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writes:Well I have a crush on my professor and I'm not sure if he feels the same, or what I should do about it. It started last semester I was in his political science class. Watching him teach with such passion sparked my interest. My feelings grew when I would linger after class to ask questions and talk to him and he would be pleased to have conversation with me. He's such a sweet and funny guy. I was late to class a lot , but he never counted me late. When I would skip class and ended up running into him in the hall, he was concerned why I was gone, and would give me the notes from that class, he never did that with anyone else.At the end of the class he told me I was a great student and he would miss having me in class. I didn't see him at all over summer. But when I got back this fall I when to his office to see him. He remembered me and we talked and he invited me back to visit him during his office hours. I did a few times and we would talk with me about a range of things. Lasttime he was happy to see me. He said 'I've been thinking about you. You just dropped off the face of the earth and haven't come to see me.' I smiled and gave him a hug, he hugged me back. We started talking. And somehow I ended up asking about his age, he told me then said 'your 21 right?' I nodded. He exclaimed 'I'm old enough to be your father!' We laughed and kept talking finding out we have a lot in common. During a gap in the conversation he leaned in and told me I could call him by his first name as long a we weren't around other students. He explained that he doesn't want students to call him by his first name, and he likes to keep a wall up, but not with me. That scrambled my brain, but pleased me too. We talked for awhile longer before he had to leave. We hugged again, and he told me I should visit when I'm not busy, and if he didn't see me before to have good holidays.Now my head is really messed up. Am I reading too much into it? I want to see him on monday the last day of the semester, showing I like him by maybe bringing him a small gift? But is that too much? Any advice would be great! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to update and answer a question I was asked. He has no kids and no ring on his finger.
A few weeks ago I was able to spend a long while talking with him, we got to know each other a lot better. He refers to me as his favorite former student to other profs, and I do think he at least enjoys my company, but he did comment about being around a attractive student and what could be the starting of rumors. Lol. We were going to exchange dvd's of our favorite shows but he then said he wouldn't have time. A bit crestfallen I haven't talked with him for a while. I see him in the halls and such, but I'm to scared to approach him.
Silly I know, but I have the feeling that if and when the crush fades my prof could be a great mentor to me.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (10 January 2010):
 LUCF, actually the large age gap makes a lot of sense. men want fertile women. it's a simple fact of evolution.
to me, it seems that the hugging could be a bit on the flirty side... and he must enjoy your company if he keeps inviting you back!
is he married? kids?
how old is he?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I'm afraid you are indeed reading too much into this. Even at the university level the guy could lose his job if he gets involved with a student at the same university whether he has you in a class or not. He isn't stupid enough to take that risk even if he was interested which he doesn't seem to be. He's just a nice guy who likes and cares about his students. Enjoy your crush, it will soon fade.
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reader, LUFC  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 OK, this man is not as stupid as I thought. He knows that you have a crush on him, and is just trying to humour you. Why would a 40+ man want a MUCH younger girl? The thought sickens me. You need to keep away from this man and be with someone your own age. If he was into you at all, do you not think he would have made a move by now? The reason he hasn't is because he knows it is wrong, and is not trying to hurt your feelings. I don't know how many times I have to say this to people, MOVE ON!!! This advice may seem harsh, but in reality; the truth hurts.
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