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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. He was a friend and a lover. ... (130 words)

Am I just a convenient arrangement for him? Or am I being over-sensitive and too demanding?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Am I just convenient? I have been dating a man for just over three months. He is 36, I am 34. At first everything seemed brilliant - he was attentive, complimentary and in constant contact. We were seeing each other for about two months before we had sex. The sex is good, he... (420 words)

Where do I go from here? Broken hearted. How long should I wait for to contact my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend of one year recently broke up with me. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost the entire time, although I've bought plane tickets to visit her several times, and she came to stay with me for 8 weeks over summer where we had an absolutely amazing ... (981 words)

Does he like me or am I just "plan b" if he doesn't get her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so my ex and I broke up and during this relationship my other ex(joe) and I stayed good friends,we often wrote on Facebook, he was often flirty and it seemed like he was waiting for me to become single again.(he is/was making out with a girl he was in love with 2years a... (263 words)

Does this girl like me or is it just friendly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and likes to hug me or pretend shove me. She texted me to wish me happy birthday... (320 words)

Could this be true? My friend is trying to convince me that "yes, this guy does love me"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4797 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Alright so I have a slight problem. There is this guy that I really like... He and I have just met at the start of grade 10 and We've somehow become really close, we talk a lot, and we walk home together everyday, or when we can. Recently about two or three weeks ago I real... (762 words)

Why does my boyfriend's behavior change every time his female cousin is around?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a question if my boyfriend starts to act funny with me every time when female cousin of his comes around I mean to the point that he avoids my touch and doesn't wanna kiss me or he turns to see if she is in the room or watching him should I think something is going on ... (66 words)

This mean girl in my class insulted my friend about her weight, and now my friend wants to starve herself to be able to lose 30 pounds by the end of the month!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Today's Halloween, and so my school had this contest on who could come to school in the best costume. Like 90% of the people in my school dressed up, including me, but that's besides the point. I have a friend who's a bit overweight, but she's super sweet, and this rude gi... (254 words)

Boyfriend likes me to refer to him as daddy is this a red flag?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4666 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend sometimes likes to refer to himself or have me refer to him as "daddy". Is this a red flag that he's someone i should never have a child with, or am I overthinking this? ... (36 words)

Are my concerns about her past justified?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been going out with a woman for a few weeks and i feel a big connection with her. Everything feels easy and we get along great. The only thing that concerns me is her past. She has told me she was very flirtatious when she was in her late teens/early twenties (she is ... (360 words)

I'm feeling badly because husband missed his "Friday Night Special"

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I am a 31 year old married woman. I have gotten great advice from this board in the past. With three kids by birth and an adoption of a 4th in process, my husband and I have to take advanages of opportunities for sex. My hubby is something of horndog, so we maintain a ... (258 words)

How do you feel it is or isn't appropriate to express affection to your loved one around family?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in a serious relationship for the first time in my life. Our families have never met or seen us together but they will soon. His family is very openly affectionate and so I wouldn't worry about sitting with an arm around him now and then or giving him a little peck on the ... (298 words)

Why does he want to have a baby with me and not get married?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for nearly a year, and living together for over 6 months. He's in his early 40's and I'm in my early 30's. We both have been divorced. He recently expressed that he wants to have a baby, and we agreed that we would start trying ... (355 words)

I've developed feelings for my girlfriend's amazing new best friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years, we only broke up for a week about a year ago. that was my fault, i fell for another girl and ended things. Now my girlfriend recently met a new best friend. She is amazing, the new friend, her and i have the same sense of humor, ... (283 words)

Relationship dilemma: how do I get her to believe in me again?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm currently trying to win back my ex girlfriend. She has a social anxiety disorder, and recently shut down and blew up on me (seriously yelled in person, screamed, cried, etc.) because of a few things I did. All of which was about a month ago. I slow danced with another... (626 words)

Is this culture shock?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello! Well...I am a latin woman (south american) who likes and enjoy going out. I love dance and have fun with people. I am living in US for almost 4 years now. Last weekend I went out with a friend of mine. She is american and we went to a very nice night club. Some guys came ... (254 words)

I'm bored and frustrated with my relationship! Help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age - I've just divorced my husband of 20 years then met this man 16 years older than me. Im attracted to him because he's more caring and understanding than my ex-husband. He has no kids and has his own home and car and still working with a good income. He is helpful. I meant ... (139 words)

Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the years, but these things do ... (451 words)

I married through love and now it has backfired as he is still messaging the married woman he knew before me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey there, My name is senya and i am married for 1 year now.. And i am dating this same guy since 2 years... So basically we are together for 3 years.. My husband was dating a married lady before we meet.. she was married for 2 years when she was dating my husband.... (236 words)

We plan to meet for the first time soon but he is very ill and I'm worried if I see him it will make it harder. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im 22 years old and been in a relationship with this 46 years old canadian guy online,there no exact words to express how happy i am to have him. I know deep inside my heart that i do love him more than anything in this world..and he also does for me..but life is so unfair for ... (299 words)

Is he more interested in sex than me? now all he seems concerned about is how soon we can become a couple and start having sex

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Hey guys would love an outsiders opinion to this... Long story short I've met this amazing guy two weeks ago who is sweet, cute, funny and matched and rivalled my humour and we got on really well. We've been talking non stop over this time and although he understands its ... (162 words)

Guys don't mention rings this casually, do they? Why would he do this at the wedding?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I was relaying things that happened at a wedding I attended Saturday to my boyfriend via text. The bride and groom entered the reception hall on a Harley. My boyfriend sent a joking text asking if the bride's wedding ring was chrome. He then made the comment "I would pref... (111 words)

I've been told he's taking me to France for the weekend as my present. What can I get him as a present for the same anniversary?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Right i dont know what to get for my boyfriend for our 2 year anniversary. He spoke to my best friend without me knowing and apparently was planning on taking me to france for the weekend! how can i possibly compare? does anyone have any suggestions or ideas on what i can get ... (71 words)

Can I have a good life with my controlling man who also tells me lies?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, The man I'm with is a liar, he lies frequently and sometimes over ridiculous things I never know what's real what's not. He was married and even lied about his exes age to me until divorce papers arrived and I seen her age. He's got a temper and freaks out over petty th... (333 words)

Should I choose to not marry him? And take action to get him to give me my money back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - ive done something really stupid and need some advice as to what i should do. My boyfriend who i havent known all that long is from a diferent country. Possibly quite jealous and possesive. He works and so do i, but i make more money than him. he recently asked me for 3 thousa... (295 words)

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long distance relationship, 120 miles ap... (647 words)

Are my concerns about my daughter's mental health valid? How do I suggest she get help? She wants a sex change for vocational reasons

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My 16 yr old daughter told us she wants a sex-change. She said it's the solution to all her problems - she wants to work in the motor industry or the logistics industry, and said both those industries aren't really accepting of women working for them, whether on the shop flo... (217 words)

Have I done the right thing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. Been in my relationship with bf for 4yrs we have a daughter together thing is since the start of r/ship he has lied about certain things, he has an alcohol problem so he has lied about drinking. For some time I thought he was t-total! I told him the last time if he lies we ... (225 words)

Early stages of ED, what can I do to combat it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - for the past one week my penis doesn't get erected,i was very much worried about it,i consulted my doctor he says it is a starting stage of ED, what exercises will help me to eradicate my problem, i have discussed with my girl friend , she understands and she said she will help ... (89 words)

Caught in-between my boyfriend and my best male friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm currently in a very messy situation, and I'm not quite sure what to do about it... Lately, it's been really hard to make time to spend time with my boyfriend. When I'm busy he usually has something important to do, and vice versa, so I'm lucky if I get to see him once a w... (903 words)

She's my first everything, I'm her seconds....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm 26 and had never dated or anything up until a year and a half ago (not a lot of confidence in that department). I've been with the same girl now for that time frame. She's amazing. She told me early on she wasn't a virgin (I am). She has only had one boyfriend, but it was a ... (330 words)

Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4705 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we started dating. 2 and 1/2 months ... (366 words)

Seeing the guy I like again soon.....what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 18, and I've known this guy for almost 2 years now. I have of course liked other guys before him, but this was totally different. I pretty much feel like he's the one (in the back of my mind at least) but we go to different colleges now, and before that, we wern't exactly ... (150 words)

After 2 bad break-ups I don't want to get serious with anyone because I don't want to be in love again, is there something wrong with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This post won't be very long, I just need a little input and help. I've had two VERY bad break ups within the last 4 years (I'm over them, by the way) and I've been sitting here thinking about why I'm not in a new relationship. I've been on many wonderful dates in the pas... (167 words)

How can I break up with my boyfriend? I'm not in love with him anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I break up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 4 months? I love him but I'm not in love with him anymore. This year was his 1st year of college but I could feel us drifting sorta. He even told me that for the past 2 weeks he's been wanting to tell me to stop talking to him ... (145 words)

Were we never really anything? Was I a fool to believe this was something special? I don't know how he could have done this....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - knowing someone online for over a year now. thought we were in a real relationship and now its all over as if it never existed. I deleted all my accounts I could not bare the pain. all I kept seeing was him posting away about a life he didnt have. if he loved me so much why ... (607 words)

I really need a male's perspective on this question...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - This has been bothering me for months now... I am in a great relationship with this guy for almost 6 months now ( we are both in our 30's) and we are very happy together. We were on our first vacation together and it had been only 2 months that we were together. I don't ... (368 words)

She wants me to stop taking the pain killers after I hurt my knee otherwise she will leave me! Should I just leave her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - hi guys ive been dating a woman for almost 2 years shes spoiled and is just a baby i dont make a lot of money but i do pay bills, take care of laundy, cook, clean i do it all.... recently i got hit at work in july by a truck so ive been in therapy and still get paid and pay the ... (115 words)

Is she already interested in another? I like her. but now I feel lost and have a sickening feeling inside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok, here is my problem. I started college just over a month ago and in my first week met a really attractive, smart girl who happened to be doing the same course as me. We exchanged phone numbers and got on really well together, often chatting for a long time. I had ... (198 words)

My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get married the whole 17years and he ... (988 words)

I'm afraid to bring it up, but how long do I wait to see how this relationship plays out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

31 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I don't know what to do. We've been together just over a year. I know someone said you can't love the potential, you have to love the person where they're at now. But I find myself doing both. He really does need me for several reasons. And I need him and get nauseated just ... (206 words)

Am I overreacting or is my boyfriend losing interest?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4790 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) age 26-29 - My boyfriend and I have only been going out a few weeks, (i know im probably being silly about this but i want to be sure). we talked a ton before we went out (we were friends for 2 years). so over the past 5 weeks or so we would talk every night, once for eight hours straight, ... (167 words)

What am I doing wrong? Will I ever find a guy who really truely cares about me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 15 I had a boyfriend before, and many "things" with guys but it seems that after a period of time they stop liking me for no reasons, please don't give me answers like "your 14 your too young, and you'll find someone your only young." maybe its other girls? Maybe its just ... (84 words)

After everything why is he ignoring me now?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was messing around with a guy for about 11 months. He was actually my friend before it began. At the beginning he was sweet, complimented me and all that, but at the same time he was messing around with other girls. I wasn't tripping because he had just gotten out of a ... (961 words)

I am afraid to lose her but I think its certain!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age - i feel like a dummy for asking but...some people, including my gf are convincing. i met a young lady half my age a year ago online. fwiw, she spoke to me first and the first few times after meeting her, when i'd go online she'd be the one to initiate conversation. we simply ... (488 words)

Shall I contact him on FB even though I am not supposed to know his surname? Or ask his friend for his phone number?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there - I met a guy at a party and we slept together. I like him but i do not see him as relationship material. But i would like to see him again. Just to have fun. If i wanted a relationship i wouldn't contact him but i guess i have nothing to lose in this case. What is b... (94 words)

I am really nervous when I talk to girls!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I am really nervous when I talk to girls... For example when I take it seriously I am having panic attacks, and ? tremble in waves... When I am going for fun, just to say a girl I like her, I say it normally like talking to my best friend... How can I say seriously to a girl I ... (74 words)

Has anyone been through a situation like this...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4782 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a friend back in school (8 years ago to be precise). We were really close and good friends but didn't date. Over the last couple of years, we've been in contact, at times 3 months apart. Thing is, I think about him a lot and I feel he does too. Whenever he calls we talk ... (210 words)

Did he just want his ego boosted or does he feel the same?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi All, Over 18months ago, I had a short relationship with a guy I met on dating site which lasted about 4 months. We parted over something really trivial and I did not pursue it any further, we remained friends and lost contact over time. However, we both found each other ag... (193 words)

Does my friend have an abusice dad? Would I be abandoning her if I went to take my A levels at a new school or is that the best option?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I love my best friend, she's like my sister when we hang out but her parents are so controlling, I feel like she trapped. when we were little my friend discovered she had cancer, we were only about 5 at the time but i remember it very clearly, she recovered but as we didnt at... (625 words)