some twisted way of ending the relationship with me because I was a bad kisser?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this guy in a college class of mine and he has been flirting with me a lot. Yesterday I finally told him he should ask me out. We went to his house and watched a movie, ended up kissing and cuddling during the entire film. So he walks me back to my dorm (did not sleep ... (192 words)

Advice for pursuing men in their forties?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - I met a man a few weeks ago through a social group. I got a good vibe and find him attractive in an unconventional way. I would have guessed he was in his mid-thirties, but I've just discovered he's 46 via Google. I'm 30. The oldest person I've ever dated was a 37 year old ... (354 words)

I've always been somewhat reliant on a guy to make me happy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey Dearcupid's :) Over the past 3 years, I've been through a lot of pain and heartache. I just consider myself unlucky when it comes to men lol. I've experienced it all - having feelings for someone who I could never have, infatuated with a man who didn't feel the same wa... (231 words)

I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - One of my boyfriend's best friends is an Australian guy who recently had to move back to Australia after living as roommates with my boyfriend for around a year here in the United States. They've gone on road trips together, shared a room, changed in front of each other, etc. ... (336 words)

You shouldn't have to convince someone to love you...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has told me twice in one year that he loves me. We have talked about possible future plans and he has said it really freaks him out to say how he feels about me. I think he's afraid that he may be on the path to marriage but is not totally sure he wants to go ... (123 words)

What is a "success profile" for a job interview?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This isnt a love or sex question, i have a job interview, and the lady told me to come in before my interview to do a success proflie, the only problem, i have no idea what that is, and can i do it the same day of my interview just earlier??? Please help, im super nervous, the ... (60 words)

How the HELL did this happen!?!?!??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm 14, turning 15. Today, I realized I like (like as a bf) someone that i thought i hated for a long time! Me and him always argue about something but we have mutual friends so we end up together a lot. Recently me and him ended up actually joking around and I realized he ... (225 words)

If both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey so i was just wondering if both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?... (19 words)

I've been very good to my boyfriend from day one, but there has been a constant lack of appreciation and investment at his end..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been very good to my boyfriend from day one. I have the ability to anticipate his needs or actions to a fault. He told me to ask him for what I want in the relationship. I don't need much, but the few times I have asked, he hasn't followed through. It's not like he's ... (259 words)

I don't want the children to drive a wedge

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

19 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi there agony aunts and uncles back again, cause you do give me good advice all the time and put my mind at rest, if it sounds a little mixed up its cause i am mixed up. i am due to move nearer my man been ldr for over two years, so you can imagine we are both excited ... (672 words)