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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

We broke up 3 months ago and he still isn't ready to be friends

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5433 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago--- why isnt he ready to be friends..? im reallly in love with him still. and im over the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing but i really wana be friends with him and he wont let me in.. he says it hurts too much to just be friends.. why ... (57 words)

I have never been sober when I've kissed

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, well I still have the whole intimacy problem. Iam with this dude for 2 months now and I've never kissed him sober. Actually I never kissed anyone sober. I dont know what my problem is and I cant get over it. Am I the only person with this problem. Can anyone suggest what ... (60 words)

I don't know what to get my b/f for Christmas

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I am having trouble knowing what to get my boyfriend for Christmas. we have been dating for about 2 or 3 months now. I love him and he is very difficult. When i asked him what he wanted for Christmas he either said nothing or told me he wanted me. what should i get him? we are... (118 words)

I'm worried about the first time and not living up to expectations!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok, so I've been dating this girl for two and a half months, and I think we're in love. Today she asked me to come over and to finger her, but I said I couldn't because I was too nervous. I know I shouldn't be, if we really are in love then she won't care, and she's told me ... (82 words)

A conversation with a friend gives me more questions than answers!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, One of by best mates is a girl, we are very close. We finished school early today as it is the last day of term and we decided to go on a walk together. it was snowing so we had alot of fun. after a while of talking we randomly started talking about masturba... (330 words)

Semen found on backside of boyfriend's underwear?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age - I saw dried semen on the back (outside) of my boyfriend's underwear. There was more on back side than inside the front of underwear. We live together and after sex he always go right to sleep, (I generally don't), so he doesn't clean up or wipe with anything. Why would there be ... (67 words)

My GF hangs out late drinking with her many guy friends...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I'm not sure if this is me being insecure or overly protective. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 years. Recently in the past 2 months, she has been hanging with guy friend(s), I say this because she is not clear who she hangs out with nor how many guys, she j... (425 words)

Is it weird to get turned on by the pain of first time sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok im a girl and i was wondering if this is normal. I talked to my friends and they all said it will hurt your first time haveing sex and even made there boyfriends stop. When i had sex for the first time it did hurt but i liked the pain alot and got more turned on by it. I was ... (94 words)

I thought everything was going well, until I heard them laughing about me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My best mate sleeps around and knows loads of guys, everyone wanting to be with her. She's overweight, spotty and generally greasy. She's taken guys off of me and every guy I've liked she's flirted with until they go to her instead. This seems to happen with everyone I know. ... (181 words)

I want to bring up all these issues, but if I do he says I chose this life and should've had an abortion.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - This is my first time on the site and it is mostly because I don't want my friends to judge me. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I feel that he is taking me for granted and does not love me. He has gone through some tough times with his job in the last 2 yrs and ... (277 words)

Is he considering getting back together out of love or pity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Okay so I posted a question two days ago, this is just a follow up and I need some advice. So anyways, my boyfriend broke up with me two days ago because he couldn’t take me yelling at him anymore and because of my rude behaviour. The next day, I talked to him again but he w... (222 words)

Why is she holding back when I know she's attracted to me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age - I am certain she has feelings for me but I don't understand why she keeps them hidden. She's not in a relationship and she openly discusses her dating life with me but when I make a move she backs off? I have deliberately kept myself out of her 'friend zone' so it's not that... (100 words)

Is this masochistic dream something to worry about?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I just had a really masochistic dream and it's scaring me because I don't know what's going on with me and I don't want to turn into a masochist. Actually, I hardly remember the dream, but I remember quite well the sexually masochistic fantasies I was having in it. I think in ... (429 words)

I just want to be friend, but I think she might fancy me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok so im just a little bit confused as of lately.... i know a girl, have known her for a couple years casually. U know not close friends or anything.. well last week we got to talking and exchanged numbers, Now i know she has a bf and while she is cute and theres some att... (147 words)

Pregnant again and afraid of being abandoned with two children

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - im 24 an have a 2year old son with an ex,who was very violent towards me,i now have a new bf who iv beeen with for nearly a year now,his really good with my son,an we get on really well,im now pregnant again,an we both want to keep the baby,but im worried of been left on my own ... (102 words)

Does anyone know of ill effects of wild yams?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) age - My naturopathic practitioner gave me wild yam supplement for menopausal symptomes,I don't even have. I'm 48, but my main problem was heavy bleeding, and I get my period regularly. Also ,I have no hot flashes or many other symptoms. My blood tests don't show any hormonal ... (69 words)

Do men prefer fake over real breasts?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) age 36-40 - Are fake breasts better than natural, small ones? I mean, I know this has been asked before. But it seems like they are. I've asked many guys and they say "Hey, if it improves her beauty, then it's all good!". And I read this article: http://www.cosme... (494 words)

Does my girlfriend's family suddenly not trust me anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi i'm 17 and have just come back early from my first visit to my girlfriends house. This was an interesting experience. I've been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and she's been round my house a lot and we've been out on a Friday and Saturday nights and thing... (222 words)

He has a fecal fetish!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I need help.. ive been dating this guy who is 28 for about 3mos now, I am a couple years older the problem is he is constantly talking and obsessed with feces and wants to be humilated by this his mis happenings. The main talk is this situation. He appears to care and does do ... (105 words)

I am also worried about my sister's influence on me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 20 and have recently moved from the country to to work in town.I have accommodation at my place of employment. My older sister works in the same town and stays in a commune. She is going out with a guy from work and introduced my to his friend. I have not lost my v... (230 words)

My husband does not look at me 'nice'...What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) age - My husband does not look at me 'nice'...Does not touch me...Does not want to do things with me. No intimacy. He tries, but he just 'cant' keep denying ,that he is not into me... Now I heard, most marriages after 20 years goes steal..Is this true? Our doctor also says ,man over ... (104 words)

My boyfriend is becoming abusive...please some constructive advice...?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello! I came to tis website beause i really dont know what to do anymore. Im 18, my boyfriends 19.My boyfriend of a year and 3 months was such a great guy, he never cheated on me,never cheats, never flirts with other girls,he treats me like his one and only, he likes buying m... (223 words)

Has she gone of me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - (MOD NOTE: Title is Posters Original Title) hii, I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!. i think my girlfriend has gone of me.... she never realy wants to kiss me if i go for a kiss all i get is a sourfaced peck, she never wants to have sex with me, but she doesnt like it if i egnore h... (79 words)

I feel hurt, trashed and betrayed, I need to move on!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello. I am 34 years old. I have been in a relationship for about 11 years with a 46 years old man. Last May I found out that he was taking to this 28 years old girl, married. I spoke with him and he said he stopped. Last month I found out that not only he hadnt stopped but ... (110 words)

My friend lied to me now I don't want to trust her again

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - So I trusted my friend but she lied to me. I feel stupid because I can not believe I couldn't see through her. I believed everything she told me - yes everything. Now I feel upset, hurt and very angry. The lie was small but still hurtful. She kept denying the truth and I'm ... (87 words)

She's telling me one thing while wanting something different!

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - ok here goes 32 yr old male here and need some advice..been with this girl for about 9 mo. now and we have had our ups and downs..i live about an hour away and have alot more responsibilities in life than her..i'm looking to settle down and find someone who wants to be up here ... (369 words)

He says he has moved on, so why did he kiss me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hey me and my boyfriend split up because my dad found out that he was round when he wernt ment to be because my boyfriend is older then me im 15 and hes 17 and of cause my dad didnt really like it . And i went to see him and he kissed me then i started smoking then i m... (135 words)

ITs going too slow for me and I am worried his ex wife is on the hunt!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I posted before but was asked for more context/ info, so I'm re-posting with more detail. I split up with my long term partner a few months ago - we broke up after a big argument which was involved some big misunderstanding then we both said things we regretted - he was d... (612 words)

Did the last 12 months mean nothing to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - any suggestions or comments would be grateful please so i can find closure... i met someone 3 months ago, all has been great, i do have children and the person i was dating they hadnt of met my children yet we have just been enjoying the dating and having fun together. all of a ... (174 words)

It hurts me when he makes up with g/f and then I don't hear from him for days!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm so upset. My best guy friend and I talk all the time, and he's in a rough spot with his girlfriend right now so I've pretty much become his crutch for the time being. I'm the person he goes to to talk when his girlfriend is mad or whatever. I try to be very understanding ... (210 words)

My first time and I didnt enjoy the experience!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend fingered me for the first time but I wasn't really turned on and it wasn't sore but will he think I'm strange because I wasn't "wet". Does it bother gu when a girl is "dry". We had been kissing for a while but it wasn't until I was pleasuring him that I felt ... (59 words)

I don't understand the need for some people to hurt others during sex

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - More so a question for the guys, ... but comments from females welcome too. After some comments heard today, I am rather curious as to the overall psychology going on behind this seemingly wide spread phenomena that causes SOME guys to actually take 'pride' in causing a gir... (292 words)

Dramas with thieving ex boyfriend and his parents threaten me!

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - can anyone help my fella has stolen all my jewellery, he has admitted to it to me, but lied about where it is, i have been to the place with police. we are not in contact anymore, i have a phone number i beleive is the man he sold it too in the pub, i have proof of my rings box ... (163 words)

My husband wants to watch me with another man

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been married to my husband for 13 years and during this time he has hinted off and on that it would be a turn on for him to see me have sex with another man. I remember at first feeling repulsed by even the thought of being with someone else since my hubby was my first, ... (192 words)

I just dumped my married b/f he says I am being childish!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Good day all and may u all have a blessed xmas and prosperous new year :-) . Well i'm in need of TLC i just dumped my married boyfriend of 3 half years via sms .. thing is i went on his facebook and saw pics of his wedding day and of him and soon ex wife .. i'm torn inside d... (119 words)

Drawn to him even though I know he is only there for the cheap thrills

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I can't understand why I am being so stupid and why I keep doing this to myself. I am a shy 26 year old who has never been with a guy sexually, everyone who knows me thinks I am sheltered and basically thinks it's funny, which is fine. I am trying to work on my confidence an... (339 words)

I am thinking of giving my b/f a self portrait for Christmas

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi guys this is a questin about my bf's xmas present. im a very shy person but i want to give my boyfriend a personal gift and i was going to draw a picture of myself in underwear in a type of silouhette style. the problem is i am scared he won't like it. he's a very tra... (97 words)

This is THE weekend I lose my virginity, I need to prepare myself

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we both decided to give our virginity to each other this Saturday night. I just want to know how should I prepare myself mentally and physically? ... (38 words)

My guy wants to keep our relationship a secret!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How do i make my guy be more romantic?he never even hugs me when we are in public..i mean he never asks me out anywhere..nor does he wanna tell his friends about us! how can i make this happen without directly forcing him to tell his friends!i feel really bad!he's scared that ... (85 words)

My ex has sex with me and then goes and calls his girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Three weeks ago i found out that my boyfriend was cheating with me. We had a big fight and he left me. He called me bitch and said he never loved me. One week ago he called me and asked for help...he came to my state to do his pratical and he needed a place to stay. He said the ... (216 words)

His text said "What are we going to do about us?" I thought he wasn't interested!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner and I were together for 2 1/2 years in a long distance relationship. I am very confused and I think he is too as there was no official split. We last saw each other in late September. I had made several arrangements for us to meet up but he kept coming up with ... (501 words)

Every time I have sex with my husband I think of this man

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am married and I got acquainted to another man since 2004 and finally this acquaintance turns into love. We met several times but we never had sexual intercourse. I was so afraid that this will turns wrong if I go in sexual relationship with someone else. So we just hugged ... (251 words)

Slept with 2 brothers, now what do I do if I see them?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a man this summer and i fell for him really quickly, we had sex after a few dates and then i found out he was seeing someone. I carried on chasing him and slept with him a few more times until he stopped calling. I recently bumped into his brother in Town and we ended up... (174 words)

Dad is cheating on mom I have the messages as proof do I let mom hear them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My parents have been married for 19 years and my dad has been cheating on my mom for as long as i can remember i believe she knows i thought he stopped but i have his voicemail password and i secretly check it a few times a week and there are several messages from several ... (140 words)

I became compulsive liar and he broke up with me. I want him back but don't tell me to tell him the truth!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. ok i've known dis guy for 4 yrs n we've gone out for 3 n half of them. i had started lying a lot to him regardin Oy health n stuff jus to get more attention from him. he always loved me n believed me. however i started turnin into a compulsive liar. kept lyin to him ... (226 words)

Ex wants me back, says he's grown up

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and i were together for six months we went to prom together and he took my virginity a few weeks after that he started to become very distant and mean towards me i later found out that he was in love with his ex so we broke up and its been quite awhile since we ... (152 words)

I'm not sure what is the best way to approach this situation as I've never got back with an 'ex' before.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

I only had sex once and I didn't love it, what did I do wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive only had sex once before. It was almost a year ago. I have to say I didnt find it really that good. I didnt orgasm.. All i felt was alot of pressure and the thrusting and pain. Is that normal? ALl my other friends seem to love sex. I tend to avoid it now thinking im doing ... (62 words)

How would married men handle the consequences if you mislead your other woman, who then becomes vengeful and discloses the affair to your family?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I would like to address this email to men's point of view who somehow cheated on their wife both online affairs and in real situation. Men cheat because there are women who are wiling to cheat with them, these are facts. Most likely women too have their needs emotionally and ... (281 words)

Should we go out? How do I keep him interested?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently asked a co-worker to go with me to our job's Christmas party and he said he couldn't go (he's going back home for the holidays and will be gone for about 2 weeks). Later on, during the shift, he asked if I wanted to see a movie with him and I agreed. We all live in ... (145 words)

I just want to know what do I do to stop being so attached to him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - well, i have been in a relationship for 1 and a half year. day after day seems like he doesn't want me anymore. i have to force myself on him. i beg for attention. this morning i knew he starts work early so i rung him so many times but his phone was off, when i finally got ... (278 words)

How do I ever trust him again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Ive, been in a relationship for 18 years, we have three children. My partner has always flirted with other women even in front of me which has been hurtful but when he kissed a girl in front of me four years ago I told him to leave, he swore it would never happen again and up ... (181 words)

Hes broke and I think hes hiding things from me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend mentioned a welcome home party fro his friend this Saturday, and I told him I worked. I then suggested he pick me up from work, and we can go together. He replied with: "Maybe,I'm running low on cash though." He buys things all the damn time, and he doesn't have ... (80 words)

I know about his affair, but I want to win him back. Should I tell him I know?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my fiancee for 6 years. He is the only man I have ever been intimate with. He has been with several other girls before me... and now he is seeing someone else. He has been cheating on me for the past 2 months (or so? I don't know for sure). I know this because ... (762 words)

Can you stay friends with an abusive ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I was in an abusive relationship (physically and emotionally) for about a year. I was very much in love with him and would make excuses for him, but also did not want to suffer abuse anymore. I learned that he had also abused his other ex's in the past. I tried to break it off ... (133 words)

I feel like the only time he wants to be alone with me is when he wants to have sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is always playing games on his xbox live and him ad his friend are attached to the hip, the sit around all day playing xbox or somtimes they watch movies. I never get to spend alone time with him because I can never pull him away from his xbox or his friend! The ... (149 words)

Needs a womans opinion to soothe my paranoia about what the girl I like replied with!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Right, Where to start, This is mainly for the women to answer, I know not a 100% answer but a females opinion would be appreciated.. I've been talking to this girl, shes 16 and shes really nice, really good heart, not manipulative or anything...She likes to go on dates firs... (206 words)

We are constantly fighting due to his alcohol problem!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hi everyone please help me i dont know what to,me and the father of my son broke up two years back and got back together this year but im not happy at all last time we broke up it was because of alchol and he promised he wil stop when we make up but he didnt he is still ... (180 words)

Can someone take what I've just posted and make sense of it all?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Is it possible, once a women says she doesnt feel in love with you anymore, to ever feel in love with you again? the relationship was rocky for the last year, I got to comfortable, and didnt really pay much attention to her, as we rarely talked, she got involved with another ... (426 words)

I'm friends with a guy at work but I feel there is more in the air, please advise.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - im friends with a guy at work and because hes new ive been helping him a lot with the paperwork etc so he calls me a lot. im probably being paranoid but the last two nights ive been on the phone to him for at least 2 hours. the weird thing is i find him very easy to talk to ... (203 words)

My question is: why is it so hard for us to talk about making it official?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Okay so let me tell you a little bit about my situation..so thrs this guys that ive known for a while but we've decided to be FWB...so far its been great no strings attatched rite?!...well im starting to catch feelings for him..and i know he is too but we jus dont admit it to ... (136 words)

She is sensitive and insecure due to her past and I hanged up on her.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am madly in love with this girl who has a had an abusive past and as a result can often be really sensitive and insecure. She often thinks that people dont care about her feelings, especially since in her past experiences, her thoughts and feelings were often ignored ... (584 words)

The Professor crush, what to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5406 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Well I have a crush on my professor and I'm not sure if he feels the same, or what I should do about it. It started last semester I was in his political science class. Watching him teach with such passion sparked my interest. My feelings grew when I would linger after cla... (451 words)

Sharing a bed with my girlfriend has become a nightmare. What should I do?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5144 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I'm having some real problems in bed with my girlfriend, but not in the way you would immediately think. Sharing a bed with her has become a total nightmare, specifically when we stay at her flat. I'm usually awoken at nights when she pulls my half of the duvet off of me ... (314 words)

I thought she was starting to like me, but turns out she had heard about my depression...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been suffering from depression and was seeking help and support from a friend of mine. I have second friend who i have feelings for, but she doesn't feel the same way. She never emails me first, but when I send her friendly stuff every once in a while, she replies happ... (274 words)

How to overcome insecurity?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - how do i overcome insecurity? ... (7 words)

Will I get him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok,(I gotta give some background here) so I was with this guy, lets call him Bob for this, for 8 months. It was absolutely amazing. He changed my life. Literally. He loved me, I loved and still love him. It was a great relationship. We never really fought. We got along great, ... (226 words)

How do I overcome my social awkwardness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I was wondering what people talk about when they go to a bar. I just got back tonight and a swear I cleared out the place. I had nothing to say. It's weird some nights I am easy going and talkative and other nights I am so shy I can hardly speak. I just want to know what I ... (154 words)

I put my life on hold but now I want to get it back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5452 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I have a huge problem and I would appreciate some much needed helpful advice and an insight into what the heck is going on. I'm 21 years old I had a very troubling past but got my life on track. My partner and I got together two years ago. Just before we got together I was ... (775 words)

Dumped before the baby was born, I found a new guy but now the ex wants back in!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I was seeing this guy awhile back, we both weren't ready for a relationship and very immature. After that broke off I found a new guy and ended up falling in love with him. We ended up having a baby on December 4th [ yes just 2 weeks ago ]. But that relationship ended in ... (125 words)

I find it difficult to move on!

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - A couple of months ago my girlfriend broke up with me. It didn't last long, but it was the first relationship I've had that was in any way conventional or actually desired. And once we both seperated to go to university she ignored me for two months, cheated on me, and broke up ... (310 words)

Three years on I haven't met his kids, aged 11 to 17, because he doesn't want to unsettle them

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been in a relationship for three years,my boyfriend has four children and was seperated from his wife for 18 months before we got together,they were divorced two years ago. I can truly say that he is the love of my life and is everything a partner should be ... kind car... (253 words)

He makes my heart go boom diddy boom but he is an ex!

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - An odd question, but I'm desirous of an answer nonetheless: My ex dumped me 7 months ago, basically cause he just didn't love me. I had really deep feelings for him and I firmly believe I love him, even though I'm just a teenager. Anyway, I was wondering why looking at him m... (84 words)

How long does No Contact last?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 5 days ago. I am trying the no contact theory. How long should I wait to contact him. I really miss him and wish he would come back. Please help.... (43 words)

Do boys ever mature?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i used to like when i was younger ... (156 words)

Even though she hurt me, should I give her another chance?

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - About a month ago a girl I really liked told me she didn't think she liked me anymore. We weren't actually dating. But now, a month later she is saying she likes me again. Should I give her another chance? She hurt me really bad, and I don't want to experience it again, but I ... (58 words)

How do I figure out which employee to cut?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - The company I work for needs to down size my office by one position. Since I'm the manager it's up to me to figure out which position can be eliminated and create a strategy for re-directing the work load to the other 4 workers. There are two employees that I would love to get ... (231 words)

What should I say to put him in his place?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My Boyfriend has no problem telling me he is smarter then me.It upsets and annoys me and I have told him to stop, but he still does it. He tells me I'm not smart because I won't let myself grow. Sure he is smarter in certain areas, and is alot older so he has had more experie... (85 words)

How can I make him chose me, not her?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - There is this guy that I really like and when I told him that he had told me that he felt the same way but he had a stronger connection with this other girl so he chose her instead. How can I show him that I'm the one for him and not her, and that I'm the one that he's looking ... (131 words)

She did me wrong and I broke it off, but why isnt she begging for me to come back?

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - So, my ex has done me wrong--undeniably. I broke it off. She cried and still wanted to be friends. I said no. She got angry. It's been 4 days. Why hasn't she called me back begging? I don't really (only kind of) want to talk to her, but it sure would be satisfying to li... (64 words)

Should I tell my online friend I like him even though he has mental issues?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a good friend in Canada who I met online a few years ago. I would have to say he's one of my best friends, and as I've gotten to know him, I sort of developed a crush. Problem is, he's Canadian, and I'm American. He's 27 and I'm 18. He also has some mental issues ... (199 words)

This boy takes my breath away so what should I do about him?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok...SO iv'e been liking this boy for about 4-5months now and it's funny kuz when i first saw him....my brothers had already told me stuff he said about me like"MAN I LIKE YOUR SISTER" and shes kute and more stuff and it's like when i saw him for the first time he nearly took ... (125 words)

In love with housemate and time is running out!

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I have been really attracted to my house mate for months and have fallen head over heels in love with him. At times I feel like he has feelings for me, but then I think I might be imagining it. We have a great laugh together and share similar interests. I really ... (157 words)

Still lost with another twist...

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - beating my brain and heart here. here is where my 1st was: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/can-anyone-help-me-i-feel-i-am.html one of my best friends has now confess to me that she has always had feelings for me. I often though many times what life would be like if we had g... (410 words)

Should I not read too much into his actions?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - So I was dating this guy for 2 months and he broke it off almost a month ago because I ran into him at a club and I was super drunk and I saw him talking to other women and got jealous and upset called him a few names. I appologized to him but he wanted to break things off and ... (138 words)

Love distorted?

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I just asked out a girl who i like very much, we have been going out for about a week now, ive heard from her that she likes me the same way. Yet she seems like she doesnt like me, and that shes imbarreses or nervous, I think she doesnt like me, and i dont want to loose her, ... (63 words)

Am I right to ignore him?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently, i've been ignoring the guy i like because we got really close and then suddenly turned on me one night and started talking really nastily.... I am right in doing so? Should i just walk away from it now to save more hurt or should i stay and see if he's going to ... (71 words)

Should I tell her again or let life go on?

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - there is this girl that i like and i told her on facebook she said that she had a boyfriend but im not sure if its true or not i see her almost every week at church and whenever i see her i feel like almost crying. i know that its cheesy but its true. she is a really pretty g... (126 words)

Will I always be alone without a relationship?

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18 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m turning 19 soon, and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve never been kissed. I’ve never been on a date. I’ve never even had a guy express interest. I’ve never even heard rumors that any guys might be interested. I didn’t attend any school dances, including prom, because nobody ... (447 words)

Is my compulsion to make women orgasm an addiction?

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18 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I'm a 28 year old man and I think I'm addicted to making women orgasm. When I'm with a woman I'm intimate with, I just crave making her cum. It really turns me on, but I actually feel almost compelled to do it. I love, LOVE going down on women and making them ... (179 words)